[HM2Viking]

Originally Posted by SMK1

I understand the kid issue...but at the same time it really isn't the manager's problem. Just like it isn't the responsibility of the other co-workers to switch their schedules around to accomodate holidays and school recitals etc... Working opposite schedules might have to be the answer or one of you going down to part time or PRN.

I think its better if coworkers work together to help each other meet their needs. After all we are supposed to build work teams.

[canoehead]

Bleah.

Give and take and switching schedules is great for special occasions, but not every week of every schedule. It's not my responsibility to schedule around someone else's childcare.

[SMK1]

Originally Posted by HM2Viking

I think its better if coworkers work together to help each other meet their needs. After all we are supposed to build work teams.

Helping out is fine, but I can't expect management to make sure I have the correct schedule to go my daughter's recitals, games, practices, parties, holidays etc... deciding when and how to attend those things is the responsiblity of the child's parents and should not fall on the shoulders of the manager or the other staff to constantly "help out" to meet their needs. If you can find someone who wants to switch great, but expecting a manager to only assign you days that your spouse is not working is unreasonable. What if everyone did that? Believe me when I say that I am a team player and go out of my way to help others when I can, but people with kids need to understand that they can't always inconvinience those without kids just because they chose to procreate. I'm sorry if this seems unsupportive, but it is just a different point of view.

[bagladyrn]

Your best bet to be able to plan things may be to find out if a coworker on your unit would also like to have a "set" schedule and talk to the manager about scheduling the two of you on a regular rotation opposite each other. Then with a known set schedule the other member of the couple can request that their manager schedule as much as possible opposite this. It helps the manager if this is a set thing and they know way in advance what the preference is. Again it won't always be possible to accomodate you, but it may reduce the number of days you need to depend on a sitter.

[RNgonewild]

The two of you need to sit down and make up a schedule for each of you. Then present your managers with your "availabilities". I'm sure whoever is making up the schedule would love to have someone who is sure of the days they want off each month. Another option is for one of the partners to go parttime, but you still need to make arrangements. Talk to your managers like the professional adults you are and arrangements can be made. Just make sure you hand things in well in advance.

[birdgardner]

Okay, I'm a student nurse so I don't get this. I assumed shifts would be something like "nights, Tuesday, Wednesday, Saturday." Something fixed and predictable so you could arrange the rest of your life. You're saying it's common to get one week's notice which days and which shifts you'll be working?

What kind of infinitely accomodating fairy godmother childcare do they expect you to have?

[Ruby Vee]

Originally Posted by HM2Viking

I think its better if coworkers work together to help each other meet their needs. After all we are supposed to build work teams.

Working together is great -- however most of her coworkers aren't going to be thrilled about multiple switch requests every time the schedule comes out. In fact, people are going to start avoiding her! It sounds like she and her spouse need to sit down and agree on some changes. One can work days, one nights. One can work weekends, one weekdays. One can work prn or agency . . . there's lots of ways to arrange your lives to avoid paying for childcare, but it's up to the two of you to arrange it. It' s not up to your managers or co-workers to facilitate your desired schedules.

[ktwlpn]

Jurt keep in mind that this problem is up to the 2 of you to solve and work at it.Accept that it is not management's responsibilty or your co-workers.They are YOUR kids.One of you may have to cut back your hours drastically while the other puts in OT until the kids are older. My schedule comes out the week before the current one ends and it is for 6 weeks-we must submit requests no later then 2 weeks into the current schedule for the next one.If anything comes up we must work it out on our own.I do have the same days off-I like a regular rotation and I won't work where I don't have one-can't even schedule a PAP without regular days off..When my son was little I worked evenings and my husband worked days-our son went to a licensed daycare at my husband's company for 2 hours 4 afternoons a week...I did not work for 2 years (we had NOTHING-one car,ragged clothing,etc-) I went to dayshift when he started first grade.We paid for day care every summer.I was never comfotable with any one other then family or very close friends-my ex-husbands son was sexually molested by the son of a babysitter...Your kids are TOO important to take chances with-I've seen too many problems with neighbors and casual "friends" Make up your mind that you are going to be making do with a lot less for a few more years....

[wayunderpaid]

Thank you for all the responses on this thread. Those who were understanding, and those who were not. It is interesting to see how different people have different opinions according to their experiences and their roles in nursing, their family values, etc.

I guess when I started this thread I was not explicit enough regarding the nature of the conflicts, the rules about scheduling in the hospital where I work, and miscellaneous information that would have made the thread more specific instead of generic.

So, I will finish explaining my position, and if anyone wants to comment, they are welcome, or we can let the thread die a natural death (since I fixed most of the issues myself), and hopefully this won't happen again to the extent it did.

First of all, I work on different units at the hospital on floors which are short on nurses. So it is a welcome relief for the manager of a specific floor to know that they will have an extra nurse for a block. It does not fix their problem, it merely puts a temporary patch. The problem is, the rules for scheduling nurses like me, who are full time (not PRN), are the same: Every other weekend, 1/2 off shifts, NEVER three kinds of shifts on the same week, thanksgiving and the day after (and Christmas off), etc.

In my case, the nurse who does the schedule thought that I, and other flex nurses would fill the wholes after the rest of her staff got whatever they wanted. That is not how I am supposed to be treated. I simply count as everyone else. So, miracle of miracles, I got nothing I asked for. I am working every weekend, Thanksgiving and the following Saturday (so, no weekend off to go see family), and a couple of weeks when I am working days, evenings and nights, on the same week. On top of that, there were off-shift days when both my wife and I were working, so day-care would not work.

I just want to clarify that I do not get any pay extra for doing flexible nursing. It is not agency work or travel work, I am part of the full time nursing staff of the hospital, and the rule is that the unit is supposed to treat me as such.

I also want to reiterate that I fully understand the concept of staffing units to protect patient safety (that is why I started the thread on this area), perhaps I was a little upset, because in previous units of this hospital, I did not have any problems. I was able to fully abide by rules, do my nights and weekends without problems and if there was a conflict (a day or 2 in a schedule), I always took a proactive approach and found someone to switch. I this unit, it is really hard to do, because I am working an inordinate amount of holidays, weekends and nights, so who wants to switch with me?

I have the highest standard regarding professional responsibility. A weekend that was particularly difficult for my wife and I, we made plans to drive my kids 4 hours (8 hrs round-trip) to nearest relatives to have them in a safe place, so that I could come back and work (of course, all my money would have gone to gasoline nowadays).

Thankfully, things got turned around, and we did not have to make the needless trip. So, between my wife and I, the mean scheduler, and really nice neighbors, we resolved everything. No Sat after thanksgiving though, I will say at home, since that was not a conflict.

I have a great manager (not unit manager, but flex nurse manager), who stuck up for me and the nasty scheduler's attitude changed immediately. How do you like this threat: if you are going to use flex nurses in the future (hint), you have to treat them as well as you do your own. Please work with so and so to ensure safety in staffing and resolve conflicts to the best of your ability. She was a lamb when I went to see her. It took her 20 minutes of her time, since I had resolved other issues on my own. To show my goodwill, I also picked up extra time during times when they were short.

I had the sensation in this particular unit, that I was merely a number, that I did not count as a human. That she could treat me as a "thing" that does "things" whenever needed. This experience reaffirmed my idea that nurses are human, and standing up is necessary when management treats you inhumanely (i.e. sorry, I can't help you) BTW previous places in the same hosp were absolutely amazing about the schedule. Most requests were granted, and just about everyone was treated fairly and nurses were happy on those units. Patient satisfaction was much better too. What?? Is there a correlation between patient satisfaction and happy nurses?? Really?? What a novel idea!

So, in wrapping up, thanks to all positions and opinions, they were appreciated, and many of them useful. Sorry for the long response, I am glad you didn't fall asleep!

Wayunderpaid

[vamedic4]

Wayunderpaid...thanks for the update!! I'm glad things got solved, albeit not to everyone's total satisfaction.

"I have a great manager (not unit manager, but flex nurse manager), who stuck up for me and the nasty scheduler's attitude changed immediately. How do you like this threat: if you are going to use flex nurses in the future (hint), you have to treat them as well as you do your own. Please work with so and so to ensure safety in staffing and resolve conflicts to the best of your ability. She was a lamb when I went to see her. It took her 20 minutes of her time, since I had resolved other issues on my own. To show my goodwill, I also picked up extra time during times when they were short."

Good for your manager!! Now that's a nurse with some balls!! And that person is correct - you should absolutely be treated the same as other nurses...and it blows my mind that this isn't common *******'s sense to everyone. Then again, when was common sense a job requirement??

And as someone else put it, smart managers are family friendly. While it isn't their problem that you have kids, it will very quickly become their problem if you decide to call in and leave them short. All because they didn't want to work with you?

Glad everything worked out!

vamedic4
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