[racing-mom4]

Ok Iam a new RN and dont want to sound like an evil person here, but I need to get over this animosity I have towards my former clinical instructor. I thought she was terrible instructor with very good reason and did tactfully say such during our end of semester teacher evals.
However, she currently has a batch of students in at the hospital I am now working at. So I must see her every Monday. We do not speak, I give a half hearted smirk of a smile and move on, she does not acknowledge my presence at all.
At my end of semester eval with her I let it be known I did not appreciate her gossiping or her leaving the floor for an hour long lunch and leaving her students on the floor. So needless to say, she is aware that I do not like her.
I know I need to get over it, I dont like thinking "Oh I hope she is not on the elevator" or "Ugh I dont want to go down to the cafeteria and bump into her"
I am assuming there are others out there who have disliked clinical instructors only to have to see them on a some what regular basis at their jobs. How do you handle it?

[november551]

There are one or two that I did not care for at all that I've run into. I smile and say hello and leave it at that. Not fake at all...I'm just glad I'm not a student anymore!

[Virgo_RN]

I haven't had this problem. I've liked every one of my clinical instructors.

[Emmanuel Goldstein]

Funny. We had an instructor in LPN school who scared the crap out of all of us. Her reputation proceeded her, and it was considered a badge of honor to make it through her clinicals without being chewed up and spat out. We didn't necessarily dislike her, but she certainly wasn't a favorite, that's for sure.

After I graduated, I ran into her at work. I was shaking in my shoes at first, but she turned out to be so nice and pleasant with a wonderful sense of humor. It was interesting to find out she really wasn't the Beast we all thought she was...

[qt2168]

I also have a teacher that I dread running into. She was a horrible teacher in school. Did not want to hear any thoughts that would go against her opinion. Needless to say im not a very quiet person so we did not get along very well. She also said I was cruising through nursing school (whatever that means), and couldnt explain anything very well and would just say that its like that because it is... ugh. So your not alone. I always think about the fact that I am a nurse now and pretty much proved her wrong. So ha to her!

[racing-mom4]

Ya it is not that I just didnt like her. I believe she was wrong in many areas. She was a huge gossip, would tell us her clinical group who in the class was failing---the lecture instructor emailed all the clinical instructors the test grades so they would know who was struggling. That was none of our business who was failing. We would go to the hospital and she would point at an RN and tell us, "she didnt pass her boards 1st time" once again, what are we supposed to do with that information? Then she would disappear!!! Once I had a patient stage 4 ovairan cancer who was in a ton of pain want some pain meds. My nurse was at lunch so I asked another nurse to get me the pain meds for her, she said find your teacher. I looked all over the unit only to have another student say "oh she went to lunch"....she was gone for over an hour!! and didnt even tell anyone except the one student who she passed on the way down. I could go on and on about all the reasons why I despise her. STudents before me voiced valid complaints, yet every she is signed up to teach another clinical. Oh and of course she played the favorite game. If you gossiped with her, you could wait weeks to turn your stuff in, if ever at all.Oh well...there is no rule that I have to like every one. and i am an RN now so Ha to her. but still, I am not used to have animosity towards others. It will pass I am sure.Thanks for your advice.

[Daytonite]

How do you handle this? First of all, you need to realize that you are in a better position now than her. You are an employee of the hospital, she's not. She's just a guest and visitor who is there at the consent of the administration. Second, she no longer has any power over you. The fact is that YOU have power over her because you are on staff.

If you feel she's doing something wrong, report her to the nursing administration. If she's leaving her nursing students stranded and they are mucking up your time with things she needs to be doing, report her. If you hear her gossiping and violating HIPAA, report her.

And, if she ever makes the mistake of saying anything nasty to you, look her straight in the eye and say, "Go to hell."

[TheCommuter]

Originally Posted by racing-mom4

Ok Iam a new RN and dont want to sound like an evil person here, but I need to get over this animosity I have towards my former clinical instructor.

I agree. It is best to let the animosity go because, quite frankly, this instructor probably will not be losing any precious sleep over you. Don't waste your time, energy, and concentration on this individual.

I truly despised one of my clinical instructors because she was attempting to have me removed from the program. I am now able to let the hard feelings go, since my mind is preoccupied with my new life in a different geographic region.

[racing-mom4]

Originally Posted by Daytonite

How do you handle this? First of all, you need to realize that you are in a better position now than her. You are an employee of the hospital, she's not. She's just a guest and visitor who is there at the consent of the administration. Second, she no longer has any power over you. The fact is that YOU have power over her because you are on staff.

If you feel she's doing something wrong, report her to the nursing administration. If she's leaving her nursing students stranded and they are mucking up your time with things she needs to be doing, report her. If you hear her gossiping and violating HIPAA, report her.

And, if she ever makes the mistake of saying anything nasty to you, look her straight in the eye and say, "Go to hell."

I think I love you!!! You are right and that is exactly what I needed to hear. Thanks....Like I said I know I need to get over my bad thoughts towards her, and with time I am sure I will, and your right, I am in a better spot than she is.
Thanks so much!!

[ebear]

Well...I think Daytonite said it best! My instructor for advanced med/surg (ICU) was a total witch! After I graduated, I never had to see her again! I only wish that I had the opportunity to approach her in the "Daytonite" manner! It's been MANY years ago and I still remember her, not because of her excellent teaching and interpersonal relationship skills...I hope they fired the incompetent so and so...