[grannynurse FNP student]

Originally Posted by mandana

Granny - I'm pleased that you and your daughter are discussing food. It's a great idea to start with a food diary and see what you are actually consuming. You might be surprised - either way - with what is actually going in. Here's a for you.

Amanda

Thanks. It is a start. Now I think I will look into one or two of our hospitals donating a room for meetings. And talk to Wal-mart, K-mart and others about putting up notices.

Grannynurse

[earle58]

Originally Posted by grannynurse FNP student

And where there are no support groups, in my county. And this despite the population of my county being 60% over the age of 60. Perhaps I will make it my mission to start a support group or two, if I can find someone to donate a room.

Grannynurse

here ya go granny (et al)!

a few links that are strictly dedicated to diabetic support/chat rooms...

www.dlife.com/dLife/do/ShowContent/community/

www.chatmag.com/topics/health/diabetes.html

www.diabeticnetwork.com/community/

i hope at least one of these links brings you the much needed support and input that you need. much luck to you!

leslie

[hipab4hands]

Originally Posted by grannynurse FNP student

I am wondering if your non-compliant relatives are non-compliant because they have seen all the complications and feel they have no control? They have given up because of what they have seen? No, you cannot make someone comply but you should explore all the reasons for their non-compliance and attempt to work with them. And by work with them, I do not mean scold, constantly point out the failures, etc, etc, but give them positive feedback no matter how small.

Grannynurse

It's hard to provide positive feedback to someone, who absolutley will not try to make any improvements in thier diet/lifestyle/etc. My father is a prime example. He will not go to any diabetic education classes, will not do fingersticks/ will not follow a diabetic diet. He has seen what the disease did to my grandmother, who had a stroke and heart attack, due to non-compliance.
Part of his non compliance is due to culture. He comes from a culture that emphasis "machismo" and he doesn't like being told what to do. He has been in the hospital numerous times, and has been "fired" by several doctors, because he will not comply. The docs have told him that they will be more than happy to see him again, once he decides he is going to do the needed changes.

I can not make him or any of my other relatives "change", if they don't want to. I also will not feed into the co-dependency issues that are a part of my family. My father and other relatives have to take responsibility for thier actions/non-actions, and ultimately, they will pay for the consequences.

[grannynurse FNP student]

Originally Posted by hipab4hands

It's hard to provide positive feedback to someone, who absolutley will not try to make any improvements in thier diet/lifestyle/etc. My father is a prime example. He will not go to any diabetic education classes, will not do fingersticks/ will not follow a diabetic diet. He has seen what the disease did to my grandmother, who had a stroke and heart attack, due to non-compliance.
Part of his non compliance is due to culture. He comes from a culture that emphasis "machismo" and he doesn't like being told what to do. He has been in the hospital numerous times, and has been "fired" by several doctors, because he will not comply. The docs have told him that they will be more than happy to see him again, once he decides he is going to do the needed changes.

I can not make him or any of my other relatives "change", if they don't want to. I also will not feed into the co-dependency issues that are a part of my family. My father and other relatives have to take responsibility for thier actions/non-actions, and ultimately, they will pay for the consequences.

I'm sorry that you have given up on your family members. I hope it has not translated to any non-compliant patients who may come under your care. It is so much easier for physicians and nurses to shrug their shoulders and say it is all a matter of personal responsibility or co-dependency. One does not have to feed into co-dependency but that does mean that everyone should wash their hands of those non-compliant members of our society. Or perhaps some do, to sooth their own conscious. After all, one cannot help someone who refuses their help. And therefore, one is no longer responsible because they have washed their hands and left it entirely up to that person. Fortunately, not everyone washes their hands of their non-compliant patients.

Grannynurse