[BROOK9960]

i quit smoking for 4 months at one time. I became extremely hateful and just down-right mean. I decided it was best for me to die from smoking, then to make my children's childhoods miserable. I want to quit really, really bad, but to be honest, I Like smoking..........what is wrong with me? Can someone help me? When I quit before, I prayed hard that the Lord would take my craving away.......He did, well since then, I have had 3 major surgeries, which caused me to lose my house, car, etc and I had to put my cat of 17 years to sleep. I am very bitter towards God for this and feel I cannot rely on Him anymore. I know this is wrong too, but I find it impossible to not blame Him for what I and my family has been through. Can someone help my heart to soften back up? Maybe if I could do that, then I could once again rely on God to help me quit smoking.

[zoeboboey]

Originally Posted by miracle1986

Statistics show the non-smokers living longer lives. If I had the money to flush down a toilet AND had good lungs (damaged from an innocent car accident).....I would probably be a smoker. Congrats to the quitters. To the smokers....you passed your boards...you are no dummies...get a new vice...do the math and wear a patch.

LOL - "if you had the money ... and the lungs... "

I have heard it said that your desire to quit has to be stronger than your desire to smoke. Even if that desire to quit is only 1% stronger!

Thanks Miracle, and we will pray for "miracles" for those who want to stop smoking!

[zoeboboey]

Originally Posted by BROOK9960

I am very bitter towards God for this and feel I cannot rely on Him anymore. I know this is wrong too, but I find it impossible to not blame Him for what I and my family has been through. Can someone help my heart to soften back up? Maybe if I could do that, then I could once again rely on God to help me quit smoking.

I would be hard pressed to forgive God having gone thru all that Brook ... and I've felt that way often. You can pray, yourself, that God will soften your heart, but if you are like me, you couldn't for a time. So I asked a lot of others to pray FOR me. It was comforting to know that they were, and I did believe in THEIR prayers eventually.

Take care and I'll pray for you if it's ok with you!

[Retired R.N.]

Originally Posted by BROOK9960

i quit smoking for 4 months at one time. I became extremely hateful and just down-right mean. I decided it was best for me to die from smoking, then to make my children's childhoods miserable. I want to quit really, really bad, but to be honest, I Like smoking..........what is wrong with me? Can someone help me? When I quit before, I prayed hard that the Lord would take my craving away.......He did, well since then, I have had 3 major surgeries, which caused me to lose my house, car, etc and I had to put my cat of 17 years to sleep. I am very bitter towards God for this and feel I cannot rely on Him anymore. I know this is wrong too, but I find it impossible to not blame Him for what I and my family has been through. Can someone help my heart to soften back up? Maybe if I could do that, then I could once again rely on God to help me quit smoking.

Sometimes we fail to recognize our strengths and the many sources of help that exist for us if we can only find them. First of all, you know that you are definitely capable of quitting because you did it, even if only for awhile. Don't just automatically blame the absence of the nicotine in your system for your bad moods. That makes it too easy to justify lighting up another cigarette. There is nothing wrong with you simply because you happen to enjoy smoking.

Now, you probably did not become a habitual smoker overnight. It's also highly unlikely that you will become a non-smoker the first time you try it. So? You must not consider yourself a failure just because your first attempt to quit didn't work out. Anything worth doing is worth more than just one isolated effort. Isn't it?

After more unsuccessful attempts to quit smoking than I like to remember, I finally quit through hypnosis. I don't know if all therapists follow the same routine or not, but my experience was very pleasant. He did have one parting bit of advice for me: "You may occasionally think you feel a need for a cigarette, but if you do light one up, the experience will be so disgusting that you won't even be able to finish that one smoke because your throat will be so irritated by the smoke." Of course, I just had to test that theory. Once was enough! That was over twenty years ago, and I am delighted to say that I no longer had any inclinations whatsoever to return to smoking.

Best wishes for success!

[miracle1986]

'ZOEBOBOEY' -- I was hit by a drunk driver and coded 3 times on life flight chopper. Bled out 23 pints of blood. Had 47 broken bones total, pneumothorax....etc...and I do come from a long line of smokers. I was told by the Docs that if I had been a smoker, my lungs would have stayed collapsed. Wore a Hoffman for my 27 pelvic fractures...physical damage too long to list....nor do I think you care.
My son received MAKE*A*WISH after Children's found an aneurysmal bone tumor in his pelvis. (Largest ever seen on record in Children's)
My father is dying with end stage liver failure.
Both my grandmother's dying...heart failure...90 and 93 years old.
Mother still on couch in depression for 2 years following my step dad's sudden death.....he went to sleep and had a massive M.I.
SO, yes I am a "miracle" from the car accident in 1986 and living proof there is a God.
I thought this was a support forum.
Won't waste my time on what I thought would help others.
Hope you have more compassion as a nurse than you do as a person.
Every time you get behind your steering wheel, think of me.....I was taking my kids to the doctor.
Sleep tight Z O E B O B O E Y

[zoeboboey]

Originally Posted by miracle1986

Sleep tight Z O E B O B O E Y

Wow, my intent was FAR from being mean to you or minimizing what you might have gone thru, I assumed that it HAD been bad and that you WERE a miracle. And that we could also pray for a miracle for those who wanted to quit smoking (for me it WAS a miracle ... )

So anyway, you are even more of a miracle, and stronger, than I had thought! I don't know why you thought I was putting you down but please, know I didn't intend that one bit.. ok? I am sorry if I offended you in any way and I'm sorry for what you have gone through.

I'm not sure if you are leaving the forum so I'm sending you a copy of what I wrote here by private message. I wish you wouldn't! Take care and God bless!

[miracle1986]

Oh Z O E B O B O E Y........

Will not be on this forum anymore. Will be praying for all you future cancer patients becasue I AM a MIRACLE because I chose not to be a smoker.

[miracle1986]

I typed mine before reading yours. Sorry. Guess it was meant to be. You did hurt me.....cause my life is a miracle.
Just please pray for my son Ryan with his numerous bone scans and trips to children's..... I am a single mom .... ex-husband was a magistrate and embezzled 75 grand and I divorced him. Poverty is my middle name.
Life is grand.
But God is greater.

[collegebound]

It has been 2.5 weeks for me. I have been taking the new prescription drug Chantix. Of all the times I have tried in the past, this is the first time I have not had any cravings!! I love it. I do on occasion think about smoking but it is just a fleeting thought. I am confident that is the time for me to kick the habit for good!

Just a by-the by--I can't figure out what zoeboboey said that angered Miracles1986 so much. If either of you happen to read this, I reread both several times and can't find anything offensive. Perhaps there was a misread/misunderstanding. This is definetely a support forum and we do appreciate everyone's input!

[zoeboboey]

Originally Posted by miracle1986

I typed mine before reading yours. Sorry. Guess it was meant to be. You did hurt me.....cause my life is a miracle.
Just please pray for my son Ryan with his numerous bone scans and trips to children's..... I am a single mom .... ex-husband was a magistrate and embezzled 75 grand and I divorced him. Poverty is my middle name.
Life is grand.
But God is greater.

Ok, Miracle, will do! God bless you ...