Apr 21, 2008 11:44 AM - Martha,

I do admire your courage and strength. I too am a victim, but I reported the incident to authorities in 1992. I wished that I hadn't at the time, I was led to believe that it was my fault because I did have 1 drink and dinner and that was the wrong thing to do. I was not treated as a victim by any means, including the DA. So it never went to trial. Years later, while googling the persons name, I found that because of my report his name appeared in a small article and several ladies took that as a warning. For me that was a little redemption.

Josephine, LPN

Apr 26, 2008 06:34 AM - Does anyone see the danger of Alcohol in these posts? Abusers look for advantages, alcohol provides this advantage. Social drinking is a way to silence that voice screaming caution. No one needs the results we have seen posted here.
Predators should be castrated. I'm willing to forgive, but there are results to our actions. This should be a result for proven sexual predators, its about power, arrogance and evil.

May 01, 2008 12:24 AM - I just want to thank all of you for sharing your experiences, so raw and personal, with me. You are truly such brave and resilient people. I am proud to be part of the AllNurses family with you. There is some peace in disclosure, at least for me, and if I can help even one person identify and discuss just a small aspect of their tragic experience with sexual assault, I feel so grateful to have been able to elicit that. Again and always, thank you for your compassion, empathy, sympathy and strength...We are strong, whole and if not thriving, then certainly surviving as best we can....Martha

May 07, 2008 06:51 AM - Wow, your story made me tear. Thank you so much for sharing and I hope and pray that you continue to be strong and safe.

May 09, 2008 11:23 AM - The other day as I was sitting with a few of my classmates, one of them told me that she was raped by her grandfather since age 7. Her mother wldnt believe her story. She continued to be raped by him when her mother sent her to him to baby-sit her. Her own mother was very irresponsible and didnt seem to care at all? How cld that be ??? It appalled me. I saw the pain and bitterness when she spoke of her grandfather who is dead and gone. She married at 16, had a bitter life, got into drugs, smoking, trouble and divorce. Now she is happily married and she always tells us how good and forgiving her husband has been to her. That is the blessing that God has bestowed on her.

Two other ladies in the group also said they were raped when they were in their teens. I was very surprised to hear their stories ... Why are those men so cruel???. They are not really human beings, they are beasts .... What sort of thrills and satisfactions do they derive out of their acts of cruelty?? I really can never and will never understand.

May 12, 2008 11:13 PM - I pray that God will continue to bless and heal you.

May 16, 2008 10:42 PM - thanks for sharing your story

May 17, 2008 02:37 PM - I read the thread and wasn't going to post, but after the rough week we've been through! My daughter was molested before she became our daughter-before she was 3 years old. Every day is a struggle for her as we struggle with her. We don't know who, how often, or when-and we'll never know. Her physical scars have long since healed. Her emotional scars will never heal. She was too young to process her experiences. All she knows is that something isn't right. After years of therapy, she is still unable to attach, unable to show empathy. Her body is still alive, but the man who did this should be charged with murder. We will continue to love her and hope that she will one day return the favor.