[mslinzyann]

I am unable to have children due to a variety of factors, but I am intensely interested in women's health and health promotion. I've thought a great deal about becoming a CNM, but I feel like because I will never give birth, I wouldn't be qualified to do the job. What do you think? I can't help but feel like without the experience of having had a child, I won't be equipped to advise others.

[msdobson]

Originally Posted by mslinzyann

I am unable to have children due to a variety of factors, but I am intensely interested in women's health and health promotion. I've thought a great deal about becoming a CNM, but I feel like because I will never give birth, I wouldn't be qualified to do the job. What do you think? I can't help but feel like without the experience of having had a child, I won't be equipped to advise others.

The argument you are using on yourself would eliminate every man who wishes to become a CNM.

Giving birth does not make one an expert anymore than being stabbed makes you an expert in knife fighting.

Giving birth would certainly give you a unique perspective on child birth, however, that perspective will certainly differ from one woman to the next.

Giving birth is not a cookie-cutter experience.

As long as you have empathy, the learned skills and the experience that comes over the years, you will make a fine CNM.

Good luck to you.

Mike

[mercyteapot]

Most nurses will never experience many of the conditions or procedures of their patients. I absolutely think you can be a good CNM without having given birth.

[midwife2b]

Originally Posted by mercyteapot

Most nurses will never experience many of the conditions or procedures of their patients. I absolutely think you can be a good CNM without having given birth.

I absolutely agree!!
I know many midwives who have never given birth...

[rn/writer]

For many years, the majority of OB's were men and no one seemed to think twice about that.

Is it necessary for cardiologists to have had MI's? Or oncologists to have had CA? If you think about it, very few docs or nurses are likely to have had experience in their specialty areas.

The flip side is that there are plenty of folks who have had kids who wouldn't necessarily make good OB caregivers.

No one can make you feel inadequate without your permission.

[Jolie]

I wholeheartedly agree with the previous posters.

Due to infertility problems, I worked as a NICU nurse for 9 years before finally having a baby of my own. I had a co-worker who I otherwise respected and liked who insisted that I was unqualified to be a NICU nurse because I was childless. I basically told her to blow it out her ear. After having my daughter I did find that some of my opinions and persepctives changed a bit, not due to pregnancy, or the birth process itself, but due to the fact that I was now responsible for a tiny, defenseless human being. I don't think it necessarily made me a better nurse, because I think I was always a pretty good one (if I do say so myself , it just gave me a different view on things.

So my point in rambling on here is that we all bring valuable experiences and insights to our profession. None is more important than any other.

[Kiwimid]

You dont need to have hatched one yourself. Im at school to become a midwife and we have a number on women who havent had kids. And i know of male midwives. hey you only add to your bais if youve had kids anyway.

[BabyRN2Be]

I've been a doula for the past 9 years. I haven't given birth but that will change this November. In the last 9 years I've only had one client who said she would not use me because I had not given birth.

I feel that over the last nine years I've gained so much experience, seen so many procedures, conditions, etc. than I would if I had delivered 5 babies myself and only been a doula for 6 months.

If you gain good experience, I feel that this in no way should hamper your efforts to become a CNM. Don't let this one fact get in the way of your dreams! Very best of luck to you!

[SmilingBluEyes]

Like said before, following that logic, I should never, ever become an oncology nurse due to the fact I have not yet experienced cancer. You follow your dream. I have seen amazing nurses in men and women who have never (nor plan to ever) have kids. Conversely, I have seen women who have "been there done that" who mistakenly and misguidedly judge their patients' experiences based upon their own birth experiences. NOT GOOD.

If this is your passion, you already have a leg-up on others who are burnt out or do not belong caring for often-vulnerable OB patients. PLEASE like the others said, Go for IT!

[caliotter3]

As part of a class project, I had to take a childbirth class. I do not remember the RN instructor saying anything about her status as a mother. She had been in this field for many years, had extensive experience, and was a published author on the subject. She talked about all of her accomplishments but I don't remember anything about being a mother. So, whether she wasn't a mother, or didn't want to talk about her family, she still was able to do the job. You need to change your perspective.