[Thunderwolf]

I and staff wish to welcome all members who may wish to use and benefit from this new forum. If you have not done so yet, please read the forum description found at the top of the forum page...for it will be followed very closely to ensure a safe and warm environment for our members wishing to abstain. Struggling with smoking and needing to vent and/or to obtain some support concerning it?...you found the place. Overeating? Overexercising? Overdrinking? Et Cetera. The key words here are "over doing it" and maybe feeling a bit of "out of control" about it. No one here, including staff, can ever profess being an expert in the realm of addictive behaviors. However, staff and members do wish the very best for each other and will support those desiring improvements in their healths.


My sincere welcome.

Wolfie

[FrustratedLPN]

Thank you so much for this forum... as the wife of a prescription seeking husband, it's been two years of stress.. stress.... and more stress. Of course I have my own addictions *smoking, eating, and co-dependency*, so this will indeed be a tremendous support and learning experience. Those of us that want to feel "needed" have our own reasons for being in the "helping" profession. It's taken me many years to comprehend and admit this.

Consider the labyrinth... many twists and turns, but continue to walk the path, seek enlightenment and understanding, ask for guidance. There is a place of peace, comfort, and love. Some may arrive sooner, some later, but if one keeps on the path.. eventually we do reach our center. Balance in all things.

If I can stop one heart the hurting, then I shall not have lived in vain.

[Marlo1120]

I also have a few vices I'm working on...eating too much and continuing to smoke. I quit for about a month recently but have started up again. It's hard to quit while living at home, because my mom smokes like a chimney, and is not intending to ever quit, so I get little support. The overeating I have started to get under control, but the issue always pops back up when I am stressed, bored, lonely, upset, etc...
This is a great idea for a forum, I know I'll be back!

[Thunderwolf]

Originally Posted by FrustratedLPN

Consider the labyrinth... many twists and turns, but continue to walk the path, seek enlightenment and understanding, ask for guidance. There is a place of peace, comfort, and love. Some may arrive sooner, some later, but if one keeps on the path.. eventually we do reach our center. Balance in all things.

If I can stop one heart the hurting, then I shall not have lived in vain.

So, true. Rarely is the road a straight one...for it does twist and turn, go over hills, even mountains, then dips back down into the gulley at times. It also crosses bridges over streams if not ranging rivers. Like any path, we meet people along the way...good people...which we remember and cherish...especially when they lighten our load, even if for just a short time.

[Thunderwolf]

Originally Posted by Marlo1120

I also have a few vices I'm working on...eating too much and continuing to smoke. I quit for about a month recently but have started up again. It's hard to quit while living at home, because my mom smokes like a chimney, and is not intending to ever quit, so I get little support. The overeating I have started to get under control, but the issue always pops back up when I am stressed, bored, lonely, upset, etc...
This is a great idea for a forum, I know I'll be back!

So, glad to have you. Thank you for your post. Yes, abstinence is difficult, especially when we may find ourself in an environment that makes it easier to slip. You will eventually find, as more members use this forum, some ways to help beat the slippage. I really applaud your efforts. Keep trying...and let us know how you are doing.

[Thunderwolf]

Originally Posted by FrustratedLPN

Thank you so much for this forum... as the wife of a prescription seeking husband, it's been two years of stress.. stress.... and more stress. Of course I have my own addictions *smoking, eating, and co-dependency*, so this will indeed be a tremendous support and learning experience. Those of us that want to feel "needed" have our own reasons for being in the "helping" profession. It's taken me many years to comprehend and admit this.

Yes...it does take time to comprehend and then it also takes time to put ourself back in our own driver's seat. So, true. Many nurses and "potential nurses to be" wish to help out others from an issue of co-dependency. And like you wonderfully stated...to "feel needed". It comes back to getting our own needs met....one of those needs is to feel appreciated. Nothing wrong with that. But, when caught in deep codependency...we actually begin neglecting ourself instead...a vicious cycle. I encourage either you or someone else to create a new thread here on the forum on the topic of co-dependency...to discuss it further and to help each other to understand it more.

Thank you for sharing.

[CookieCritter]

This forum is a great idea.

I am a smoker and I am lazy when it comes to exercising. No I am not out of breath and can't do it. I am just sorry when it comes to this and so far I breath just fine cigs and all. I realize one day this luck is going to run out.

I want to change these habits and do right by myself. I also either over eat or under eat. I guess I need to figure out balance.

[Thunderwolf]

You said it right...finding that balance in one's life. It can be a challenge, but can be done. Sometimes, it entails big changes...and sometimes, it entails only smaller ones. But, any positive change is a change in the right direction. Let us know what you are willing to try...we'll support you in it.

[SDS_RN]

I was 9 yrs old when I stole a pack of my parents cigarettes and tried smoking. To this day I regret doing that. Smoking has now become my stress reliever and unfortunatly I never did learn any other outlets for my stress. I do not like exercise at all and when I have tried to quit in the past then I start eating a lot more. I don't want to replace my addiction I just want to be healthy. It's hard to quit because my husband smokes too so I have smokes in my house all the time and I can't resist the temptation. I do enjoy smoking but I hate everything else that comes along with it like the smell, the way I feel in the am's when I wake up, the feeling winded walking up a few flights of steps, and the disappointment I see on my childrens face when I tell them I'm quiting and start up again. I do not smoke at work either and I have no problem but as soon as I'm home I'm ready to light up. It's a hard battle but I'm hoping that soon I will be strong enough to resist even if my husband continues to smoke. Thanks for this site it's nice to have a place to get these feelings out.

[rntobsntomsn]

Thank you for starting this forum. I have just admitted to my addiction. I am beginning meetings with the peer assistance nursing group in my area. I have an unblemished 16 yr career in nursing. This is a hard road for me as I have always been the good nurse, good wife (codependent), good mom, good grandma. To admit I have a problem is very hard. I have control issues!! Actually these control issues helped me to hide my addiction. If you only abuse 1/2 Lortab once or twice a day it is hard to admit to addiction. I know this may seem paltry to other addicts but for me it is an addiction. I never diverted, I never bought drugs on the street. Thank you for a place to vent. I just signed on with the Recovering Professionals Program and agreed to 5 years of monitoring and random drug testing. I also called my BON and reported my addiction. Yes, they would have found out about since I was arrested.