OP: I'm so glad you brought up this topic....I've been at it 7 years now and have done poorly at setting limits and am now also facing burnout.
It's kind of crazy...we have had inservices about burnout and what to do to avoid it, but when we start to try to set limits management really doesn't like it.
Missed personal appointments scheduled well after the time I should be off work when I've been sent out to make visits, etc. are occuring more frequently. As a result I end up getting home late, too tired to cook so we eat out..then it's late and so I don't exercise or walk..then I'm resentful and don't sleep well...around and around. Then the next day at work I hear from management: "You were out late last night so you have to leave early today" (so they don't have to pay overtime). It's pretty sneaky, in a way, not to use the on-call nurse in that situation because she would get time and a half for on-call visit. They're smart enough to send a nurse not on call then make him/her leave early the next day. Heck, they don't even do comp time right. We really should get comped at time and a half, but we don't.
This week rather than go back to the office after my visits I drove to a nearby park and sat in my car and did charting/phone calls. Got way more done than I would have back in the office. It was wonderful. I've decided to stop checking my voicemails after I leave work. Not doing too well with this one, but I'm going to keep trying.

I'm going to stop answering my home phone when I'm not on-call. I'm not sure What I will do the next time I'm not on-call and they ask me to go make a visit 15 minutes before I'm supposed to go home.
I've been told by some of the other nurses to say, "I'm sorry, but I already have plans at such and such so it won't be possible for me to do that." In other words, no.
We are expected to attend bereavement services several times a year to support our families...a couple of hours here and there at no compensation. I do lot's of job-related research on the computer at home at night...It is rather insidious how all-consuming this job can become. (if we let it)
When I reread my post I'm astounded and almost embarrassed at how angry I sound and almost erased the whole thing but maybe it needs to come out. Seeing it in print really makes me realize that changes must be made if I am to continue... It doesn't feel good to be this resentful and I want to function at my best, profesionally.
And, I want my life back, to some extent. I miss my old hobbies. I miss my friends. I'm sure my husband is sick of hearing the same old stuff every day....I've become such a whiner!
Anyway, I wish you the Very Best and hope you are able to make some changes before it's too late. It sounds like you really like hospice nursing and it would be a shame to lose you. I hope you will post back and let us know how you are doing.