Thanks for your reply, Debralyn,
It is funny here in Australia but a great number of people who work in the field of disabilites know or have someone with a disability. While I am on the issue of unacceptable terminology, in Australia we don't use 'mentally retarded', I know it is used in America, here we say intellectual disability.....just more political correctness.
Are there many group homes available to you? Who oversees them? Wendy