I'm getting terminated from my first nursing job - page 7

by Nurseadam

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I have violated a hospital policy, not in patient care or a hippa violation, but I've made a mistake of hooking up with a coworker in the parking lot after work. This ended up to the manager, and we had a meeting with HR, and now... Read More


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    Quote from Nurseadam
    you know nothing about what happened. I already said i was on a leave, and i have been so apologetic to my employer and asked for a second chance, and all what you are saying, I already know. judging people for their poor decision is still judging, you know nothing about me, who i am, and youre based on your opinion on something i did.

    you make no sense.
    But here you are defensive and angry about being judged based on your actions. If someone kills another person, would you judge them for committing murder, or would that be wrong? Because that's judging, after all. What you did clearly isn't equivalent to murder of course, but it's something you did of your own free will and is completely appropriate to judge. What exactly SHOULD people base their opinions of you on?

    We ARE our actions. They define us. Decisions carry consequences, including the consequence of being judge. You are not a victim here.
    mc3, SoldierNurse22, anotherone, and 11 others like this.
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    It sounds like you don't take constructive criticism well.

    You've said you don't care what other people think, you don't care what someones opinion is.

    "You make no sense" to hiddencatRN? You need to gain some insight.

    People will be judged for their actions.
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    OP I hope you don't lose your job. It was a stupid mistake and I am sure one that will never happen again. We all have done stupid things in our life oh wait a minute not everyone, just those who aren't perfect! But by the responses you have received there are aLot of perfect people on the forum. Best of luck to you!
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    Okay, so what I want to know is....how charming/good-looking are you? 'cause like...you weren't dating this person before, I'm assuming. To get a co-worker you aren't in a relationship with to do it with you in the car in the parking lot after work...that must take something! That was the first thing I thought. xD

    Also, get a private room off of work property from now on. That's just inappropriate.
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    OP: for someone who posted on a public forum, you are very defensive and rude. Munchhausen by Internet? You do bad things you get punished. That's how the world works, deal with it! I can hear my mother now "If your old enough to have sex, you need to be mature enough to deal with the consequences" Maybe your not? I do truly hope you can move on, find a good job (a decently priced motel) and think with your head...uhh, brain from now on.

    Hiddencat you have my mind going wild!
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    Quote from Little Panda RN
    OP I hope you don't lose your job. It was a stupid mistake and I am sure one that will never happen again. We all have done stupid things in our life oh wait a minute not everyone, just those who aren't perfect! But by the responses you have received there are aLot of perfect people on the forum. Best of luck to you!
    Well the fact that I'm hear garuntees at least one perfect person
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    I'm sorry you are going through this! But, I think oversharing on the internet isn't being prudent either. I guess the situation is vague enough to apply to a number of hospitals. But, the way we are on the internet..we LURVE details! And there are already a pretty good number of details to pin it down.

    I'm hoping for your sake you can wash this topic off the board, and wash your hands of this awful situation. Be apologetic, and try to leave the hospital on the nicest terms possible.
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    Quote from Nurseadam

    you know nothing about what happened. I already said i was on a leave, and i have been so apologetic to my employer and asked for a second chance, and all what you are saying, I already know. judging people for their poor decision is still judging, you know nothing about me, who i am, and youre based on your opinion on something i did.

    you make no sense.
    I really have no opinion in this matter other than hoping that we all can take something from reading a thread like this and strive to all be as professional as possible. In that same vein for the love of god OP, or whatever you pay homage to, use proper grammar! It is so distracting to see you use i's instead of capitalizing and other mistakes. You are a graduate RN, write like one!
    Jeebus that bugs the heck out of me!


    Other than that good luck. I hope you get an amazing new job where your past will stay your past. And keep your snake in your trousers.
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    If you're looking for a direct answer to your question- I would resign. Even if they took you back. I have a feeling you'd find your place of employment a very hostile and unplesant place to work at that point. Gossip spreads pretty fast.

    It's not much of a comfort but your "transgression" could be so much worse. I mean I'm not sure what might look worse to a potential employer- what you did, or doing something else like neglect of a patient. I guess to me the latter. If an application asks why you left this job...well I don't know. You could put "personal" and if the potiental employer inquired further, you could just be straightforward, and say you are sorry it happened, you understand the poor light it might shine on you, but you assure them that it's not in your nature to do something with such little regard for policy. (And that's not an extra jab at you, it just sounds good).

    In the mean time if you have co-workers who you feel can speak to your true character, you might need to do some pleading. Stuff happens, yes. Like the rest of the people on this forum I'm not sure why the parking lot and not somewhere off campus would have sufficed. I'm also curious as to who would have ratted you out- who would have known it was you? Were they in for a peek show or something?! I hope this all passes and you are able to move on, and for the other one involved as well.
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    It is too exhausting to read through all these posts, so I will just answer your question in case it hasn't been answered already. "The thing i'm worried about is what's going to happen if i applied to other jobs, would this affect me at all? is it confidential or what is going to happen?" I believe the only thing your current employer can say to your future employer that will hurt you is that you are not eligible for rehire. I doubt they could or would talk about the parking lot nonsense.


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