I'm getting terminated from my first nursing job

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I have violated a hospital policy, not in patient care or a hippa violation, but I've made a mistake of hooking up with a coworker in the parking lot after work. This ended up to the manager, and we had a meeting with HR, and now I'm on a leave. They claimed it was a sexual act on the company premises and there is witnesses.

I'm devastated, i feel completely retarded and that shouldn't have even happen, but people make mistakes, I'm a hard worker, and now awaiting their decision, there's 90% i'm getting fired because of this.

The thing i'm worried about is what's going to happen if i applied to other jobs, would this affect me at all? is it confidential or what is going to happen?

if anyone has an insight on this will be much appreciated

I apologize, i didn't know where to post this, i'm just stressed out and beating myself everyday for this mistake.

This thread is crazy. Everyone on this thread has exercised poor judgement at times. Some nurses need to step down from their pedestal and reread OP. He wasn't asking for absolution or a ranking of the seriousness of his transgression. He was asking for advice on how to move forward and salvage his career. If you don't think he is worthy of support move on to another poster you think is worthy of your comments.

OP, I wish you the best of luck. I don't know what the best course of action is, but I hope things work out.

Oh, and for the poster who compared sex between consulting adults to murder, I would suggest you buy a sex education book. You seem to have some basic misconceptions.

Thanks for everyone;s opinion and judgement :).

I wasn't asking for a pat on the back, i was asking for opinions, but people just came in here insulting me and telling me how stupid I am, well, hello? i already know how stupid i was.

Specializes in Ambulatory Care.
Thanks for everyone;s opinion and judgement :).

I wasn't asking for a pat on the back, i was asking for opinions, but people just came in here insulting me and telling me how stupid I am, well, hello? i already know how stupid i was.

Dude, that was their opinion. LOL!. :)

Well the fact that I'm hear garuntees at least one perfect person

As evidenced by your incorrect use of the homonym here and spelling of guarantees. Lol I'm sorry, I couldn't help it! ( I'm the worst typer this side of the entire world)

I really have no opinion in this matter other than hoping that we all can take something from reading a thread like this and strive to all be as professional as possible. In that same vein for the love of god OP, or whatever you pay homage to, use proper grammar! It is so distracting to see you use i's instead of capitalizing and other mistakes. You are a graduate RN, write like one!

Jeebus that bugs the heck out of me!

Other than that good luck. I hope you get an amazing new job where your past will stay your past. And keep your snake in your trousers.

I would suggest you review some grammar basics. I would review comma usage, run on sentences and the capitalization of proper nouns. It would, for the love of God, lend credibility to your opinions.

Well, if you're going to air your dirty laundry on a public message board, you should probably grow thicker skin.

My advice from a few pages back still stands. Find a coworker you're buddy-buddy with and have them be your professional reference. And keep looking.

If this all blows over, great. But from the way you described the situation, it looks like it probably won't.

Personally, I don't think they

should fire you over this one indiscretion. But what I feel on that count is irrelevant. What you feel on that count is irrelevant. The ball is in their court now.

As evidenced by your incorrect use of the homonym here and spelling of guarantees. Lol I'm sorry, I couldn't help it! ( I'm the worst typer this side of the entire world)
I am too, but in this case the here/hear was me have fun (in my head i know I'm hilarious, and perfect. Hilarious and perfect I am). The rest was my phone "fixing" my spelling
Specializes in Critical Care.

Definitely try to resign if they are going to fire you. And as another poster said, if they decide to keep you around, keep looking for another job. As soon as you get one, put in your 2 weeks and leave on good terms.

I'm sure you feel like a complete idiot for what y'all did, and I'm sure you are terrified about what is going to happen next. I've had my fate in someone else's hands before and it is a gut wrenching feeling. Mistakes and bad judgement calls create opportunies to improve yourself. This sounds like a wake up call for you that will hopefully lead you to making better decisions in the future... both in your professional and private life. This will pass and whatever the outcome, you will eventually be just fine! Don't ever let something like this happen again!! That kind of bad judgement has gotta go out the window.... for good.

I would suggest you review some grammar basics. I would review comma usage, run on sentences and the capitalization of proper nouns. It would, for the love of God, lend credibility to your opinions.
Technically, the word "god" is only capitalized in specific circumstances. If one is referring to the Judeo-Christian God, then it's a proper noun and is capitalized. But if one just means "god" as in "a god", like Zeus or Athena or whatever, the word is not capitalized. Who knows how britishnomore intended the word? ...... (as long as we're being nit-picky :) )

PEOPLE, focus! This is not English 101. This guy just wants us to show him the light.

I don't have to judge u. What happened happened.

Getting back to your question, here are my thought.

Here are the possibilities:

Resign

Get fired

Stay

:: it is better to resign than to get fired. But it is better to stay at this time as work openings are rare.

:: u can always sense if they are getting u fired because they will not listen to u. Before he will do this, resign. Bring a letter with u at all times. Dont put the date. Lol

:: but when u resign, thank them and be apologetic and admit your faults and what plans u have.

Nonetheless do this:

Look for jobs elsewhere and get a reference from someone who will not judge u for the thing u did but the quality and effective nursing care u always do.

The best thing u can do is to talk to the HR first. Ask her the best move u can make. Do not let her dwell into talking about the thing that had happened but tell her that u have learned from what had happened and you are moving forward and would want to have good opportunities with your career be it in the company or elsewhere.

I wish you good luck and may God bless u in everyway.

I find the responses to this post to be very interesting and its super easy to see those who have lived simple lives and those who have had a bit more adventure as they tend to be more understanding!

Obviously hooking up on company property was a mistake, however, its far from the worst thing to ever happen. I can see how it violates company policy and draws your overall judgement into question.

That being said, if they do decide to terminate you I would try and negotiate a resignation. They may be willing to do that since you didn't put anyone in danger and since your nursing skills aren't in question. Continue to look for new jobs and maybe you can land something before a decision is handed down. Find people who would be willing to give you a recommendation.

I consider myself a "calculated risk-taker" especially when I was younger. Just remember to think things through....you can have passion and adventure on your life while still making responsible decisions. Good luck!

Thank you guys ( last 2 posters) that was helpfulf..

Wouldn't the "not eligible to rehire" hurt my chances of getting a job at any new facility?

Oh my what have I done to myself and career

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