I VBAC'd X2 after 2 c-sections - first for fetal distress and failure to progress and second for failure to progress - a 'failed VBAC' Don't ya love those terms
I had a CNM and a doula with #3. My midwife understood how important it was for me to have a successful VBAC and really went out of her way to make that happen for me. She even found an OB to do three versions because the little terd insisted on wanting to come out bass ackwards!!
We still deliver VBACs were I work, quite regularly. We even induce quite a few of them. As for me, if I had known then what I know now - I never would have let them attempt a version on a uterus with two scars. BUT I am so grateful that I was able to have two NSVDs.
Find a CNM, and hurry. I would recommend changing doctors soon regardless. This one sounds like a 'my way or the highway' kinda guy and it seems from reading between the lines that he is may just be paying lip service to your VBACing.
Also, the reason for the C-sections is really going to play a role in whether or not you have a good shot at a successful VBAC.
Good luck and remember, regardless of how it happens - the goal is a healthy mom and healthy babe - I know that doesn't make you feel much better right now tho. Good luck.