Originally Posted by SmilingBluEyes
at 10 and beyond, most kids DO want to know what they are getting treatments for. At least mine do. (even my 6 year old wants rationales nowadays). It's their BODY-----And I think it's only right to explain it to them when they are getting shots/medicines/treatments.
Absolutely!
Especially with our young women, i would like to spend less time on the evils of premarital sex and the whole birth control talk (although these things are certainly necessary for so many teens) and more time on explaining the incredible nature of the female body! With our young men, I would like them to know more about their bodies as well, and also educate them about the female body and how complex and wonderful it is.
This past week, I sat with a 16 year old and explained all about Fertility Awareness Method. I literally had to teach her what and where her cervix was, to start. We discussed the changes that happen in the normal cycle and we watched some videos of women having babies without medication. (A terrific video from Penny Simkin called Relaxation, Rythym and Ritual.) Afterwards, she said to me, "I thought I'd be totally grossed out, but it was really cool watching birth. It wasn't scary at all." She thought all the FAM information was amazing, and wants me to send her Toni Weschlers' book. (Her mother is heading into prison shortly, and never bothered to teach her about much.) She had lots of questions and great insights.
We have GOT to help reprogram young women to get their minds away from the intercourse issue (which is often all about pleasing some guy or a teen peer group) and give them a new legacy to work with, one that honors their bodies. It's through this that I think we may be able to affect teen pregnancy rates. I hope. I agree very much with Christiane Northrup, MD, when it comes to these ideas.
In my community of Orthodox Jews, premarital sex and contact is a big no-no. So the majority of our youth go to their weddings nights young and inexperienced. Literally, most have never even held hands with the opposite sex. While that may seem freakish to some, I think it's so beautiful that marital intimacy could be so exclusive and special. Kind of refreshing in this day and age, quite frankly.
So many young men and women in the secular community strike me as so CYNICAL about sex. It's heartbreaking to me. I see such a difference among our kids - much more innocence, which is so nice. I am not saying everyone needs to be like the Orthodox Jewish community. But hey, recapturing some of our collective innocence would sure be nice .....
Alison