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Old Apr 05, 2008, 07:17 PM
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Well, I have been reflecting that I have been clean since June 28, 1983. I am coming up on 25 years, mostly in NA. I sponsor 8 women, I got clean at the age of 24 and am pushing 50. Its amazing.

Two years ago I got to awaken a lost dream and became an RN at 47 yrs old. This is the first job I have ever had where they don't know I am in recovery. I have seen a few people I know at meetings of course but we are all quiet about it.

Im having a big bbq in June to celebrate. Id love to invite a couple people I work with but they wouldn't get it. I am afraid I will be judged and monitored at work. Most of em know I don't imbibe, but that is as far as I have gone. It's weird to me not to tell, but this profession seems to be rather black or white. I would think MD's would be more understanding but they seem instead to be very intolerant.

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Old Apr 06, 2008, 07:59 AM
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Re: 25 years clean in June - and work doesnt know!

Weird, I was going to make a post asking if people are "out" at work.

Congratulations on 25 years!!! How do you work on yourself with 8 sponsees?? Of course working with others is how we work on ourselves isn't it?

When I entered nursing I was in recovery and never told anyone, then relapsed for a couple of years and have been sober 11 years. Fortunately, my relapse didn't affect my job.....yet.

I choose to adhere to the "anonymous" part of my program and not tell anyone. I have the same concerns as you do. People just don't get it and I don't want to come in tired from insomnia one day and find myself giving urine because someone's "concerns".

I'm sure it will come out one day and I won't deny it (after all I have pics of myself in my gallery here and someone will sooner or later put two and two together ) because I have nothing to be ashamed of and nothing to hide.

It gets awkward because my boss wants me to go out for drinks with her and another coworker, and a doctor gave me some expensive vodka for Christmas last year. I've often said "It's my personal policy never to drink in front of co-workers because I can't trust what I might say" so it's no big deal for outside functions for me to not drink, but still sometimes I wish I could be honest, and actually get support rather than judgement, but for now I'll keep it to myself.

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Old Apr 06, 2008, 08:23 AM
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Re: 25 years clean in June - and work doesnt know!

I am truly happy that both of you have made it this far in recovery. Although I have never had an addiction, I lived with my husband for 25 years and went through all the stages of his alcoholism.

I applaud everyone who works on improving themselves.

Donna Rose

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Old Apr 06, 2008, 10:20 AM
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Re: 25 years clean in June - and work doesnt know!

I am out, but only because I felt safe in doing so. Not everyone at the agency knows but the ones I work closest with do and they are supportive. Outting themselves is not the best idea for everyone, and I encourage anyone who is not comfortable with that to keep quiet. Best way to explain not drinking is either "I never liked the taste" or "I'm allergic to alcohol." In a sense, the last answer is correct.

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Old May 02, 2008, 08:28 AM
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Re: 25 years clean in June - and work doesnt know!

yea we break out in bad ideas and handcuffs!

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Old May 03, 2008, 08:07 AM
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Originally Posted by *tattooed~princess* View Post
yea we break out in bad ideas and handcuffs!

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Old May 05, 2008, 08:05 AM
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Re: 25 years clean in June - and work doesnt know!

After 52 years of putting on a facade to the world and living in fear that I would be found out (this was both before and during my active disease), when I got sober I promised myself I would never have to be afraid of being found out again. Therefore I have told many people at work that I am in recovery (on an as need to know basis or when it comes up comfortable in a conversation). I told my principal (I'm a school nurse) and nurse leader before accepting the job of course and others as it came up. My theory is that if I tell, I don't have to fear being found out. So far (16 years in less than 2 weeks) that has proved to be true.

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