[Audreyfay]

Just like said before, a smile can say more than anything else. I am tall and big (for a woman). Sometimes my size has definitely been beneficial. Patients seem to give me less guff, however, I have had many comments on my gentleness. I also have had several call me "an angel."

Follow your heart and put your heart into it! Good luck!
(Quite personally, I would prefer someone like you caring for me, than a young skinny blonde!) Oh oh, no offense young skinny blondes!

[Thunderwolf]

Hey lots of us baldies/shaved nurses with some facial hair out there in the field.
Bro, you fit right in. Glad to have you on board.
Wish you the very best.

[Ekklesia]

Originally Posted by loserboy

The thing is I am 6' tall 200lbs, and more than a few have told me that I look intimidating, and some have said I am down right scary...

Dude, I'm 6'8", 270 lbs with military style haircut and a goatee also.
I'm a veritable one-man freak show.

Anyways have gone on too long I just thought that I would air this curiosity of mine and see of there are any other men that have this problem or maybe thought the way I did.

I was totally worried about this also. I figured I'd scare the hell out of the patients or something, but that hasn't been the case at all so far, even working with the elderly.

I do tend to overcompensate by being ultra-friendly, but it seems to work very well. Patients and/or residents feel very secure when I'm helping them, (so they tell me).

[Roy Fokker]

Originally Posted by Gaylord Focker

I do tend to overcompensate by being ultra-friendly, but it seems to work very well. Patients and/or residents feel very secure when I'm helping them, (so they tell me).

Hmmm, I've always somewhat noticed that the big guys tend to also be gentle bears.

I was wondering if it's because of this 'over-compensating' that they develop?

Is it true for many of the big men?

Me? I'm just a five-feet-and-a-half runt. So I don't know

[Ekklesia]

Originally Posted by Roy Fokker

I was wondering if it's because of this 'over-compensating' that they develop?

Is it true for many of the big men?

I would say so. I have to duck through every doorway, so I know that the patients are already a little nervous, or apprehensive. So I really over-do the "niceness" to set them at ease right away. I'm a favorite, so it must work.

[karenG]

Originally Posted by Gaylord Focker

I would say so. I have to duck through every doorway, so I know that the patients are already a little nervous, or apprehensive. So I really over-do the "niceness" to set them at ease right away. I'm a favorite, so it must work.

at 6'8 youre only 19 inches taller than me............ I'd need a box to stand on to talk to you!!!


yes ok.............. I'm really a hobbit.........or so my tall male friends tell me but I keep telling them I dont have hairy feet!!


Karen

[Daren77@mac.com]

Just thought I'd throw my 2 cents in. I'm a male nursing student. (actually start in September) I'm 6'6", 250lbs and was a Police Officer for 10 years prior to deciding on Nursing. We'll see how it goes.

Daren

[tramalady45]

Originally Posted by loserboy

Hi there, I am entering university for my first year of nursing in Sept. I have been working in retail for 12 years, so I am good at handling all sorts of people. The thing is I am 6' tall 200lbs, have a shaved head and a goatee. Now I have never really cared what people think about the way I look, and more than a few have told me that I look intimidating, and some have said I am down right scary.

Looking scary or tough is nice when I am walking around the bad neighborhood, but I have found that some people go on the defensive very quick because they seem scared or intimidated. I am good at diffusing tense situations; I have talked my way out of some real hairy ones. I feel I have a positive attitude and try to encourage all those around me to be their best.

I guess when I think of what a nurse should look like, even a male, I do not see the image of some bald ugly guy as the ideal. I just wonder if this will cause more problems than it can solve. Yes I am very strong physically so I would not have too hard of a time moving patients, heck I used to unload trucks that were filled with frozen meat, and the hunks of beef weighed almost as much as a person.

I wonder will a tough looking exterior give people the initial impression that I am not possible of nursing, and lead to needless verbal confrontations. Are there other men in my situation? Again I am referring to first impressions, I am very polite and respectful of those around me. After I talk to most people they see that I am really harmless. I just worry about those people who will refuse to know me because they feel so intimidated.

Anyways have gone on too long I just thought that I would air this curiosity of mine and see of there are any other men that have this problem or maybe thought the way I did. Ohh yeah, is there a way a male nurse should look?
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Change your name for sure! YOU ARE NOT A LOSER!!!! I won't let my fellow nurses talk about themselves like that!! You can do anything you want. It is true that people will see through the exterior. Your personality will show through. Your skills will speak for themselves and if you are kind to people, honest, and fair and non judgemental that will speak volumes. I say go for it!!

[pie123]

Originally Posted by AlbertaroseRN07

Heck 6 feet tall and a goatee? You sound HOT!!!. LOL You can be my nurse anyday lol.

:hatparty: :hatparty: :hatparty: :hatparty:

That's what I was thinking!

[karenG]

with all these tall men around I am very glad I dont have to do any lifting with you!!! here in the UK we have a no lifting policy. But I have memories of trying to lift with guys who were a foot taller than me.. not easy!!

Karen