[judytheoldrn]

Vacating an ICU bed is the last thing on my mind.

What I am saying is that if she is given a choice, then she will always feel as tho it was she who decided to stop care, and she will have to live with that decision for the rest of her life. Whereas in reality there is no care to give (other than the proverbial TLC of course). I think it is unfair to the family to expect them to agree or disagree - it should be, "this is the situation and this is what WE are going to do." Not saying you can't wait a couple days for religious reasons, close family to get in from timbucktoo, etc., but not because the family hasn't reached a decision yet. I thinkg in most cases it just muddies the water to allow them to think they are still alive those extra days. JMO. Trust me, I've been this route too many times to think about in the last 35 years!