[hoolahan]

Exactly! Make nice to the meanies, come here to vent! Sometimes you still get a beating here too, but if you put a whining warning, it helps!

PS Congrats on the commendation, far cry from where you were with this place a few months ago, huh?

[Pretzlgl]

LOL on the PTSD Mario!

[Flo1216]

I have to say that in my 3 years so far as a student, the majority of the staff nurses have not been receptive to students. And I do my clinicals at large teaching hospitals, so you think they would be more accomodating to students. I guess they forget the they have all been students at one point. When we leave the floor we always have to report to the RN assigned to that patient and we are lucky if they even acknowledge us,yet if something goes wrong we are the ones who get blamed. The other day I was assigned to SICU and when my instructor introduced me to the nurse she rolled her eyes and whined, " I have a student today?" She then proceeded to ignore me for the entire day and I learned absolutely nothing. I even tried asking questions and got one word answers. I don't lose sleep over it, but I have to say, it really sucks sometimes. It is so hard to find a good mentor nowadays...no one wants to be bothered. But then when new grads start working,the nurses that treated them like **** ***** about how new grads don't know anything. (sigh)

[mario_ragucci]

Thank you all again so much for being here. Yall have saved my limbic.sys more than once, and it means a great deal to me.

Fear of the unknown is what gets me too. Like, when the verbal exchange ended, I asked the person if they were going to further things in written form. Thats straight up fear. Fear of not knowing to what extent another will go to make your life miserable because of jealousy or whatever. How can you protect yourself from having another who "just doesn't like you" acting on their non-verbal dislike? Sometimes i want to note to a third party when this is encountered. Not in a critical way, absolutely not. But to promote an understanding toward improvement.

And I thank you again for this forum.

[NancyRN]

Mario I remember as a student being told to go sit in on report. I had no idea what that meant. I can't imagine the bad impression I must have made. It seemed like a gossip session to me. I didn't know what was going on at all!

Nursing Instructors forget that they speak another language! Don't be afraid to ask lots of questions. The beauty of being older is that you don't have to pretend to know it all, unlike 20 year olds who DO know it all....

[LoisJean]

Yup, pressure, pressure, pressure. Some pressure is a very good thing because it makes some people stronger emotionally. Some pressure is good because it makes some people think before acting; and some pressure is a good thing because it can increase stamina. But the kind of thing Mario is talking about is rude, crude and not necessary. However, because it is something that happens just about all the time, just about everywhere, to just about every nursing student then words of wisdom can only come from those who have sweated through the experience and have come out the better for it. Mario, you are going to be a wonderful nurse and I hope some time to meet you.

Here's a recall: 1968; Operating Room; nursing student observing. She is scrubbed, gowned, masked and gloved. She is standing near the surgical field and doing just fine. Surgeon sez: "Aren't you the nursing student?" She sez, "Yes, Sir." He sez, "Well, I need a fallopian tube, could you go out to Central Supply and see if they have a sterile one?" (We're thinking: 'Oh, brother, here we go again with the stupid student running off to get the tube' {smirk,smirk, smirk}). She sez "Sir, I respectfully decline your request. However, if you'd like I will go out and bring you an anatomy book." She did a very good job of planting her foot right square into all of our butts that day- and nicely, too.

Peace,
Lois Jean

[hoolahan]

Lois...LMAO!!! Good for her!

Mario, you have to work on the fear thing. Mean people can smell fear. They will target you from afar like an owl can see a barn mouse a mile away!

You're not supposed to know everything! You're a student. If they won't answer your questions, and you MUST ask them when you are uncertain, go to your instructor.

Man, I LOVED to have students. When you were assigned to me in ICU, you damn well learned something! I put you to work!

[LoisJean]

From me to you, Mario:



Peace,
Lois Jean

[Youda]

Lois, you hit on something that really works. HUMOR! If you can think up someway to laugh at the person's "joke" then you have disarmed their meanness.

[baseline]

LOL...I think thats how this thread started! With humor!