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- Nov 25, '12 by AnoetosI don't know what kind of protection you have where you work, but from a basic ethical perspective, the right thing to do is to tell your employer what's going on. This may cause problems right now but it will make explaining it to future potential employers easier.
Like most others have said, you must do what is right for your family. I wouldn't worry about what the facility thinks, you can bet that if they needed to lay you off, they wouldn't hesitate.
I hope everything works out and that you'll return to let us know how it goes.
- Nov 25, '12 by DizzyLizzyNurseCan't you just stay for a little while after your wife leaves? That way you stay a respectable amount of time (maybe 6 months after orientation) so it looks good on your resume. My brother and his fiance are doing this now. She is a lawyer but many people decided to become lawyers just like nurses and she had trouble getting a job. She finally got a job offer....and then my brother got a promotion at a job across the state. She didn't want to quit the job after only working for a couple months and my brother didn't want to turn down the promotion so she is staying with a friend here to get some experience and then plans to move with my brother across the state. My parents did this when we were kids as well. I come from a military family and we had to move often enough as it was. My parents didn't want us to have to move overseas a few times as well so my dad went without us and then came home.
If you look around you can get decent airplane prices or you can drive if it's close enough. You can talk on the phone and Skype. But I think you will have a hard time getting another job if you just leave right away. Don't take it for granted that you will get a second job as easily as you did you the first one.
- Nov 25, '12 by joanna73I agree with not giving them more than the required notice. Why should you give more notice? Your employer certainly won't extend the courtesy. Give the proper notice that your facility requires and leave it at that.
- Nov 25, '12 by CrazedQuote from duskyjewelI have a family and I can say that this is hard but doable. The fact of the matter is this economy is forcing us all to make some difficult choices. He should think about this in the long term - stay where he is and get 18 months of experience, move, and negotiate for better pay, or move to be with the wife while she's in school.He's supposed to just break up his family for months because of a job? As one poster said, this hospital would toss him like yesterday's trash if they thought it would serve their interests. They all would. In cases of absolute necessity, people have to separate for a time, but it should never be something that is chosen. Can I ask, are you married or do you have kids? Because I can't imagine someone with a family actually suggesting this.
It's a short term solution to a long term problem and makes total sense.
- Nov 25, '12 by MulanWhere is the OP?
Is this a legitimate thread or one started only to get a discussion going?
- Nov 30, '12 by IcySageNurseThanks for comments all, it's very helpful. Those suggesting staying, no. I cannot stay here for 6 months to a year while my life moves across the country on her own. Neither of us would be happy and I am not going to hurt my family like that just for an employer.
- Nov 30, '12 by CP2013Quote from IcySageNurseI think the suggestion was not loyalty to the employer, but to get that 1 yr. experience under your belt. When moving, new grad markets can be tough in other parts of the country. You may have too much experience to be considered a new grad, and yet not enough to be considered experienced.Thanks for comments all, it's very helpful. Those suggesting staying, no. I cannot stay here for 6 months to a year while my life moves across the country on her own. Neither of us would be happy and I am not going to hurt my family like that just for an employer.
Ultimately the choice is your to make, but I wouldn't move until you also had a job secured a well. If you move and are unable to find employment, will your wife's salary suffice?
- Nov 30, '12 by elkparkQuote from CP2013(Also, as noted earlier, what about if wife's new job doesn't work out for some reason?)Ultimately the choice is your to make, but I wouldn't move until you also had a job secured a well. If you move and are unable to find employment, will your wife's salary suffice?
- Nov 30, '12 by CP2013Quote from elkparkExactly! I would even give it 30-60 days where you stay behind to ensure that things have settled and seem stable. Would hate to hear OP back on here because both he and wife are unemployed!
(Also, as noted earlier, what about if wife's new job doesn't work out for some reason?)
Best of luck OP!