Re: When your patient dies.....
Time to collect myself really depends on a few variables: On nights, it depends on how busy the unit is, how well I'm functioning, and which Charge nurse is on (the one that likes me and will let me take 5 minutes to cry and get a cup of coffee, or the one that is secretly enjoying my pain and will happily overload me so she and her buds can go smoke?)
Does the hospital acknowledge the work I've done. *snort* Well, that's the best laugh I've had all day. The family might, especially if it was a long-term patient. Oddly, the patients I remember the most who died were actually only my patients for a few minutes or a few hours, so there wasn't that much in the way of "care" involved. Now the Onco units get a lot of recognition from the hospital--and IMO, they should. I could never do Onco.
When a patient dies on my unit (Cardiac), they usually are not supposed to be dying, so it's very traumatic for all of us. I do wish that we could have a Code debriefing after our shift is done, with all the principals involved. Usually we just debrief ourselves and comfort one another, and take a break.
No one is an island with a Coding or dying patient. Everyone is affected. Everyone has a role and everyone has an equally valid story to tell.