[pricklypear]

I've never heard of the 3 kids/little boys, but I KNOW deaths/codes happen in 3s!! Just like I know **** hits the fan on a full moon, and very soon after someone stupid says "gee, it's nice and quiet tonight!"

[rosemadder]

Originally Posted by pricklypear

I've never heard of the 3 kids/little boys, but I KNOW deaths/codes happen in 3s!! Just like I know **** hits the fan on a full moon, and very soon after someone stupid says "gee, it's nice and quiet tonight!"

speaking of full moons...i'll never forget one day I was working and it was just crazy and I told one of the docs it's a full moon and he says but it's daylight...I rolled on the floor while I reminded him that it was still "up there"....LOL

[Drifternurse]

[quote=connyrn]Weird, bizarre, peaceful or totally memorable occasions that you observed death, any stories?

I've been thinking of writing a post on this board for the past two weeks...but I've been kind of busy---my step-mom died two weeks ago tonight--my real mom died when I was 9 mos. old so I didn't know her--and my step-mom has been pretty special. As a nurse for almost 20 years, most of which wasspent in a charge position in a nursing home, I'd vowed to her and to myself that I'd never place her in a nursing home...but she'd requested it--for the physical therapy she needed after suffering left-sided weakness from a brain tumor found in January this year. And she made tremendous progress with physical therapy--wheeling herself from the room to dining room---The past 4 mos. have been rather hectic and very emotional--from surgery to remove 60% of the tumor(surgeon didn't want to take more for fear of permanently paralyzing her) to 13 radiation treatments to 5 hospitalizations due to nursing errors in one nursing home before I could finally get her into another---lots of stress as you can imagine.....Her niece and I were with her when she passed--thank God for that---she was to come home with Hospice on May 14th--all the equipment was delivered on the 13th but she passed the night of Friday, May 13th. I'd hoped and prayed that I or a family member would be with her when she passed and had hoped it would be at home but at least we were with her in the nursing home. We told her that she didn't need to fight anymore, that we loved her, and she passed. The little contact I did have with the hospice nurse and social worker was good--very kind people--my heartfelt thanks for ALL that you hospice nurses do---it is a very different situation being on the "other side of the fence" as a family member and not as the nurse--I had a very tough time these past 4 mos. watching her decline, then get better, giving me the false hope that she might beat this brain tumor, giving the nurses hell at the first nursing home when they didn't address medical situations that could have been addressed and which resulted in her going to the hospital numerous times....I had GOOD experiences with the hospice nurse, hospice social worker and nursing home nurses at the second nursing home and was thankful for all they did.
Keep up the good work you all do and thanks for all you do.

[req_read]

Originally Posted by sassynurse78

Wow interesting thread! I too have had so many experiences that it is hard to narrow it down. They have went from scary (a little woman pleading for me not to leave her because three men were there to take her, she died 8 minutes later) to very peacefull. Although the scariest story I have ever heard, was long before I was a nurse. My aunt was the farthest thing from religious as you could ever imagine. She would say she believed in God, but just didn't give a d#@n about him! As she lay dying in the hospital she related the story that the old man across the hall died last night. Upon further questioning she related that no one had told her this but about 3 in the morning three men in black came to get him and he didn't want to go. A couple days later she related the woman down the hall had passed, three white figures came for her and she wanted to go. She related the three black figures came into her room and just looked at her and she knew she was next. She was. I do not know how much I think is 100% true in these cases, but there are enough of them that I do beleive that somehow the "other side" is close enough to veiw to people that are close to going to it. Has anyone else experienced the "death in 3's"? If not, it is regularly said around where I work that deaths always happen in "3's" and also the "3 little boys"? It is often considered important enough to pass on to the next shift if any of the pts. have reported seeing "3 little boys/kids"?

3 kids huh? No... never heard that one before. Hm-m-m-m. Dying in 3's though... I've heard that ever since I started working in a hospital back in '69.

Here's an interesting story.
I had an elderly woman in hospice who was lingering and of course we all wondered why. We pieced the following story together after talking to her and various family members.

Her dead husband would come and pick her up in a truck. Together they would drive to a bridge, but she knew if she went across the bridge she would "die," so she would get out of the truck and come back. She said, "It is very beautiful over there, but I'm not going!"

Well of course we wondered why. Then some family members reported "seeing" a strange, olcer man with a funny hat outside one evening, but he disappeared when they went to investigate. Somehow one of the volunteers discovered that the dying woman's father had abused her as a child. I won't go into any details but the gist of the thing seemed to be that she did not want to go where her father was. She eventually did cross over of course, but we still do not know hor or even if the dillema was resolved.

[sarah_bellum]

Originally Posted by connyrn

Weird, bizarre, peaceful or totally memorable occasions that you observed death, any stories?
I don't mean to be morbid or anything but I am looking for ways to improve our service in the ICU and put togheter a folder and info. system to help our dear patients.
I'll tell you my last experience soon, got to get over it first!
Thanks!

When I was barely 18, I worked in an extremely small, rural hospital. We had a two bed ICU and there was a hospice patient admitted with cancer.

I can't remember the details of her condition (it was almost 15 years ago) but this has stuck with me for all these years.

Her name was Rose and she was a sweet, beautiful beloved grandmother who amazed me at how she just accepted she was dying. I was still in the "I'm invincible stage" and it struck me at how peaceful and alert she was. I came on shift and I stopped in to she how she was doing, she had been with us for about 3 weeks and I had become very attached to her.

Her pulse was thready and her BP was dropping, it was only a matter of time.
I asked her if she needed anything and she looked my way and stated "You've come to get me haven't you?" I told her no, she was not going anywhere for tests today. She smiled sweetly and said "I'm not talking to you sweetheart" and I realized she was looking over my shoulder. She closed her eyes and was never alert again. She died in about 10 minutes and it was so peaceful.

I have always pondered what I would have seen if I had been brave enough to look over my shoulder. I do believe in angels and I can thank Rose for that.

[AlwaysTired]

My Mom's sister was stricken with diphtheria at age 3 (this was back in the 30's even before my Mom was born). She was extremely sick and my grandmother swears that one day she (my grandmother) saw a beautiful little girl wearing a white dress dancing cirlcles around their well outside in the yard. She says every time she walked out on the porch she saw this little girl and that she was the only one that could see her. My aunt died that night. Still gives me chills.

[mindyg22]

Thanks for sharing these

[prowlingMA]

I have personally had dreams about pt.s that we completelyhealthy dying, and wouldn't you know with in a few weeks they died. Happened a couple of times.

To me that hardest death I have dealt with personally was a family members suicide. No way to say good bye, sorrys, nothing.

[Flea23]

I've been a (part time) Hospice RN since 1990. Almost always we notice our patients withdrawing from 'our world' and seeing or talking to people who have died in the past. 99% are comforted by this, we prepared them that this may occur and they seem comforted. I've never heard them speak of 'black' or 'white' people, but curiously, I have heard of the 3 boys alot. or large groups of kids running through! When we see this, we can predict death in 1-6 days.This is with Ca DX only, end stage cardiac's are unpredictable! ,

[azlisa]

I personally have had several instances where I heard a deceased pt call my name. My co-workers said I was "hearing things" You bet I was! I beleive that people's spirits do come back to let you know they're ok. I've spoken with a lot of family members, and told them I felt their loved one's presence. I have been told over and over, that they did too. So I do beleive in this phenomon. Lisa W