[chenoaspirit]

I run into this occassionally and I just dont know how to handle it. The other day one man kept asking me if I 'would run around", etc. Another occassion, one asked me "I bet you like sex, you are a very pretty girl and I bet you are good at it", etc. I dont like that and have no idea what to say. Ive had men ask me to get into their bed with them. Now, I KNOW I am not doing anything to provoke such behavior. I am friendly, provide professional care for all my patients, male or female. Some may be mentally non-oriented, but some are completely of sound mind and are perverts. How do you guys handle such advances? It makes me VERY uncomfortable and it feels like an insult to me. I, in no way, take it as a compliment.

[TheCommuter]

I typically respond, "You're being inappropriate. Don't talk to me in that manner ever again."

[jnrsmommy]

One response that's worked best for me "How would you like it if someone asked your daughtter the same question you just asked me?" Usually that's enough to make them feel contrite. For the persistently stubbon ones, I tell them that their remarks are not wanted nor appreciated, and promptly leave the room, irregardless of what i'm doing. Then I make sure that I always have someone in the room w/ me.

[nightmare]

No one needs to go through this! Report them to your manager and document their behavior. Just because they are a patient does not mean they can't be charged with sexual harassment.If you have a witness so much the better.A cool and aloof manner needs to be used to let them know they've overstepped the mark!

[NYDreamer]

I agree with everyone above. Tell this person what they already know, that it is inappropriate.

Why should you be uncomfortable while a patient has his "fun"? Everytime it has happened to me, I let them know they were harassing me and if it didn't stop, it would be reported.

[JessieRN]

Well, gaining 40 pounds since I got married seems to have helped....

But really, telling them it is harrassment, and just because they are a patient doesn't mean they have a right to talk to you in such a way. If it conts, I have spoken with higher ups, and even the doctor on one occassion

[pagandeva2000]

I let them know off the bat that it is not wanted or appreciated. If they are persistant, and I get a bit funky when no one is around and I chart every encounter.

[RN1980]

next time you are within earshot from this dork ask outloud "has anyone seen my perscription for valtrex or my std work-up report sheet" hopefully that'll nip it in the bud from there on out for him and any prospects.

[psalm]

Tell him you are his nurse and you find his comments inappropriate and will be back when he can control his comments.

Let your charge nurse know what happened and that you plan on the following:

Document in nursing notes and quote him, document in an incident report and also leave a note for his physician.

If you take it verbally it will escalate to action. I'm sorry you had to go thru this. Have the above your standard procedure for ALL pts. who start with the sex talk.

[earle58]

or...
you can be more 'delicate' like me and just tell 'em, "knock your crap off".
whatever.
it works.

leslie