[CITCAT]

cry if you need to i usually in private at home after work crying is emotion it shows your human i respect that in a nurse it is becauseyou are male that these emotions are bottled up not good for the soul that picture of the military was thought provoking how many of you guys welled up a tear or two on that one

[CITCAT]

regarding crying male nurse WHAT UP WITH THAT IS IT DISCRIMANTORY FOR A MALE TO CRY ? I s this the underlining question that has not being addressed

[donster]

Originally Posted by CITCAT

regarding crying male nurse WHAT UP WITH THAT IS IT DISCRIMANTORY FOR A MALE TO CRY ? I s this the underlining question that has not being addressed

Actually, the question has been addressed, and we welcome all viewpoints. It's not necessary to shout.

[CITCAT]

Don sorryI was not shouting thank you for letting me know i really appreicite it I am new to this computer typing god bless

[donster]

Originally Posted by CITCAT

Don sorryI was not shouting thank you for letting me know i really appreicite it I am new to this computer typing god bless

No worries! Generally, in cyber-speak, all CAPS indicates shouting, and I thought you were shouting about something that's probably run it's course.

No apologies necessary, OK? Enjoy allnurses; we're glad you're here!

[RNdude123]

For my first few years in nursing I worked with high-risk OB inpatients. Unfortunately many of them led to fetal demise. Talk about tear-jerking! What made the experience special (for lack of a better term) for me was the fact that my wife and I lost our little girl at 38 weeks. I could really relate to these patients, and yes I did cry with a few. Nothing wrong with that at all. We take our personal experiences and our emotions into the room with us to help us cope with the challenges that are thrown our way. Just remember that it's about the patient (and family), not you. It's OK to show some emotion as long as it does not become a distraction to caring for the patient or family. When it gets to that point it's time to excuse yourself from the bedside.

[bisson]

first and foremost, i apologize for posting in a men's forum, but this is such a great thread, i couldn't resist.

real men do cry, my husband has broken down in front of me a few times, at first it scared me, especially me growing up in a family that never cries, especially men. after i got over the shock of it, i appreciated my husband's trust and openness to cry in front of me, i still can't cry in front of him.

now i haven't cried for my patients, although i care for them deeply, but working in the hospital somehow separated me from the emotional aspect of death. but the only time i chocked up was walking through a child's unit, one sight of a ill child in his bed, all by himself without his parents sent me into complete breakdown. being a mother, the MOST painful thought to me is my child being in the hospital, without me or going through any kind of pain or suffering. i can guarantee you that i will absolutely will not be able to withstand a death of a child.

[gigabytes]

its ok to cry..even male nurses in brunei did cry if there's any touching or sad events. No matter it happen spontaneously or as we said we put our self in theirs shoes,happy or sad sometimes things just happen with it own reason.

[Dixiecup]

Female here. my whole life I would rather die than have someone see me cry. I perceive it as weak. I know that's wrong and stupid but it takes a lot to make me cry, I just hate to do it.

And what's strange, my husband and son are blubbering idiots. They think I have ice water in my veins!

[malenurse1]

Each man deal with his emotions in his own way. I was raised by a career military father and crying was not to be tolerated from a man. FORTUNATELY, I have grown past that! When my mother died, I cried, alone and in private, but I cried. When my wife of 16 years announced that she was divorcing me and all through the process I cried often ... yes publicly. I have wept with patients who were sick and afraid that they weren't going to get better and with families of patients who were dying and of those who had already past. I am what you would call a manly man. 6', 220 lbs, with a mustache and a deep voice. I have learned over the years that hiding from you emotions is unhealthy. There is ABSOLUTELY nothing what-so-ever wrong with crying with a patient or their family in a time of loss. It lets them know that they are being cared for by someone who genuinely cares for them. Well, I will step down off my soapbox now and just finish by saying let it out guys!