Apr 04, 2008 11:49 AM - Thank you for opening a dialogue for all those who have been raped. I was raped before I was a nurse and before I gained 50 pounds. Is some of America's wt problem our fear of being smaller than? Even at 180 I am not as big as my assailant -I got out of work as the bars closed, He had waited for me and chased me to my car in front of my co workers . I locked my door(the only unlocked door).He somehow got in through the stationwagon's rear window, which he had opened while I was at work. My electric close was slower than this big guy! He was angry at me for trying to shut him out. When we got to a secluded area-he had shoved me out of the driver seat and was driving my wagon-I pretended to be 'comatose' . Thank heavens this frightened him . He drove me back to the parking lot . I was still pretending to be 'unresponsive' Lucky? Yes. In the era of cell phones I hope someone might call 911,but back then they didn't exist. LOCK YOUR CAR AT ALL TIMES!

Apr 04, 2008 06:22 PM - Your story moved me to tears. It is really unbelievable that date rape is so rampant here. I learned this thru allnurses.com. It is just not safe to simply trust any man we know. We can never tell. I have lived in this country for over 2 years now and U.S. is my new home. I believe I still have alot to learn about society and the prevailing social problems. Rape, mass shooting, terrorist threat, any more.... ...

Apr 04, 2008 08:39 PM - my rape was in the 70s but I still cry . I only remember that he wanted oral sex because it would get him going for the whole night. I kept telling him my husband and 2 small girls were waiting for me. When we got to the remote spot , I wondered if I would be buried there and noone knew who should take care of my little girls.Afterwards I made sure that my sister knew she should take them if I died. I had seen this man where I worked but did not know him. Keep safe

Apr 05, 2008 08:14 AM - thank you for that. my grandmother was a victim of rape by a housebreaker when she was in her 70's. older women are not safe, i wish in all justice that they were. for a man to take advantage of your grief to commit such a crime is an outrage. best wishes in your healing. what happened to my grandmother has prompted me to become a SANE nurse, i am in the training now.

Apr 05, 2008 11:35 PM - I grieve for thee.....

I spent many years offering treatment services to offenders...They steal from everything they touch...

I pray that you find healing...

Apr 06, 2008 08:12 AM - This really hits me..My empathy with all of you who had experienced this..God never sleeps and He never forgets one single assaulted person..He is always and forever in our battles thats why all of us are still standing and moving..God bless us all!

Apr 06, 2008 12:11 PM - I want to thank you guys who posted - you are brave women.

Apr 09, 2008 11:56 PM - that was an awesome story! very courageous of you! i also have to applaude you on the way you constructed your story. i like how you encorporated the word "she" throughout the story and with the last sentance. very well written!

Apr 16, 2008 11:39 PM - I feel your pain. I am a victim of abuse (a trusted family member). I was abused from the age of seven to seventeen. But, with the love of my family, friends, and the love of my life I've survived and succeeded. The battle is won, the war will be too!!!

Apr 19, 2008 08:15 PM - Am a new member and i'm jsut glad to see that you have been strong enough to go through the pain of that incident, I may not know how you have felt but God does and he loves you so much that He has not abandoned you throughtout.