Should I wait to have a baby until after I become a nurse?

  1. 0
    OK, I know this is a personal decision, but I'm looking to hear others' stories in regards to their experience.

    I'm 23 and I just decided that I really want to be a nurse. I should finish my prereqs by summer of 2013, and HOPEFULLY I can get into the nursing program by the fall.

    I know how hard it is to get into the programs, but I've never been one to think about the failure part of the situation. But there's that chance that I might have to wait..

    My husband is 34 and in no hurry to have a baby, but we know we want to. We both think it will be best to wait 2 and a half years until I finish nursing school (if i get in right away)

    How hard is it really to manage nursing school, a part time job, being a wife AND a newborn?

    I'd love to hear your advice.
  2. 1 Comments so far...

  3. 1
    Quote from DanaysiO
    OK, I know this is a personal decision, but I'm looking to hear others' stories in regards to their experience.

    I'm 23 and I just decided that I really want to be a nurse. I should finish my prereqs by summer of 2013, and HOPEFULLY I can get into the nursing program by the fall.

    I know how hard it is to get into the programs, but I've never been one to think about the failure part of the situation. But there's that chance that I might have to wait..

    My husband is 34 and in no hurry to have a baby, but we know we want to. We both think it will be best to wait 2 and a half years until I finish nursing school (if i get in right away)

    How hard is it really to manage nursing school, a part time job, being a wife AND a newborn?

    I'd love to hear your advice.
    I'll give you my experience:

    I enrolled for all prerequisites required for my community college's RN program in Fall 2009; I believe it was five courses total. At the time, my oldest was only 9 months old. After knocking out prereqs in one semester (and getting a 4.0), I registered for all of my corequisites for spring 2010 (besides Micro and Micro lab). Again, 4.0. I had to wait until spring to apply for the RN program, since the deadline for January admission was after the completion of my prerequisites. Soooo, I took the TEAS twice, compiled my application, and submitted everything in May 2010. I was accepted and began my two year program the following August.

    Literally, two weeks into my first semester, I found out I was pregnant with my second son. I wanted to die! I had no idea if I could even remain in the program; if they would be willing to work around my due date; how I would balance everything, etc... I resigned myself to giving it my all--my due date was May 7th, 2011, mere days after the end of my first year.

    It certainly wasn't easy, lol. There's a running joke among my friends and I that I slept my way through nursing school--which is true for most lecture days, haha. I copied notes from friends and read and outlined my textbook like a madwoman after my oldest son would go to bed. I was often up until 1/2 in the morning, so it was very tiring whilst baking a baby.

    Clinicals became more difficult as my ankles and feet swelled in the later weeks of my pregnancy. Thankfully, my uniform always fit Had some issues with my BP that turned out to be false alarms, but thus the benefit of being surrounded by medical professionals


    Everyone was very supportive, including the teachers. The little baby growing inside of me became like a part of one big nursing family, and when it neared my due date, I was overwhelmed by the love that was shown to me as people have me gifts and words of support. I'm sure they also loved the baked goods I brought in on lecture days compliments of crazy mid-morning cravings.

    All in all, I'd do it again--unplanned or planned. I ended up delivering on May 10, 2011--the first day of summer classes (I also completed my AA that summer). It wasn't easy, but I'm the type of person who loves a good challenge...and, in the end, I received the best reward <3

    Oh, and I am a single parent. I went through all of this alone in the midst of a nasty divorce, where dad opted out of the equation in another state.

    It can be done! I even breastfed for ten months, bringing my pump to school and clinicals, and nursing while at home. It worked out really well, because when I returned to school Fall 2011, I was in my maternal/child rotation.

    My boys are now (almost 4) and my youngest just turned 1 in May. It was certainly the most rewarding and validating moment to stand on that stage at graduation and see them in the crowd below. I'd do it all again in a heartbeat.

    Some may try to discourage you, but only you know your resiliency. I say go for it I wish you the very best!

    Dynamic, dynamic, dynamic...dream big, achieve all things!
    DanaysiO likes this.


Top