[icie rn]

I have seen male nurses take a break after an emotional situation with a patient or their families. I attempt to give them a little time, in private to pull it back together, and then go on with whatever needs to be done. Crying is a personal thing, I can cry when laughing at certain situations, but deeper feeling associated with grief and loss are private to me.
Hey TOM;
You remind me of one of my favorite pets, all growl and brissle, but soft and tender underneath. Hope you have a good day on the links.

[PMFB-RN]

Originally Posted by ClassQ1

1. How did you handle such a situation, demise of a patient you cared?
2. Did you cry? If you cried, did you go to a private place and cry while controlling yourself in front of others? If you did not cry, what was your feeling at that time?

While I usually do not cry, I believe I would cry if I am deeply affected emotionally but in a private place (I guess it is the male thing in me...lol)

Want to hear your thoughts/comments....

*** Sure I'v cried. I cried when my best friend was killed in combat. I cried when the best coon dog I ever owned was killed. Maybe a few other times.
I really can't imagine crying over the death of a patient and I work in a large ICU were patients die all the time. I had a week in April when one of my patients died every day. I don't get emotionally attached to my patients, but then I only work with adults. Tragic children's cases might be different

[karenG]

crying.. its what a sluice is for!

I've cried.. and so have many of the guys i have worked with..

how can you not cry sometimes? when a baby dies or is stillborn.. or just when things happen that you really wish hadnt?

I've cried and probably will agaiin..

K

[nurse2bKY]

I'm the biggest sap of all. I mean, when that lady won the car on Wheel of Fortune...I cried my eyes out.

[agent66]

I find death itself ( of patients ) does not make me cry, maybe because they are just so sick or what ever. But, I am like a Hallmark card when talking to people who know they are so bloody sick, and not going to be here much longer. I feel I am sometimes not that great a comfortgiver when I am choking on tears sitting on their bed , holding their hands, but I then I realize that is the comfort/support I am giving them. Just someone to listen to and hold their hand. Everyone should cry at something, it is a source of release. It just might not necessarily be someone else's death.

[Frecklestoo]

Originally Posted by teeituptom

I do not cry

maybe if they closed my favorite Golf Course

outside of that never

men dont cry

There is nothing more manly than a guy who is comfortable enough with himself and his feelings to cry. It shows he has a heart, and feelings. Human beings were made with the ability to feel pain, anguish, and sadness. We were also given emotions, tears and the ability to cry to express those feelings and release them. Crying shows you are human, whether you are a man or a woman.

I'm a woman and I've seen my father and my husband get emotional and teary-eyed. Those moments made me love them even more.

[jamonit]

when a child dies, i've heard of male nurses crying.

[donster]

Despite the one single declaration here to the contrary, of course men cry. Ever pull a nose hair? Ouch.

It's difficult to know what triggers some emotions and what doesn't. Locally, we had a recent story in the news of a family of ducks who had taken up residence in a local park. A couple of days ago, some teens stoned the mother duck to death, leaving six ducklings to fend for themselves. They'll be OK; evidently they're old enough to find food and shelter. But when I was reading the initial news story, I was teary. I love animals, and found it difficult to understand how a small group of teen boys (it was witnessed, and they were chased off) could be so cruel and heartless. All I could think of was that mother duck and the pain and terror she must have felt; her last thoughts (if there are such things and I believe there are) must have been to protect those babies. I get teary now just writing about it.

Men cry.

[Doubledee]

OK, I don't recall crying on the job. But I can say with certainty I have certainly been touched.
As a nurse in long term care, I frequently remind our staff we work with people at the end of their lives. It is our privilege to be there as well as sometimes, a dagger in our hearts. We touch and are touched in return.
We have our favorite residents, our sad cases, moments that touch us and sometimes just the overwhelming fatigue as when four residents die in one weekend. (THAT was a tough one!)
Whether we actually shed tears or not, our humanity comes through. I feel it is part of what makes nursing such a special job.
Professional detachment doesn't mean we don't feel.
I suppose there are some human robots out there but do they last as nurses?

[tgb3rn]

Originally Posted by icie rn

Hey TOM;
You remind me of one of my favorite pets, all growl and brissle, but soft and tender underneath. Hope you have a good day on the links.

That's me in a nutshell---WOOF.