[GardenDove]

I agree about the penis thing, those things have minds of their own.

[Spidey's mom]

Originally Posted by Tweety

Steph, I don't want to condescend, but you don't have a penis and your husband is telling you that you just can't relate to it's power. Sometimes the penis takes over a man's brain and doesn't want "love". You're beautiful for thinking that's what it's intended for.

Men do crazy stupid things because of their penis. Think Bill Clinton, think Pee Wee Herman, thinks a couple of prominent tele-evalgelists. The stories are endless of the things men do for their penis that isn't related to what your good Lord intended it to be used for.

For a penis to have no sex is just something that is unfathomable to many men. Rare is the man you're going to find that is going to find something objectable to giving this guy his wish.

You are not being condescending . . . . you're right, I don't understand.

I do think you and my dh have been talking though . . .

steph

[EmerNurse]

When I read this, I immediately thought of the movie MASK, starring Cher, about her young 19-ish, disfigured son whom she knew was dying. She bought him a prostitute.

While I disagree with prostitution in theory, I can't say I disagree with the choices made in this case. Give the guy a break. He knows he is dying and has found his disability to be a strong barrier to a long-term (or even short-term, non-paid) relationship.

Only problem I see now, is that NOW he knows what he's missing. That must really suck.

[Soup Turtle]

Originally Posted by bethin

Please don't use that word. J/K. Pt called me a spinster because I was 25 and unmarried.

Can we use the term "relationship challenged" instead?

Don't we all or have had a disability that prevented us from becoming close to someone? I'm not talking only physical, but mental and emotional? Maybe using disability in that context isn't the right word but I think you all know what I'm getting at. I'm talking about that one bad relationship that made you leery of dating again.

Or am I alone here?

How about Christmas cake... stale after the 25th. I heard that one years ago and it's really stuck with me.

[bethin]

Originally Posted by TurtleSoup

How about Christmas cake... stale after the 25th. I heard that one years ago and it's really stuck with me.

Gee, I am stale.

I guess as a woman I can't know what a man's urges are. Heard they think with those things sometimes (or all of the time). It's between him and God in the end.

[Soup Turtle]

Originally Posted by bethin

Gee, I am stale.

I guess as a woman I can't know what a man's urges are. Heard they think with those things sometimes (or all of the time). It's between him and God in the end.

I was stale, too.

[SMK1]

Originally Posted by stevielynn

Ick to the idea of a prostitute.

As to his free choice . . . I'm not going to stand in his way.

As to the Hospice getting involved . . . . I'm having trouble with that.

Seems sad to me that sex is what you are thinking about instead of relationships.

To me, there is a difference between sexual intercourse and making love but I guess I'm just an old romantic.

steph

I agree with Steph.

[nuangel1]

Originally Posted by earle58

he already stated he had wished to form a loving & intimate relationship with a woman but that his disability had been a barrier.
we're all sexual beings and as a virgin in his young 20's, to me it's a perfectly natural curiosity.
i think it's wonderful that he experienced it, even knowing that he didn't find it emotionally fulfilling.
i wish he could have experienced both...

leslie

well said and i couldn't agree more.