I'm getting terminated from my first nursing job

[Nurseadam]

I have violated a hospital policy, not in patient care or a hippa violation, but I've made a mistake of hooking up with a coworker in the parking lot after work. This ended up to the manager, and we had a meeting with HR, and now I'm on a leave. They claimed it was a sexual act on the company premises and there is witnesses.

I'm devastated, i feel completely retarded and that shouldn't have even happen, but people make mistakes, I'm a hard worker, and now awaiting their decision, there's 90% i'm getting fired because of this.

The thing i'm worried about is what's going to happen if i applied to other jobs, would this affect me at all? is it confidential or what is going to happen?

if anyone has an insight on this will be much appreciated

I apologize, i didn't know where to post this, i'm just stressed out and beating myself everyday for this mistake.

[Jolie, BSN]

Please don't describe your behavior as "retarded.". That is an insult to morally upstanding intellectually challenged individuals.

[Nurseadam]

Please don't describe your behavior as "retarded.". That is an insult to morally upstanding intellectually challenged individuals.

Thanks for your help. great contribution to the thread.

[nurseprnRN, BSN, RN]

Yeah, waaay retarded (in the sense you mean it) and so, so shouldn't have happened. People make mistakes, sure, but ... really? This isn't "a mistake." Giving acetaminophen to the wrong patient is a mistake. I am sure that any employer would take pause about hiring someone with so little judgment and inability to delay personal gratification. I mean ... oh, seriously? You couldn't just follow her/him home or get a room? The mind boggles.

(Let the, "He came here to get support and you're being a meanie biter old bat who doesn't remember what it's like because you're so oooold" begin. You have no idea (and you are wrong about that, too. Why, just yesterday morning...:w00t:). I am wearing my flameproofies and I am tough. Deal with it. :) )

You might get lucky and just get probation...and the knowledge that your coworkers are chortling about it, because this secret will not last ten minutes. Wait and see, and thank your lucky stars if they have mercy. You can always beg. I'd recommend it.

And as my sweet old grandmother used to say, some of us are put on this earth to be examples to others, one way or the other. You have done your bit. :) Good luck.

[dah doh, BSN, RN]

I'm sorry to say that I have heard of others getting terminated for that. That was not a smart thing to do. You should have left your work premises first.

[SionainnRN]

So by hooking up do you mean you actually had sex in your car after work? I worked with a nurse who kept hooking up with one of our RTs during work. Word got to HR cause her husband found out and wanted the RT fired. The RT didn't get fired but could no longer work in our ICU, which is how we all found out. So depending on policy you may not be fired but you will be talked about for months, which may lead you to want a new job anyways. All HR can say if you are fired is that you were terminated and whether or not you're on the do not rehire list. I don't think they are allowed to give out the details of your firing. And look into your hospital policy because I know if we fall in our parking garage we have to call 911 to go to the ER since it's not considered hospital property so they can't come out with a gurney to get us. Good luck.

[MECO28, BSN, RN]

Well, you probably don't need anyone else telling you this was a bad idea...so I won't go there. People do make errors in judgement (even professionals) and hopefully you have learned to have a little more..um, discretion.

I would talk frankly to HR and your manager about how this will affect future jobs you may apply for. Depending on which state you are in, it may or may not be legal for them to disclose the exact reason for your termination. If you don't raise a fuss and accept your fate gracefully, they may be a little more forgiving. Be mature, be humble, and sincerely apologize. Then move on.

And don't use the word "retarded".

[Nurseadam]

Yeah, waaay retarded (in the sense you mean it) and so, so shouldn't have happened. People make mistakes, sure, but ... really? This isn't "a mistake." Giving acetaminophen to the wrong patient is a mistake. I am sure that any employer would take pause about hiring someone with so little judgment and inability to delay personal gratification. I mean ... oh, seriously? You couldn't just follow her/him home or get a room? The mind boggles.

(Let the, "He came here to get support and you're being a meanie biter old bat who doesn't remember what it's like because you're so oooold" begin. You have no idea (and you are wrong about that, too. Why, just yesterday morning...:w00t:). I am wearing my flameproofies and I am tough. Deal with it. :) )

You might get lucky and just get probation...and the knowledge that your coworkers are chortling about it, because this secret will not last ten minutes. Wait and see, and thank your lucky stars if they have mercy. You can always beg. I'd recommend it.

And as my sweet old grandmother used to say, some of us are put on this earth to be examples to others, one way or the other. You have done your bit. :) Good luck.

I know that it's stupid, you don't need to repeat that, it's irresponsible and immature. but it happened and nothing i can do about it now.

maybe i;m asking for support for a dumb thing i did, but so what...

[netglow, ASN, RN]

...You might get lucky and just get probation...

No, I think he got lucky and just got something else!

WHAT!? It is funny. Who does this kind of stuff in this day and age!

[BSNbeauty, BSN, RN]

I agree with GreenTea, this was not a mistake. However, I am not here to judge you. You had poor judgement, and had a moment of weakness. Everyone, has done something that they knew was not right.

So where do you go from here? Well I need more info. If you have a long history with this job then you must put it down as a reference. My advice would be to resign(if you have the option) as having terminated on your record is not a good thing.

Start looking for a new job ASAP. We don't want any gaps. When asked why did you leave your last job? Don't admit to being busted on the hospital parking lot getting your swerve on. Just simply say" I enjoyed my opportunity there however I'm looking for something that better fits my(insert here)."

It is not the end of the world. This will pass. Good luck!

[Jolie, BSN]

It is a common misconception that employers are limited to providing dates of employment & eligibility for rehire when contacted for a reference. Laws vary by state, but in general, employers are protected from liability as long as the information provided in a reference is truthful.

[MECO28, BSN, RN]

I've never heard the expression "getting your swerve on" before. I like it. I'm stealing it.