[NOIRLINCOLN]

Originally Posted by 3rdShiftGuy

Here is a daughter trying to assert herself, carry here own weight, but is finding that difficult due to mom making the decision on her future education for her. How is it possible for daughter to carry her own weight in this situation?

I'm sure daughter is grateful for what the parents were are willing to do. My dad was willing to assist me to get into the Army, and I was grateful. I told him no thank you and he had the grace to accept that and let me live my own life and make my own decisions and consequently make some predictable mistakes that wasn't his job to shield me from.

When parents let go of their adult children and allow them to make their own decisions then that is a sign of a mature parent. imo

Stay tuned you will LOVE the outcome of this!

[NOIRLINCOLN]

Originally Posted by 3rdShiftGuy

I don't think so. This mom just sincerely wants what's best for her daughter, and what she is capable of providing for her daughter. I think she's a bit one-side and closed-minded, but domineering control freak is too harsh. (Besides most parents are domineering control freaks in the process of letting go, imo. Parents always think they know what's best for their adult kids and are constantly asserting that.)

I do agree however, that getting as far away from parents as possible to go to college is a very good idea.

I do want the best for her and a lot of my influence was based on "what I was able to provide for my daughter" as you know. I do need to work on being more flexible with my fixed opinions. I was a travelling saleswoman for many years and I had to be very resolute in my thinking.

[NOIRLINCOLN]

Originally Posted by caligirl

I thought you were a nurse... My bad. I must be confused. You mentioned that I have resourse you dont which is my husband.. well you have a resource I don't have which is a job. My husband is our only income and he in the military so it isn't like we are rolling in the dough or anything.. Not meant to be a ******* contest but I wanted to emphasize we all have our unique challenges.

Me thinks you only want people to agree with you. You sound like any opinion given to you that opposes yours is unwelcome so whatever. If I were your daughter I would trot my happy self down to San Antonio and go to UT Health Science Center and get my BSN. I would take out loans and live on my own. School and the Cost of living is fairly low in San Antonio. I lived there for 5 years.

Another bit of advice although I doubt you will take it.. Don't get so caught up in "teaching lessons." You seem to keep posting how you want her to learn this lesson or the value of this or that.. Just be a parent and take it day by day. If you get caught up in teaching lessons, I garauntee you are going to LOSE her. I am sure she is not interested in life's lessons at 17 years old.. I certainly wasnt...

I am a full-time ADN student. I had to resign from my job as a travel agent so that I could b/c a full-time student, that is one of the reasons that I know how important money is. My daughter is kind of an "old soul". She is very interested in life's lessons. She loves history. This is what makes her such a unique individual. Stay tuned you will love the outcome of this....

[NOIRLINCOLN]

Originally Posted by JudithL_in_NH

Been following this thread from the beginning and holding my tongue ;-)

I know from whence I speak: I'm a previous bachelor's degree (took me until 28 to get it; had no $$ & no family support), currently ADN senior, mom of three (20, 18, and 11 year olds)--my daughter is a HS senior, applying to BSN programs.

God love you, OP, and I appreciate that you are looking out for your daughter--but it all seems to be about what you want, not your daughter's needs or wishes. From the info given here, I do sense control issues.

She's an adult. I hope she'll profit from your counsel, but the decisions, benefits, and consequences are rightfully hers.

Your point is well taken. You will really love and APPRECIATE the outcome of this....

[NOIRLINCOLN]

I went to the mailbox yesterday and I set the large white enveloppe down on the dining room table. (Thank you all who have been collectively praying for my daughter's wish to come true)

:hatparty: :hatparty: There in the enveloppe was an (4) yr tuition scholarship!!!:hatparty:

My daughter WON the war!!! I shook hands with her yesterday and told her that she fought a hard fight and I am very proud of her! I told her that this is her scholarship and she can do whatever she wants to with it. She has always scored extremely high on history. She got 105% in AP history. Here I go again, but I think that this would be her perfect opportunity to pursue history, since this is what she loves. I told her that she can always get her RN license by going to weekend school, or she may choose to use the scholarship for the BSN program, or something altogether different. IT IS HER CHOICE, AND SHE CAN SPEND IT HOWEVER SHE WANTS TO!!!

[mercyteapot]

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[nurse educate]

Originally Posted by NOIRLINCOLN

:hatparty: :hatparty: There in the enveloppe was an (4) yr tuition scholarship!!!:hatparty:
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That's great news!!! I'm sure you are both thrilled!! Is it a full 4 yr scholarship??

[hopeful student]

I was attending a community college and didnt get accepted into the program despite my high GPA. I also had the same attitude about 4year colleges until I gave it a shot last semester. I am so thankful to have the opportunity to excel in academics of every subject not just Nursing courses. I have a new found appreciation for education which is something I sort of lacked when I attended a community college.
Not that there is anything wrong with ADN programs because there isnt. However, It sounds like your daughter has a strong drive to challenge herself which to me seems like an incredible attribute! I say if your daughter wants to excel in academia then by all means let her make that decision. She will be able to become a well rounded scholar which will lead to good decision making which is essential not only in nursing but all aspects of life. On a different note, ADN programs are harder to get into than BSN programs. If your daughter isnt taking A&P until this summer then there could be a chance that she doesnt get in this fall. At least if she doesnt she will have the BSN option.

[ipnurs]

Cheerfull, how did you get the cute avatar? I've tried copy and paste and can't get it to work.

Thanks!

[TexasCCRN]

If she want's to furthur her education she needs to go to BSN program. Let her take out loans, etc if you can't afford it. Also if she has to foot the bill you will definitly find out how serious she is. Good luck