I'm getting terminated from my first nursing job

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I have violated a hospital policy, not in patient care or a hippa violation, but I've made a mistake of hooking up with a coworker in the parking lot after work. This ended up to the manager, and we had a meeting with HR, and now I'm on a leave. They claimed it was a sexual act on the company premises and there is witnesses.

I'm devastated, i feel completely retarded and that shouldn't have even happen, but people make mistakes, I'm a hard worker, and now awaiting their decision, there's 90% i'm getting fired because of this.

The thing i'm worried about is what's going to happen if i applied to other jobs, would this affect me at all? is it confidential or what is going to happen?

if anyone has an insight on this will be much appreciated

I apologize, i didn't know where to post this, i'm just stressed out and beating myself everyday for this mistake.

Specializes in pacu.

It took a lot of courage to talk about how retarded she was... Everybody be nice and weigh in on how she can best do damage control. Don't be a meanie!

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Just had an idea. What about home care? You usually just sign up with an agency. You could get started right away. May not be your dream job, but it will prevent a gap in your resume!

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Specializes in Med/Surg, LTACH, LTC, Home Health.
You couldn't wait until you got home or got to his/her place. Sounds like you are lacking impulse control.
I always said these 12-hour shifts were too long!!!!! Lol!
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Technically the word "god" is only capitalized in specific circumstances. If one is referring to the Judeo-Christian God, then it's a proper noun and is capitalized. But if one just means "god" as in "a god", like Zeus or Athena or whatever, the word is not capitalized. Who knows how britishnomore intended the word? ...... (as long as we're being nit-picky :) )[/quote']

True, there are instances when the word god is not capitalized. But, for the live of God, Buddha, Allah, or Mike, this is not one of those times.

I never criticize a poster's grammar or syntax. I do not know if English is their first language. But, I think if you are going to call out someone for their grammar, you need to dot your i's, cross your t's and capitalize proper nouns.

I felt for this guy. One horrible lapse in judgement and he was attacked. Instead of offering support or ignoring the post completely, it became a feeding frenzy. He didn't ask for approval or forgiveness. He asked for advice.

Posters were quick to judge his actions, his use of the word retarded, and his grammar. Perhaps we could get him to post a picture so we can all weigh in on his haircut as well.

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Specializes in Clinical Research, Outpt Women's Health.

That cracked me up Adam! :roflmao:

I am sorry though that it is true. You made a bad decision. You have learned your lesson I am sure. It will make it harder to get another job, but you will just have to emphasize what you learned from it and how it has made you a better decision maker.

Not the end of the world.

We have all made mistakes at some point. If we are lucky we didn't get caught and then matured enough to alter our behavior.

Much luck to you in the future. You will be fine.

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You are right of course about that, but I also think that your point was unnecessary. The lack of capitalizing I's shows complete laziness.

Fair enough. Maybe I should refrain from posting immediately after coming off a terrible shift!

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Specializes in Psych ICU, addictions.

Nearly anything I could possibly say about this has already been said already in some way, shape or form.

You're human. We humans make mistakes. I won't pass judgment on what you did.

So all I shall say is:

1. There is a possibility that HR may tell future employers why you were fired/resigned when they go to verify your employment...and they can legally do as it DID happen. Neverminding that word may spread unofficially via the grapevine, as nursing is a much smaller world than you think.

So IMO be prepared to address this matter on future job applications. It may come up, it may not...just be prepared. Also, find a sympathetic coworker to be your reference.

2. Best of luck in your future endeavors, whatever/wherever they may be.

and most importantly:

3. Learn from this.

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Specializes in Hospice, Palliative Care.

Good day:

My recommenation would be to ask for a meeting with HR and fall on the proverbial sword.

Tell them you understand you made an extremely poor judgement choice which reflected poorly on the organization. Share how sorry you are for this decision; and what steps you are willing to take to make sure it will not happen again.

Let them know how much you like the organization and your job (presuming you do); and that if they are willing to work with you through this lack of poor judgement on your part, you will show them your loyalty and dedication over time in thanks for their mercy and grace.

It is possibly they may be open to putting you on probation or a form there of; and give you a second chance. If that happens, do be sure to give it your all to show they were not mistaken in giving you that second chance.

Thank you.

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Specializes in kids.
couldn't careless what you think, you're opinion does not matter.

Then why did you put this out here in this forum in the first place????? :banghead::banghead:

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Specializes in NICU.
Good day:

My recommenation would be to ask for a meeting with HR and fall on the proverbial sword.

Tell them you understand you made an extremely poor judgement choice which reflected poorly on the organization. Share how sorry you are for this decision; and what steps you are willing to take to make sure it will not happen again.

Let them know how much you like the organization and your job (presuming you do); and that if they are willing to work with you through this lack of poor judgement on your part, you will show them your loyalty and dedication over time in thanks for their mercy and grace.

It is possibly they may be open to putting you on probation or a form there of; and give you a second chance. If that happens, do be sure to give it your all to show they were not mistaken in giving you that second chance.

Thank you.

^^Yeah, that.^^ I read through this whole thread because I wanted to tell you that.^^

I'm sorry so many other people are so judgmental - amazing isn't it?

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Word got to HR cause her husband found out and wanted the RT fired. The RT didn't get fired but could no longer work in our ICU, which is how we all found out.

Why is it even the RT's fault? It takes two to tango right?

I'm always amazed how men, in particular, feel the need to address this issue with the other guy. In this case, get the guy fired.

Yes, in relationships people can get hurt and if addressing it diplomatically does not resolve the issue, then why stay? In this case, given a male there are so many females out there. Last I check in the US, women outnumber men. Sheesh! Relax people.

I had an ex turn questioning my love for her because I didn't seem to care whether she moved on. The fact is, I cared about her and her unfounded jealousy led her to 'listen' to some other dude. I wished her well and we remained friends in fact. I will be invested in a relationship and will be quick to move on just the same after several attempts at solving a problem. Now for marriage, one needs more resilience! lol

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This is the most entertainment I ve had all week (sadly) thank you adam.

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