[SteveRN21]

Originally Posted by november551

"Hey lets go down into the linen closet..woohhooo." .

That's why they call it the "dirty" utility room... ;>P

[Frank Sims]

Originally Posted by William216

I am currently 24 y.o. in an RN ADN program. Thing is, I'm in a clinical group with all women....which ain't bad but, some of these women do not get along and i'm the neutral guy who they all seem to gravitate towards. Some of these women get upset if I have conversations with other students or employees at the hospital. Better yet some employees(female) nurse aides, other medical staff are overly friendly and go out of their way to speak or get my attention. I'm constantly being asked how many children? When do you graduate? How old are you? Where do you live? They dont even ask my name lol. Its not unwanted attention, i just don't know how to handle it correctly. I look more and act maturer than my age and the older women(30 and over) seem to be very upfront when they seem to have an interest, I get the motherly/aunt vibe and it feels weird cause i can sense the sexual thoughts they may be thinking and one nurse pinched my ass...I just laughed and was about to say something to her sexual, but i had to remember where i was. If I go to the cafeteria with a different female classmate, i get looks as if i'm some sort of womanizer. Then the killer part is I have to hear these women ridicule one another as soon as one leaves the room, which i find hilarious. I could imagine what they say when i leave the room, but it doesn't bother me. I also realized that married woman love to flirt in the workplace, which is fine because I'm married. Bottom line is, i feel like I'm the females work-boyfriend, beauty consultant, gift, advicer, ego-stroker/deflater and the list goes on. Guys how do i handle it?

ROFL!
Sorry, while I do understand your lack of understanding in how to deal with the situation, I had a thought that almost busted my gut laughing!
My thought... You now know what it must feel like to be the only woman in a room full of men. I know it's not what you are meaning to communicate but I do think that it offers a little perspective when hearing women complain of being cooped up with a dozen or so men!
Can you hear it? it sounds like this...
"Gosh, I'm the only woman in the room and all I hear is, My wife this... My wife that... Nice legs honey. It's like some are drooling when they look at me. One even touched my butt."

However, I as a male can empathize with your delima. Kinda feels like this sometimes.

Forgive me for finding humour in the irony but you have to admit it is clasic!
Good luck!

[Leaninstreet]

Nursing school is funny as hell.

[aeauooo]

Be who you are.

You do not have to be who people think you are, who people think you should be, or who they want you to be.

Be comfortable in your own skin, but listen and learn.

In the long run, all of that interpersonal stuff really doesn't amount to much, as long as you play it straight.

[heatherwood]

How do u guys handle the insanity of women? I mean the extremes of mood, illogical actions and non-nonsensical responses. I observe so many times the bafflement on men's faces re. the responses they have just had from their female counterpart or the way females behave and I have have even heard it voiced of how utterly crazy women are.

[heatherwood]

Isn't it tiresome having to walk this fine line all the times? Doesn't it detract from your capabilities or does it make you better?

[nursemike]

Originally Posted by heatherwood

Isn't it tiresome having to walk this fine line all the times? Doesn't it detract from your capabilities or does it make you better?

Wanted to reply to both your posts. First, re: craziness of women, I don't find that to be particularly a problem. As fond as I am of many of the women I work with, I'm not dating any of them. I think the age old plaint: "What do women want?" is more applicable (to the extent that it even is applicable) to women as significant others. I'll freely admit that women are a large part of the reason I'm still a bachelor, but I have never had to worry what to get my female co-workers for Valentine's Day, or explain why I thought it necessary to stop for a beer on the way home from work.

As for walking a fine line, I suppose it would make me more professional, if I did, but I tend more to rely on a mixture of common sense and good intentions. As far as flirtation goes, I think the key is to be alert to body language: if she smiles, or laughs, it's flirtation. If she appears alarmed, or frightened, or offended, it's creepy. A little flirtation can be fun, once in awhile. Creepiness is generally best avoided.
Similarly, if an aide is planning to bathe one of my elderly female patients, I may ask her to get me when she's ready, because "I need to see her naked." Or if a nurse reporting to me remarks that a patient is pretty, I may agree, "Yes, she is." But if a nurse says a patient is pretty, I don't say, "Yes, I need to see her naked." It's all a matter of context.

Finally, if a female co-worker is grouchy, or distraught, or distracted, or asks if the room is hot, I never, ever, absolutely, positively never (well...rarely) say anything to do with her reproductive system. No matter what I might be thinking.

[karenG]

Originally Posted by heatherwood

How do u guys handle the insanity of women? I mean the extremes of mood, illogical actions and non-nonsensical responses. I observe so many times the bafflement on men's faces re. the responses they have just had from their female counterpart or the way females behave and I have have even heard it voiced of how utterly crazy women are.

read this a few times and thought.. hmmm

so.. I'll put my sword down and resist the temptation to break a few bones..

and say I think this cuts both ways. men can be just as illogical as woman. over here, its football.. men are totally illogical about football (its a game for goodness sake..not a matter of life and death). Rugby- particulary the grand slam, brings out the same crazyness..

not just us ladies who are a little crazy at times... and trust me when i say, I know men who should not be spoken to or approached in any way if their football team has lost.. in such instances, coffee should be made and left at a safe distance before retreating and then telling them that the coffee is there!

[mcbismark]

I wondered how Heatherwood's posts would be treated... They look like posts that attempt to inflame.

If they are honestly posted as questions I suspect a very young immature poster who needs a bit of life experience. Hopefully life experience will teach that people are people and all have good and bad days.

Some free advice; the sooner you learn to treat all humans with dignity the sooner you'll become an effective adult.

Mark

[aeauooo]

Originally Posted by karenG

men can be just as illogical as woman.

As far as women and men are concerned, the hardware is the same (i.e., the stuff inside the cranium), but the software is completely incompatible.

And I hate sports.