[Hopefull2009]

Originally Posted by NRSKarenRN

Please notify the DON and facility Admin and follow others advise.
ALWAYS trust your gut. Don't become a statistic.

Stalking Resource Center -- National Center for Victims of Crime ...

I disagree wth this...mainly because that can be severely damaging to someone's reputation, that is also, new to the job.

The OP stated that she was originally conversing with him via MySpace. Just because she is married doesn't equal stay away with every guy.

She stated herself that he was always friendly.

She is assuming that this guy decided when he was taking his orientation and is assuming he scheduled it with her....maybe his boss assigned him to take it that day.

People lose jobs over assumptions and rumors. That's my point.

Not once has this OP told him directly that she had no interest in him, which is a very, very critical step for her to take. Just saying, "I'm married" to some men is like saying you have brown hair...to some, they don't care. In all due respect to the OP...she is already calling it stalking as if he's follwoing her around town and doing drive-by's at her house.

[scorpiostudent]

[pagandeva2000]

I would also feel uncomfortable if this guy came three hours before his own shift to ask questions about me. What I am curious about, though, is how do you suspect that you communicated with this person via MySpace.com?

I would follow my gut, by letting the Director of both, your department and his know that this clearly makes you uncomfortable. The bottom line of it is that you don't want this person inquiring about you. But, do not make this into a shouting match, do not make a scene to invoke anger or humilation...giving this man a reason to become upset and focus on revenge. And, truthfully, being new, if you are clearly uncomfortable, it may be better that you leave.