Re: ethical dilemma
Good grief!!! This poor man - if I wanted to eat or pee in a toilet, I'd be insanely upset to have someone say no. This doc needs to get the swallow eval done - WHAT is his problem? Is there family involved that you can go to?
I don't know a lot about how LTC works and how docs are assigned, but is there another doc you can go to? Annonymous tip to an ombudsman?
Even if the poor guy can't eat enough to fulfill nutritional requirements, even a few bites, given properly, of proper food, would give him back his "right" to eat. As for the toileting, is there someone who can take him to the bathroom or BSC? Can he ambulate at all?
It may be my kneejerk reaction, but this situation would tear me up, too. Quality of life is important -this is this man's home, for heaven's sake. Maybe the guy would prefer one day to die with the taste of puree'd beef on his tongue, than live an extra few months without ever tasting food again.
Please keep us updated, I'm interested in how this is finally resolved. Sorry I couldn't be more help. Oh, btw, do not feed this man behind the doc's back. IF something happens, it's your license, and while it's sad, YOUR life counts too.