[Balder_LPN]

Originally Posted by nursemike

It seems ironic, though. If we're stereotyped as gay, we shouldn't be much of a threat to hit on people's wives. Of course, it then sounds like the logical course would be to pass for gay when you have a female patient. But that would be dishonest, and therefore unethical.

Sorry, I dont think I could "pass for gay". what does that mean anyway?

Even if I thought I could "act gay" I think that would likely come off kind of assinine. talk with a lisp.....bounce when I walk....? thats just furthering more stereotypes. I have noticed that gay people either fit the stereotype, or they dont.

Maybe you have just been watching too many TV sitcoms.

[nursemike]

Originally Posted by Balder

Sorry, I dont think I could "pass for gay". what does that mean anyway?

Even if I thought I could "act gay" I think that would likely come off kind of assinine. talk with a lisp.....bounce when I walk....? thats just furthering more stereotypes. I have noticed that gay people either fit the stereotype, or they dont.

Maybe you have just been watching too many TV sitcoms.

Didn't mean to offend anyone, or perpetuate stereotypes.
Also didn't mean to suggest that anyone should pretend to be something they aren't.
The only thing I've noticed that pretty much all gay men seem to have in common is not being sexually attracted to women, so it would seem illogical to be put off by one doing pericare on one's wife.
Of course, the only really good solution is to make it clear that nursing interventions aren't sexual in nature, but to accommodate patient preferences as far as possible, as well.

[danu3]

Originally Posted by nursemike

Didn't mean to offend anyone, or perpetuate stereotypes.
Also didn't mean to suggest that anyone should pretend to be something they aren't.
The only thing I've noticed that pretty much all gay men seem to have in common is not being sexually attracted to women, so it would seem illogical to be put off by one doing pericare on one's wife.
Of course, the only really good solution is to make it clear that nursing interventions aren't sexual in nature, but to accommodate patient preferences as far as possible, as well.

This is off subject but I always find that the idea that you are probably gay if you are a male nurse just does not make any logical sense. Think about it, if you are gay male, that means you are attracted to other males. Now, why would you go into nursing where more than 90% of the workforce is female? Wouldn't it better to go into some professions where you have lots of male - like construction or something?

[nursemike]

Originally Posted by danu3

This is off subject but I always find that the idea that you are probably gay if you are a male nurse just does not make any logical sense. Think about it, if you are gay male, that means you are attracted to other males. Now, why would you go into nursing where more than 90% of the workforce is female? Wouldn't it better to go into some professions where you have lots of male - like construction or something?

Off-topic? You wanna talk off-topic?
I haven't actually researched this since back in the 70's, but it's my understanding that most gay men are in fact construction workers, firefighters, police officers, sailors, and Native Americans, and they hang around the YMCA a lot. However, this is a prelimiary result and not a scientific sampling.

[Balder_LPN]

Originally Posted by nursemike

Didn't mean to offend anyone, or perpetuate stereotypes.
Also didn't mean to suggest that anyone should pretend to be something they aren't.
The only thing I've noticed that pretty much all gay men seem to have in common is not being sexually attracted to women, so it would seem illogical to be put off by one doing pericare on one's wife.
Of course, the only really good solution is to make it clear that nursing interventions aren't sexual in nature, but to accommodate patient preferences as far as possible, as well.

Oh, I'm not offended. I just thought the "pretend to be gay" statement demanded some attention. I am not gay, I have just learned over time that while sterotypes usually do have a basis in reality, it still is not good to perpetuate them.

[rogramjet]

That's right, and if I'm not mistaken thay are MACHO also.....

Originally Posted by nursemike

Off-topic? You wanna talk off-topic?
I haven't actually researched this since back in the 70's, but it's my understanding that most gay men are in fact construction workers, firefighters, police officers, sailors, and Native Americans, and they hang around the YMCA a lot. However, this is a prelimiary result and not a scientific sampling.

[RNstudentBrian]

Originally Posted by kenrock60

Im curious,
Is your instructor male or female?

Sorry for the late (months) reply. School you know...

All of the faculty and staff of my school are female.http://allnurses.com/forums/images/smilies/frown.gif