Mar 20, 2008 07:03 PM - What a touching story, I always hear these stories and think "why didn't they just tell someone, I would!" But when you really think about it, it would be SO hard to do. I applaud you for sharing your story and hopefully encouraging others to report this sort of abuse.

Mar 20, 2008 09:42 PM - Hello,
God Bless You For Telling This Story. You Really Don't Realize How Many People You Are Helping. You Doing This Will Give You So Many Blessings! And Not Too Mention How Many People You Have Saved From Being In Such A Situation. Also All The Hope And Courage You've Given People That Have Already Been Through Such Incidences! Your Have Alot Of Class! I Can Tell, Stay This Way. I Hope You All And Eveyrone Else That Has Been Through This All The Luck In The World. It's One Of The Worst Things That Can Happen To Someone And For You To Get Out Of It And Turn It Around Makes You Stronger Then Any Common Person That Has Never Been Through It. So For All Of You That Have Been In This Situation And Haven't Been Able To Get Through To It, I Hope You Get Something Out Of This. God Bless Everyone!

Apr 03, 2008 01:19 AM - Aloha,
Mahalo nui loa (thank you) for sharing your story.... having experienced a similar event just a few years ago it is always inspiring to meet others who possess amazing strength and courage to continue on. Thank you......

Apr 03, 2008 10:35 AM - Thank you. As another survivor, I know how hard it is to share your story. I still deal with trust issues, but am gradually getting better. Sometimes I have to wonder, does the recovery road ever end?

Apr 03, 2008 11:06 AM -

Originally Posted by mother/babyRN

But, I am safe.

I am whole.

I am ok,

And so is “She”……



Written by: Martha RN

Thank you hon and congratulations!

Apr 03, 2008 05:56 PM - Actually, the road never ends but it gets easier, baring no incidents that cause a flashback...

Apr 03, 2008 08:52 PM - Does anyone have any advice for someone who is in a relationship with someone who was sexually abused as a teenageer. This person I am involved with does have trust issues, and admits as much. It's hard sometimes, becuase I want to do what I can for him. He gets angry a lot. We both know he needs counceling and he is in the midst of pursuing that, but I am wondering how I can support him. I don't know how becuase I sometimes end up being the target for his unwarrented mistrust and anger. This thread has been helpful. Thank you for posting your story.

Apr 03, 2008 08:59 PM -

Thanks for this story.
I was date raped when I was nearly 15, by my boyfriend. He was determined to loose his virginity before he turned 18.
When I finally told someone (my mother) she didn't believe me.
Up until that point, I had always said if I were ever raped, I would tell.
Now I realize why so many women don't.

Would you mind if I reposted this on another forum? Just tell me how you would like to be credited, if I may.

Apr 04, 2008 02:26 AM - Hugs you honey with all my heart if that could help you in somehow! Hearing your story I saw one my front one of my heart closed girl friend telling me her story ! After she told me her life story and looking at her how small it is and how life changed her, each and every night when somebody cry in the night on the street I wake-up thinking that is her asking to be saved....Dear you... you are a strong woman and God will give you the power to forget, hugs with all my heart Zuzi

Apr 04, 2008 03:00 AM - It can happen to anyone. One of my husband's bosses dropped by to have a Christmas drink. He came last year too, had a couple of beers and went. This time he brought his toothbrush, a clean shirt and a bottle of whisky and we had a few drinks. he kept refilling the glass. I fell over. the nexk morning I awoke naked in bed. Next to him. I must have blacked out. I also had broken ribs. I've told him I feel betrayed, dirty and how dare he. I have had testing for HIV etc, all negative. IHe thought I might need comfort. (My husband had been dead for 17months. "How dare you and what makes you think you would be my choice. You're 77 for God's sake I'm not even sixty. This was preplanned." He rang up a few days afterto see how the black eye was. "What about the broken ribs? the trust etc?"

I have forgiven him and moved on. I told my daughter and one daughter in law, I couldn't even tell my sisters because everything is always my fault. I'm the gullible one. I told my sons I'd inbibed a bit much and fell over and that's how I hurt my eye and ribs. I am angry but angry at me too but I really didn't think he'd do that.