[nurturing_angel]

Originally Posted by Emmanuel Goldstein

Oh yeah.

And I will never downplay how awful an NG tube can be... ugh

This reminds me of the time we had a OB nurse that would always make fun of screamers and tell them to stop screaming. it didn't hurt that bad, etc....

until she had her own first baby and OMG could that woman scream. I wanted to say STOP SCREAMING but I didn't. She got the point though!

[TazziRN]

Originally Posted by nurturing_angel

This reminds me of the time we had a OB nurse that would always make fun of screamers and tell them to stop screaming. it didn't hurt that bad, etc....

until she had her own first baby and OMG could that woman scream. I wanted to say STOP SCREAMING but I didn't. She got the point though!

Oh, nononononono........no one has the right to say something doesn't hurt that bad until they've been through it themselves. And even then, everyone feels pain differently.

I will never forget an 8-year-old boy who broke his leg, spoke limited English. The ortho who came in to set it was a total a-hole, I always hated it when he was on call. At that time we were doing reductions under conscious sedation. This ortho thought that 1-2 mg of morphine was enough to sedate, but when he grabbed this boy's ankle and lifted the leg off the bed the kid started screaming. The doc rolled his eyes at me and made a comment about the boy being a wus. This 8-yr-old started screaming at him "YOU don't have the pain, I have the pain!!"

[ingelein]

Originally Posted by nurturing_angel

This reminds me of the time we had a OB nurse that would always make fun of screamers and tell them to stop screaming. it didn't hurt that bad, etc....

until she had her own first baby and OMG could that woman scream. I wanted to say STOP SCREAMING but I didn't. She got the point though!

I had a OB nurse that was an angel, when during the unmedicated birth of my 2nd daughter,I moaned and cried,I did not scream,the OB doctor said "NO NOISE!!" My nurse turned to him and told him to be quiet himself, he had no idea how painful the process was, I dont know who was more shocked me or him.I thanked her later and told her I hoped she would not get in trouble, this was 35 years ago.

[BlueHenRN]

Originally Posted by ingelein

I had a OB nurse that was an angel, when during the unmedicated birth of my 2nd daughter,I moaned and cried,I did not scream,the OB doctor said "NO NOISE!!" My nurse turned to him and told him to be quiet himself, he had no idea how painful the process was, I dont know who was more shocked me or him.I thanked her later and told her I hoped she would not get in trouble, this was 35 years ago.

During my L & D rotation, one of my patients was delivering naturally, and was screaming. The OB resident looked at her and said, "why are you screaming? It's only a contraction!" I wanted to start contracting HER uterus.
Then that same doctor missed the presence of meconium, even though I kept saying "isn't that meconium?" And when the NNP came down to see the baby due to the meconium,l ow temperature, and cord issues, I had to answer all of her questions because the resident was ignoring her. (She didn't even "remember" the baby's gender). The patient's real nurse wasn't in the room at the time (her other patient was delivering at that same moment and there were plenty of physicians in the room, plus the mom went from a few centimeters to ten SO quickly).
Jess

[KarynicaRN]

I had my gallbladder taken out back in 2000. It was a horrific experience because it was an open cut from stem to stern operation. I was on a morphine pump for 3 days. I don't make a good patient. I think that I know more than any RN who walks through the door to help me. It's not an ego trip, it's just the idea that I think I know more about my own body and how I respond to certain treatments.

One night I knew the nurses were going to try to get me to walk in the hall. I had my plan already devised in how I was going to get out of walking! I literally sat there comtemplating how I was going to tell them NO WALK TONIGHT! It didn't work. Nurses had 2 aides walk me up and down the hall, much to my displeasure. I was in pain, but I reluctantly got up and walked down the hall to make them happy.

I know it was childish of me, but I am not a good patient. I am not mean, nor hateful, just very stubborn.

(I ended up back in the hospital 2 days after discharge due to pneumnia.) Yeah, right, I know what's best for me

[ingelein]

Originally Posted by BlueHenRN

During my L & D rotation, one of my patients was delivering naturally, and was screaming. The OB resident looked at her and said, "why are you screaming? It's only a contraction!" I wanted to start contracting HER uterus.
Then that same doctor missed the presence of meconium, even though I kept saying "isn't that meconium?" And when the NNP came down to see the baby due to the meconium,l ow temperature, and cord issues, I had to answer all of her questions because the resident was ignoring her. (She didn't even "remember" the baby's gender). The patient's real nurse wasn't in the room at the time (her other patient was delivering at that same moment and there were plenty of physicians in the room, plus the mom went from a few centimeters to ten SO quickly).
Jess

God bless you OB nurses, it should be a requirement for nurses and docs to take sensitivity training once a year.

[shelly304]

Ten years ago I lost a baby. Placental Abruption. I was 8 months pregnant. I hemorrhaged-absolutely horrific experience. I wish I could say the nursing staff was wonderful but....quite the contrary. On each mother's bed a ribbon would be tied in either pink or blue. For days I could not figure why the nurses kept asking me about my son. I guess they never bothered to read the chart! From ICU to when I was discharged, the only kind words came from the Chief Resident. She came by to see me each day-what a wonderful soul she was. I remember her name was Elizabeth. Obviously, if this experience had influenced my decision to become a nurse I would not be here. I do remember this dark time when I have patients who are hurt, scared, and feel alone. The staff that cared for me during that time was lacking empathy and compassion, how very sad for them.

[BlueHenRN]

Originally Posted by ingelein

God bless you OB nurses, it should be a requirement for nurses and docs to take sensitivity training once a year.

Yeah, I think that incident was one of the reasons I decided AGAINST L & D! Ugh!
Jess

[ingelein]

Originally Posted by shelly304

Ten years ago I lost a baby. Placental Abruption. I was 8 months pregnant. I hemorrhaged-absolutely horrific experience. I wish I could say the nursing staff was wonderful but....quite the contrary. On each mother's bed a ribbon would be tied in either pink or blue. For days I could not figure why the nurses kept asking me about my son. I guess they never bothered to read the chart! From ICU to when I was discharged, the only kind words came from the Chief Resident. She came by to see me each day-what a wonderful soul she was. I remember her name was Elizabeth. Obviously, if this experience had influenced my decision to become a nurse I would not be here. I do remember this dark time when I have patients who are hurt, scared, and feel alone. The staff that cared for me during that time was lacking empathy and compassion, how very sad for them.

Oh my gosh, I am so SORRY this happened to you.I think when we ,as nurses can use our own heartbreaks and life experiences , it can help us be more sensitive and caring to our patients.

[ingelein]

Originally Posted by BlueHenRN

Yeah, I think that incident was one of the reasons I decided AGAINST L & D! Ugh!
Jess

Being so close to Mothers day and this discussion reminds me about one bad experience I had with a postpartum nurse and that was 36 years ago, when an old battleax of an ex military nurse screamed at me to put my bra on, it is the rules, no mothers will be bra less after the birth of the baby!! My milk had not come in yet and my breasts were SO sore, I pleaded with her to no avail!I was young and too afraid to refuse her demands.