I hear ya brother.
I too am a male, married, awith 2 yr old. soooo i can totally relate.
--my wife is an RN also, and what i did to "appease" the masses was i got a "routine" down to a science that appeased everyone.
what i did-is this
i would wake up around-530 am or so with my son-i would get him situated , BFAST , dressed etc, i would do the housework, dishes , pick up toys, put in a load of laundry--etc since i would do this everyday-it was kept up and not much needed to be done.
then my wife would get home around 630-and the house was cleaned and her son was taken care for--WIFE IS HAPPY
then she would spend time with him for a few hours before she went to bed
during this time i would do questions-because when i took my tests it wa always around 0800 start time-so i got used to this-taking questions at 0800
a few hours this and wife went to bed-i took over dad duties-anf thorought the day-especially for his naps i would review content.
--this worked for me and kept everyone happy and stress free-
hope this helps
JON-"NCLEX SLAYER"