[dalesgirl]

Originally Posted by earle58

you have greater restraint than me.

like di, i have used my words, every now and then.

actually, the particular incident i am recalling, i didn't use my words.
i used a hammer.
dd was 17, did something totally unacceptable, then had the audacity to snicker at me, as she dashed passed me upstairs to her room, and locking the door.
banging on a solid wood door, wasn't helpful.
and it hurt my hands.
i ran downstairs to grab a hammer and slowly made my way upstairs to tiff's room.
tiff, noticing the silence, kept on saying, "mom?", "mom, are you there?", "mom, ANSWER ME".
and i warned her to stand back, as i swung that danged hammer, and clawed that stupid door opened.
tiffany's screaming for dad.
dad's standing there behind me, with a petrified look on his face.
(i might have even been frothing at the mouth).

when i got the door opened, i let out this "aaaaaaaaarrrrrrggggggggghhhhhh" with arms outstretched, and literally pounced on top of tiffany.
she fell back on her bed, as i jumped on top of her.

after that, i didn't know what to do...
i was tired and my adrenaline had stopped dead in its tracks.
trying to keep up the facade, i whispered to tiffany, "you are soooooo dead".
and i walked out, taking my hammer w/me.

the rest is history.
we all have our moments in time.
that was one of mine.

you did well, tazz.
a heck of a lot better than me.

i understand....
oh boy, do i.

hugs.....
and a hammer, anyone?

leslie

My Gawd...it isn't just me! I have 4 daughters, ages 22 months to 16 years, and that oldest one especially knows EXACTLY which buttons to press. I feel soooo relieved...thanks for sharing your story (I have a similar one involving a golf club and a stereo; it was a really bad day)!

[DDRN4me]

that is the joy of having daughters... even as adults they never cease to amaze and annoy me!!

[jnette]

Originally Posted by DDRN4me

that is the joy of having daughters... even as adults they never cease to amaze and annoy me!!

Ain't that the truth?
Give me sons ANY day !!!

[TazziRN]

Originally Posted by DDRN4me

that is the joy of having daughters... even as adults they never cease to amaze and annoy me!!

At this moment, the "joy" is eluding me. I told my husband last night that I was furious enough to want to tell her to move out, that was why I isolated myself in our room.

[earle58]

Originally Posted by jnette

Ain't that the truth?
Give me sons ANY day !!!

both my sons, have been angels, comparitively speaking.

and i was the demon daughter of all times.
so i know of what i speak.

leslie

[jnette]

Originally Posted by earle58

both my sons, have been angels, comparitively speaking.

and i was the demon daughter of all times.
so i know of what i speak.

leslie

YOU ?????????????????????????????????????

Surely not ! Say it's not so !!! I'm finding that so hard to imagine....

[earle58]

Originally Posted by jnette

YOU ?????????????????????????????????????

Surely not ! Say it's not so !!! I'm finding that so hard to imagine....

you know, i wouldn't have wished me on my worst enemy.
i was tough, wild and out of control.
but i frequently recall the times i would fall to my knees, crying to God, reminding Him that i was really a very good person.
i would fight w/every tom, dick and harry, protecting any/all underdogs that were bullied.
even back then, i ran to the assistance of the elderly:
and would knock anyone's lights out, who dared to make fun of the mentally or physically handicapped.
i was the only one who befriended mm, an openly gay teenager, who flaunted his sexuality.
and kids were cruel to him.
i fought them, too.
but if one perceived me as a monster, then by golly, that's what they got.

i always took comfort in God, and Him knowing my sensitive heart.
He was the one and only constant in my life.

so when i see my dtr, w/her renegade tendencies, i roll my eyes to the Heavens and take a deep breath.
when she's not so pumped up, i gently advise her, remind her, and guide her.
sometimes she listens, sometimes no.

i understand 'absolute fury', in all walks of life, from all ages.
the only comfort at the time, tazz, is eventually, they do grow up, or calm down.
some take longer than others. ()

again, i do admire your restraint.

and jnette, i can be quite lovable, you know. (i can, i can, i can...stomping foot)
just ask Him.
He has my back.

leslie

[Ruby Vee]

And I want to know what she did. I guess I'm hoping it will make me feel better about MY 'little angel.'

[jnette]

Originally Posted by earle58

and jnette, i can be quite lovable, you know. (i can, i can, i can...stomping foot)
just ask Him.
He has my back.

leslie

I know you can, Leslie. I do know.

And yes, it IS a good thing He has your back... and HAS had your back. REAL good thing. You wouldn't BE here if He hadn't. True enough.

[DutchgirlRN]

Originally Posted by TazziRN

I won't go into detail because it would make for long and boring reading for you, but suffice to say my daughter's name is Mud right now. She has irritated me to no end over the last year and has even made me angry, but yesterday (for only the second time I can remember) I jumped right over "angry" and took a flying leap into absolute FURY!!! I have not talked to her since last night; I even hid out in our bedroom most of the evening because I knew I might say something I shouldn't. She has a friend visiting overnight, which is the ONLY reason I didn't rip her head off when she came home last night.



*deep breaths*

I can remain calm.........I can do this..............I can be calm...........

But you did raise a smart daughter, one who knows to invite a friend over to spend the night just when they know they need time for Mom to calm down. Mine did that to me too. When you calm down and ready to talk we're here hon.