[alphafe]

Well, we'll just ignore my earlier thread about my missed period last week while on the pill and pretend I'm writing with an interest in the 50-something women in the news recently. The 57 yo who had twins via IVF and the even older woman in Georgia who claims a natural twin pg from hubby who had a vas years ago

How DO older (well not THAT) old women do? Not that I'm scared or anything, I mean how could I possible get pg at my age on the pill when I only passed dh in the night once all month?

[VivaLasViejas]

I can't even imagine being pregnant at my age, let alone if I had another decade on me!! And why ever would anyone even want to be?? I'm ready for grandchildren.....my poor old body would NOT do well if it had to nurture a new life at this point, and I would hate to put it through the postpartum depression and 2 AM feedings routine again! Plus, it would hardly be fair to give birth to a child who's going to be graduating from college at the approximate time that my sorry butt gets carried over the nursing-home threshhold.

Not for me, thank you very much. Having babies at 50+ just begs the question, "Just because it CAN be done......SHOULD it?"

[Still Riding]

I agree with

"Just because it CAN be done......SHOULD it?"

it's not the older mothers i would feel sorry for but the kids. imagine the kid who's mom and father (no one ever mentioned how old these men are, which is equally wrong) who's parents are that old. they are too old to run and play, through a football...

i think there is an age where it is too old thin of it this way a 50 year old has a kid, when the kid is 20 the mom is 70, if she survives. and to be that young and possibly haveing to handle an ailing parent would be very difficult.

[cheerfuldoer]

I say to each her own. I had an aunt who learned she was pregnant in her early fifties (twenty years AFTER her fourth child), and that baby girl was fine, and had many years left with her parents before they both died.

When I lived in Southern California, there was an Asian couple on the news who had a toddler....no borrowed eggs, either. It is their own genetic baby created the natural normal way, and they were in their sixties. They both looked in fantastic shape.

I am fifty-two, and if I could get pregnant at my age, I would. We need to get rid of the stigmatism that is only associated with women having children in their later years. If men can do it, why shouldn't the woman. It may not be right for everyone in their fifties, but it is right for some. Live and let live! Heck, we're not the ones who have to get up with the baby at night, change its' diaper, etc.

[ayndim]

I am 33 and to me I am too old for any more kids. My last pg was just too hard (and he is 14 mos). Can't imagine putting this body through it at 50+. Kids should be in college and I should be sitting on the porch with some sort of alcoholic drink in my coffee at that age. Or just a nice drink in a coffee cup so it only looks like I am drinking coffee,

It is different for men. At least in my house. It wouldn't matter if hubby was 80. He doesn't have to carry and birth the babe. And he still wouldn't do S$!# inside the house Great financial provider but housework, kidwork no way. Only fun stuff for Daddy. I personally think women who have babies past 50 are crazy. I think I would have a meltdown if I got pg past 40 (or right now for that matter.) But to each their own.

[meownsmile]

I'm not really what I consider old, but am dealing with tweens/teens right now. I loved being preg, but frankly i'll leave the late life babies to those who think they can, or do. Leave me and my bladder in peace!!!!

[hmccartn]

Why is it that we arent seeing the media show outrage at our babies having babies...you know, the 14 yr olds who come in having their first...or 18 yr olds on their 3rd....

i think the vast majority of those babes born to older mom's are desperately wanted and will be showered with love...

wish i could say the same for the later...

seems like our societies energy is focused in the wrong direction....

[SmilingBluEyes]

Originally Posted by hmccartn

Why is it that we arent seeing the media show outrage at our babies having babies...you know, the 14 yr olds who come in having their first...or 18 yr olds on their 3rd....

i think the vast majority of those babes born to older mom's are desperately wanted and will be showered with love...

wish i could say the same for the later...

seems like our societies energy is focused in the wrong direction....

Indeed!

[SMK1]

i guess my issue would be that the kids of those 50-60 yr old will have an 80 yr old parent to take care of when they graduate high school. I know that my 20's (i just turned 28) have been a wondeerful exciting scary an sometimes stressful journey and i don't know what i would have done without my parents and family. financially im no in a position to take care of a parent fully if need be and my daughter loves that her grandma and papa can run and play with her still. THis is why it wouldn't be my choice.

[VizslaMom]

Originally Posted by smkoepke

i guess my issue would be that the kids of those 50-60 yr old will have an 80 yr old parent to take care of when they graduate high school. I know that my 20's (i just turned 28) have been a wondeerful exciting scary an sometimes stressful journey and i don't know what i would have done without my parents and family. financially im no in a position to take care of a parent fully if need be and my daughter loves that her grandma and papa can run and play with her still. THis is why it wouldn't be my choice.

I've seen many a teenager/twenty-something taking care of their parents who are in severely ill health in their 40's and 50's. These "younger" parents LOOK like they are in their 80's and 90's already, either due to abusing their own bodies or unfortunate unavoidable chronic illness.

Parents are like a box 'o chocolates: Ya never know what you're gonna get.
...and you deal with the cards you are dealt.

More power to the gal who just had her twins in New York.
I'm 31 and haven't had any yet...although we've been trying for two years.