[CraftyLPN]

Ok..I need some advice from you all out there...
I work in home health w/ peds...
I work in one of the "best" homes I have been in a long time...
My prob is.. Nurse X repeatedly tries to tell me every little thing she can not stand about the family and then goes on to say what SHE would do about certain things in the family realm..
I am not the type of person to get mad easily,but today I said," Well. you know what X? I thought we were here for the client, not to be judgemental about what happens in the family day by day life THAT YOU DON"T AGREE WITH. Just bcuz you have one set of "home" standards, that doesn't mean you should bring them here.
There is nothing in this home that is abusive or anything, do not read that into this post...It's just nurseX's attitude.
Sorry.. but now I feel LOTS better....THANX FOR "LISTENING"!!!

[Flynurse]

I agree with you. Its not anyone's place to enforce our own values and morals on anyone if we don't agree with someone elses.

Now, if it came to an issue of TRUE abuse then I would do something, but i don't think that's the case here.

[CraftyLPN]

flynurse... the mom is so attentive to her kids...the one sibling has some "issues"(I can't go into detail...sorry)..but IT is not w/ family he is with..that is all I can say) and he acts up once in a while...he's only 3! Can't expect miracles anyways at tha age anyways..I'm very patient w/ the sibling..and it doesn't bother me..
But Nurse X just rants on and on about evry lil dang thing...and how she would "remedy" it....

[Flynurse]

Three year olds...they can be a handful!

[hoolahan]

Good for you for speaking your mind!! It feels good doesn't it, esp when you are right, which of course you are in this case!

[Rapheal]

Crafty,

You know, If she spends time finding fault in others, she does not have to review her life and deal with her problems.

I find that happy and content people are usually pretty nonjudgemental about things that do not concern them. But frustrated people seem to have alot of time and energy to devote to worrying about other people. Do you think this is the case with her?

[Disablednurse]

Crafty, I used to have a problem with trying to put my ideals and values on everyone, but my husband has just about gotten me out of doing that. Whenever I start, he will say, everyone does not live by your ideals or values, you cannot think they can. After about 13 years, I finally started turning around. Ha!!!!!

[CraftyLPN]

You guys are the GREATEST!!!!!!!!!
This nurse X even has the gall to tell me how I am supposed to do "things"..( excuse me!! hello..I know what I am doing)
Can I say something just pure evil?hehe
The client and the other children in the home...plus the "attitude" I get from mom..they seem to like me alot more...bcuz MAYBE..I'm not trying to change them!!??
Rapheal and hoolihan.. This woman strikes me as a walking "time-bomb".. I am not kidding..
I have a knack of usually picking up certain "vibes" from ppl when I first meet them..and this nurse ..well..X takes the cake...and smashes in your face if given the chance!!

[renerian]

I have found for some people home health can be daunting because we do each bring our set of values and lifestyle habits to the table. I found newer nurses sometimes struggle with this because in other health care settings the client is on their turf. In the home your on their turf so the rules all change. Your right you are there to care for the client and if they have lifestyle choices like drugs or alcohol you try to point them in a better direction but the ultimate choice is theirs to make.

renerian

[Gator,SN]

I always find it interesting when someone knows exactly how to "fix" other peoples problems and their own life is a disaster. Nevermind looking inside to see what it is that makes them so judgemental and insecure, they can't see that forrest through the trees.
CraftyLPN, be glad that you have the wisdom to see that this person is has major issues. That 6th sense will serve you well.

Gator