[CEN35]

Are you a great Judge of character? or one of the other options?

me

[sunnygirl272]

i am a good judge of character except with guys i date...

[nightingale]

I would have to say average; I still give people the benefit of the doubt and get taken advantage of still (and at my age!). I am a risk taker and I think that is important; nothing ventured nothing gained etc...

B.

[ats]

I'm pretty dead-on at spotting the character of other people in most situations, especially when my friends are the object of someone's attention. (I'm pretty protective of people I care about.) Guess I'm intuitive, just good at picking up on vibes....sometimes you have to learn to be.

Except of course when *I* am thrown into the mix, then I'm blind as a bat and twice as dumb. You'd think I'd learn, wouldn't you? But I am, slowly.....

Trust is EARNED, remember. I don't just give it away anymore hoping for good things in return. (Although I've done that in plenty, with bad results.) I think you need to know how people act, not just talk about themselves. And maybe it's a good thing to know how they treat the people they *don't* like, as well as the people they do like, before you decide they deserve your trust. Anyway, that's my story, and I'm stickin' to it!

[suzannasue]

Pretty good judge of character now that I have been cremated emotionally in the past. Yes trust has to be earned, thus I trust no one. The words "friend" and "FU**ED" both begin with "F", thus I keep my distance from most everyone. Have been betrayed way too many times. Probably missing out on a lot in life but I will not miss the dissappointment, hurt and anger of finding out that I have disrespected by anyone...ever again !!! When asked, I never give advice...I refuse politely any invitations for lunch with anyone... my co-workers are my co-workers...that is all they are...no swapping of phone numbers...no shopping together... distance is my defense mechanism...the walls of personal protection shall be steadfast in their construction...
Have heard it said that no one can do anything to you without your permission...and as far as I am concerned...PERMISSION DENIED PERMANENTLY.

[ats]

Originally posted by suzannasue
Pretty good judge of character now that I have been cremated emotionally in the past. Yes trust has to be earned, thus I trust no one. The words "friend" and "FU**ED" both begin with "F", thus I keep my distance from most everyone. Have been betrayed way too many times. Probably missing out on a lot in life but I will not miss the dissappointment, hurt and anger of finding out that I have disrespected by anyone...ever again !!!

suzannasue, I'm very sorry you've been hurt so much in your life. I have been myself so many times, from early childhood...makes up the majority of my memories. So many times I've wished I could just sit down and give up, I get so tired...but something always keeps me going, even if my life is not what I'd like it to be. It can only get better, and it really has, slowly.

I believe in the possibility, if not the strong likelihood, of finding trust and love in my life. Without that belief, I don't think I'd have made it through all the truly terrible times--and there have been many of them over the years. But I did make it through, mostly intact, and I realize that I'm a pretty strong person in many, many ways. Maybe the greatest of my strengths is that I still believe there are people out there, somewhere, who are deserving of my trust, and who will let me earn theirs in return. The thought keeps me sane when I'm near the edge, moving when I'd rather sit still, and trying to be a person who's worth loving. Most days anymore, I truly think I am.

Sorry so long-winded, but your post made me feel sad for your loss, and my loss as well. I hope you can find it in you someday to try, just one more time, because good people are out here just waiting for you. Take care.

ats

[OBNURSEHEATHER]

I consider myself a pretty good judge of character. It isn't unusual for my hubby or friends to say "I didn't know that about_____," and I'm always saying "didn't I tell you 2 months ago they were_____?"

Sometimes I don't know why, but I just get a vibe about a person. I'm usually considered weird for it, until they prove me right....

Heather

[cheerfuldoer]

I have always been told -- and I have always believed -- that I am an excellent judge of character. My downfall is giving EVERYONE the benefit of the doubt...even when I know their character stinks like the odor of a skunk! Nighty night all!

[Audreyfay]

I have been blessed (or cursed) with "first impressions" of character. I can't think of a time when I was wrong. My judge of character is very good. However, sometimes it holds me back because I am not willing to take the chance that I am wrong. But, it has protected me from getting hurt!

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Originally posted by suzannasue
Pretty good judge of character now that I have been cremated emotionally in the past. Yes trust has to be earned, thus I trust no one. The words "friend" and "FU**................................. distance is my defense mechanism...the walls of personal protection shall be steadfast in their construction...
Have heard it said that no one can do anything to you without your permission...and as far as I am concerned...PERMISSION DENIED PERMANENTLY.

suzannasue..........
I can relate..........


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