[TazziRN]

My "I don't believe in God" daughter has been spouting a lot of God-related comments and phrases in the last week or so, so often that every time she says something I'm looking around for the "real" daughter! It's so refreshing to hear the things she says and see the person she's becoming, but at the same time I'm afraid it's just a dream.

The other night we were all talking and she said she had had no idea of the kind of person she'd become while using and drinking. I asked her "Now do you understand what I meant when I told the counselor I just want my daughter back?" She'd had no idea how much she'd changed.

She coins out of treatment on Wednesday. We can't go because they have a policy that only people who attended the family sessions can attend a coining out (we didn't find that out in time) so we're going to have a celebration dinner here with her friends and family, and I'm planning on having a coining out ceremony of our own. It will be interesting.....one of the friends she invited is still heavily using...she uses anything she can get her hands on. She has tried to entice DD to go to raves, telling her that she (friend) can show her how to beat a pee test. DD is hoping that if Friend sees what she's like now, and hears what we talk about that night, that Friend might get clean too. I doubt it, but it's a nice dream. DD has already started to distance herself from Friend because she realized on her own that Friend is not a safe person to be alone with right now.

[Tweety]

I'm really hoping she makes it, one day at a time.

I do hope that you're not getting too imeshed and are detaching some. Are you going to Al-Anon or Narc-Anon?

[TazziRN]

Tweety, if you mean am I getting wrapped up in her recovery, No. Watching her go through it brings back things that I had forgotten that are helping me keep on my own track.

[Tweety]

That's good Tazzi. Some people have a hard time letting people have their own recovery, doing it their way and making their own mistakes. Then again, if you're a parent, you've probably mastered this one already.