Interview In The Morning And Need Help!

Sorry in advance for being so long but Im freaking out.

After my earlier thread "Lost, Afraid...." I finally had the courage to apply for a position at the local hospital. I have an interview scheduled for 10:00 in the morning. I have a couple of questions I am hoping you all will be able to help me with.

1) I want to work part time (16-20hrs/wk) not that I mind working more on occassion but I don't want to be required to work more every wk. I have an elderly grandmother that I am responsible to carry to all Dr. appts, purchase groc for, pick up meds, and anything else she needs. I also have a daughter with localized linear scleroderma which requires her to see a rheumatologist, eye specialist, specialized orthodontist, and from time to time a cranial/facial surgical specialist. I also am very active in my church such as member of church counsel, choir member, youth director, CIA director and fellowship committee. I also have a 14yo son. With all of these responsibilities I know I can't handle working full time. I want to work to keep my skills from school and I need the additional income but I don't need the income from a full time position. When I spoke to the Med/Surg Director to schedule the interview she seemed to push full time saying "Don't you know in advance when the appts are, we do self scheduling so you can work around them". How do I word it to make her understand that I can't work full time and give 100% to the job I do, but I do want a job?

2) What would be the best way to explain why I haven't worked since I left my 1st job after only 2.5 months and that was 9 months ago. Part of it was fear and not wanting the stress if I didn't have to and part is the poor job market.

3) What would be a good answer to the "Where do you see yourself in 5 yrs" question. I don't see myself going back to school. My family is my priority and taking care of them. If I didn't need the money I would stay at home now. If I do anything at all different from the original part time position short of not working at all it would be to work on some sort of committee to plan community events. I really enjoy planning events (I planned and organized a harvest festival and a Christmas pageant for my church and my brothers upcoming wedding). I love things that are creative far more than scientific but I don't know of a way to use my education in nursing while doing what I love.

4) I also have alot scheduled right now that I can't get out of. My brothers rehersal dinner & wedding Oct 2-3rd (I am also responsible for making the wedding cake, the brides bouquet, and decorating the church and reception). Two youth events Oct 17th and 24th (non refundable tickets and I'm the director). Nov 13th Gaithers concert, Nov 16th daughters Dr appt (specialist). How do I start off having to have so much time off and not look like a flake? Should I be upfront and tell her about all of this in the interview, when offered a position (if Im offered), or what? This is a prime example of why I can only work part time.



Any help anyone can give would be great. Thank you in advance!