Dear RNKittyKat,
My empathy is with you, my experience with LTC's may be best described, using one of your references, trudging in quicksand through the twilight zone.
Your DON is wise, pick your battles with these people or they will drive you crazy

. I usually defer to the facility's wound care nurse for patient's wound care. This saves time and cost, and allows them the control they need. Each week, I will get an updated report/document from the wound care nurse, with measurements, and
include this with my notes for our records.
One last thought

, I always call the family/PCG with report after visiting patient in LTC. If I believe that the patient is not getting proper
care, I tell the family/PCG, and suggest they contact LTC's administration; administration is usually more responsive to the family/PCG concerns. Also, I try to attend the quarterly staffing on all
of my LTC patients. Best wishes, you're a wonderful advocate.
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