I'm getting terminated from my first nursing job

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I have violated a hospital policy, not in patient care or a hippa violation, but I've made a mistake of hooking up with a coworker in the parking lot after work. This ended up to the manager, and we had a meeting with HR, and now I'm on a leave. They claimed it was a sexual act on the company premises and there is witnesses.

I'm devastated, i feel completely retarded and that shouldn't have even happen, but people make mistakes, I'm a hard worker, and now awaiting their decision, there's 90% i'm getting fired because of this.

The thing i'm worried about is what's going to happen if i applied to other jobs, would this affect me at all? is it confidential or what is going to happen?

if anyone has an insight on this will be much appreciated

I apologize, i didn't know where to post this, i'm just stressed out and beating myself everyday for this mistake.

you know nothing about what happened. I already said i was on a leave, and i have been so apologetic to my employer and asked for a second chance, and all what you are saying, I already know. judging people for their poor decision is still judging, you know nothing about me, who i am, and youre based on your opinion on something i did.

you make no sense.

But here you are defensive and angry about being judged based on your actions. If someone kills another person, would you judge them for committing murder, or would that be wrong? Because that's judging, after all. What you did clearly isn't equivalent to murder of course, but it's something you did of your own free will and is completely appropriate to judge. What exactly SHOULD people base their opinions of you on?

We ARE our actions. They define us. Decisions carry consequences, including the consequence of being judge. You are not a victim here.

It sounds like you don't take constructive criticism well.

You've said you don't care what other people think, you don't care what someones opinion is.

"You make no sense" to hiddencatRN? You need to gain some insight.

People will be judged for their actions.

Specializes in Assisted Living Nurse Manager.

OP I hope you don't lose your job. It was a stupid mistake and I am sure one that will never happen again. We all have done stupid things in our life oh wait a minute not everyone, just those who aren't perfect! But by the responses you have received there are aLot of perfect people on the forum. Best of luck to you!

Specializes in L&D.

Okay, so what I want to know is....how charming/good-looking are you? 'cause like...you weren't dating this person before, I'm assuming. To get a co-worker you aren't in a relationship with to do it with you in the car in the parking lot after work...that must take something! That was the first thing I thought. xD

Also, get a private room off of work property from now on. That's just inappropriate.

OP: for someone who posted on a public forum, you are very defensive and rude. Munchhausen by Internet? You do bad things you get punished. That's how the world works, deal with it! I can hear my mother now "If your old enough to have sex, you need to be mature enough to deal with the consequences" Maybe your not? I do truly hope you can move on, find a good job (a decently priced motel) and think with your head...uhh, brain from now on.

Hiddencat you have my mind going wild!

OP I hope you don't lose your job. It was a stupid mistake and I am sure one that will never happen again. We all have done stupid things in our life oh wait a minute not everyone, just those who aren't perfect! But by the responses you have received there are aLot of perfect people on the forum. Best of luck to you!

Well the fact that I'm hear garuntees at least one perfect person

I'm sorry you are going through this! But, I think oversharing on the internet isn't being prudent either. I guess the situation is vague enough to apply to a number of hospitals. But, the way we are on the internet..we LURVE details! And there are already a pretty good number of details to pin it down.

I'm hoping for your sake you can wash this topic off the board, and wash your hands of this awful situation. Be apologetic, and try to leave the hospital on the nicest terms possible.

you know nothing about what happened. I already said i was on a leave, and i have been so apologetic to my employer and asked for a second chance, and all what you are saying, I already know. judging people for their poor decision is still judging, you know nothing about me, who i am, and youre based on your opinion on something i did.

you make no sense.

I really have no opinion in this matter other than hoping that we all can take something from reading a thread like this and strive to all be as professional as possible. In that same vein for the love of god OP, or whatever you pay homage to, use proper grammar! It is so distracting to see you use i's instead of capitalizing and other mistakes. You are a graduate RN, write like one!

Jeebus that bugs the heck out of me!

Other than that good luck. I hope you get an amazing new job where your past will stay your past. And keep your snake in your trousers.

Specializes in OB (with a history of cardiac).

If you're looking for a direct answer to your question- I would resign. Even if they took you back. I have a feeling you'd find your place of employment a very hostile and unplesant place to work at that point. Gossip spreads pretty fast.

It's not much of a comfort but your "transgression" could be so much worse. I mean I'm not sure what might look worse to a potential employer- what you did, or doing something else like neglect of a patient. I guess to me the latter. If an application asks why you left this job...well I don't know. You could put "personal" and if the potiental employer inquired further, you could just be straightforward, and say you are sorry it happened, you understand the poor light it might shine on you, but you assure them that it's not in your nature to do something with such little regard for policy. (And that's not an extra jab at you, it just sounds good).

In the mean time if you have co-workers who you feel can speak to your true character, you might need to do some pleading. Stuff happens, yes. Like the rest of the people on this forum I'm not sure why the parking lot and not somewhere off campus would have sufficed. I'm also curious as to who would have ratted you out- who would have known it was you? Were they in for a peek show or something?! I hope this all passes and you are able to move on, and for the other one involved as well.

It is too exhausting to read through all these posts, so I will just answer your question in case it hasn't been answered already. "The thing i'm worried about is what's going to happen if i applied to other jobs, would this affect me at all? is it confidential or what is going to happen?" I believe the only thing your current employer can say to your future employer that will hurt you is that you are not eligible for rehire. I doubt they could or would talk about the parking lot nonsense.

Specializes in Ambulatory Care.

So you did admit you did a stupid thing. Congratulations! Next step would be to face the consequences - good or bad. If you get fired, man up just like what some folks here said, try to not to burn (or blow up) the bridge, exit quietly with whatever dignity you have left. You seem like a good person who just made an unwise decision so I am sure that there are other coworkers out there whom you can use as a reference. If you don't get fired, work there until you reach one year but at the same time, keep looking for a job at another place. Then leave the place in good terms. It will be a fresh start for you. OP, you really are going to be okay. Things happen for a reason and perhaps somewhere down the line several years from now, you will look back and think about this incident and tell yourself that you DID survive and have become a wiser person because of it. Good luck!

PS.

This IS a public forum so people are allowed to express their opinions (good or bad). You willingly aired your laundry out for the entire neighborhood to see. The good thing though is that we truly don't know you from Adam's housecat because we are all hiding behind our computer screens. So, take no offense from those who offer advice, flame, condemn, or even crucify you for being a horny bastard. :yes:

Specializes in LTC, med/surg, hospice.

I guess OP wanted a pat on the back and thumbs up. Oh well. You made your bed...

I would resign. I would want to make a fresh start AsAP without being known as the one that was boinking in the parking lot. Awkward! Coworkers have elephant memories.

I'm young..I'm all for having fun and whatnot but you can't just live in the moment. Plenty have done what you did and didn't get caught.

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