I'm getting terminated from my first nursing job - page 6

I have violated a hospital policy, not in patient care or a hippa violation, but I've made a mistake of hooking up with a coworker in the parking lot after work. This ended up to the manager, and we... Read More

  1. Visit  Daisy_08 profile page
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    Quote from Little Panda RN
    OP I hope you don't lose your job. It was a stupid mistake and I am sure one that will never happen again. We all have done stupid things in our life oh wait a minute not everyone, just those who aren't perfect! But by the responses you have received there are aLot of perfect people on the forum. Best of luck to you!
    Well the fact that I'm hear garuntees at least one perfect person
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  3. Visit  FlorenceNtheMachine profile page
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    I'm sorry you are going through this! But, I think oversharing on the internet isn't being prudent either. I guess the situation is vague enough to apply to a number of hospitals. But, the way we are on the internet..we LURVE details! And there are already a pretty good number of details to pin it down.

    I'm hoping for your sake you can wash this topic off the board, and wash your hands of this awful situation. Be apologetic, and try to leave the hospital on the nicest terms possible.
    anotherone and Not_A_Hat_Person like this.
  4. Visit  britishnomore profile page
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    Quote from Nurseadam

    you know nothing about what happened. I already said i was on a leave, and i have been so apologetic to my employer and asked for a second chance, and all what you are saying, I already know. judging people for their poor decision is still judging, you know nothing about me, who i am, and youre based on your opinion on something i did.

    you make no sense.
    I really have no opinion in this matter other than hoping that we all can take something from reading a thread like this and strive to all be as professional as possible. In that same vein for the love of god OP, or whatever you pay homage to, use proper grammar! It is so distracting to see you use i's instead of capitalizing and other mistakes. You are a graduate RN, write like one!
    Jeebus that bugs the heck out of me!


    Other than that good luck. I hope you get an amazing new job where your past will stay your past. And keep your snake in your trousers.
  5. Visit  PeepnBiscuitsRN profile page
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    If you're looking for a direct answer to your question- I would resign. Even if they took you back. I have a feeling you'd find your place of employment a very hostile and unplesant place to work at that point. Gossip spreads pretty fast.

    It's not much of a comfort but your "transgression" could be so much worse. I mean I'm not sure what might look worse to a potential employer- what you did, or doing something else like neglect of a patient. I guess to me the latter. If an application asks why you left this job...well I don't know. You could put "personal" and if the potiental employer inquired further, you could just be straightforward, and say you are sorry it happened, you understand the poor light it might shine on you, but you assure them that it's not in your nature to do something with such little regard for policy. (And that's not an extra jab at you, it just sounds good).

    In the mean time if you have co-workers who you feel can speak to your true character, you might need to do some pleading. Stuff happens, yes. Like the rest of the people on this forum I'm not sure why the parking lot and not somewhere off campus would have sufficed. I'm also curious as to who would have ratted you out- who would have known it was you? Were they in for a peek show or something?! I hope this all passes and you are able to move on, and for the other one involved as well.
    anotherone and CareQueen like this.
  6. Visit  mariebailey profile page
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    It is too exhausting to read through all these posts, so I will just answer your question in case it hasn't been answered already. "The thing i'm worried about is what's going to happen if i applied to other jobs, would this affect me at all? is it confidential or what is going to happen?" I believe the only thing your current employer can say to your future employer that will hurt you is that you are not eligible for rehire. I doubt they could or would talk about the parking lot nonsense.
  7. Visit  gothichipchick profile page
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    So you did admit you did a stupid thing. Congratulations! Next step would be to face the consequences - good or bad. If you get fired, man up just like what some folks here said, try to not to burn (or blow up) the bridge, exit quietly with whatever dignity you have left. You seem like a good person who just made an unwise decision so I am sure that there are other coworkers out there whom you can use as a reference. If you don't get fired, work there until you reach one year but at the same time, keep looking for a job at another place. Then leave the place in good terms. It will be a fresh start for you. OP, you really are going to be okay. Things happen for a reason and perhaps somewhere down the line several years from now, you will look back and think about this incident and tell yourself that you DID survive and have become a wiser person because of it. Good luck!

    PS.
    This IS a public forum so people are allowed to express their opinions (good or bad). You willingly aired your laundry out for the entire neighborhood to see. The good thing though is that we truly don't know you from Adam's housecat because we are all hiding behind our computer screens. So, take no offense from those who offer advice, flame, condemn, or even crucify you for being a horny bastard.
    Not_A_Hat_Person, Red35, and Tina, RN like this.
  8. Visit  Caffeine_IV profile page
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    I guess OP wanted a pat on the back and thumbs up. Oh well. You made your bed...

    I would resign. I would want to make a fresh start AsAP without being known as the one that was boinking in the parking lot. Awkward! Coworkers have elephant memories.

    I'm young..I'm all for having fun and whatnot but you can't just live in the moment. Plenty have done what you did and didn't get caught.
    SoldierNurse22, KelRN215, and Tina, RN like this.
  9. Visit  drowningdaily profile page
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    This thread is crazy. Everyone on this thread has exercised poor judgement at times. Some nurses need to step down from their pedestal and reread OP. He wasn't asking for absolution or a ranking of the seriousness of his transgression. He was asking for advice on how to move forward and salvage his career. If you don't think he is worthy of support move on to another poster you think is worthy of your comments.

    OP, I wish you the best of luck. I don't know what the best course of action is, but I hope things work out.

    Oh, and for the poster who compared sex between consulting adults to murder, I would suggest you buy a sex education book. You seem to have some basic misconceptions.
    anotherone, ktwlpn, AnonRNC, and 1 other like this.
  10. Visit  Nurseadam profile page
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    Thanks for everyone;s opinion and judgement .

    I wasn't asking for a pat on the back, i was asking for opinions, but people just came in here insulting me and telling me how stupid I am, well, hello? i already know how stupid i was.
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  11. Visit  gothichipchick profile page
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    Quote from Nurseadam
    Thanks for everyone;s opinion and judgement .

    I wasn't asking for a pat on the back, i was asking for opinions, but people just came in here insulting me and telling me how stupid I am, well, hello? i already know how stupid i was.
    Dude, that was their opinion. LOL!.
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  12. Visit  gaonsi profile page
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    Quote from Daisy_08

    Well the fact that I'm hear garuntees at least one perfect person
    As evidenced by your incorrect use of the homonym here and spelling of guarantees. Lol I'm sorry, I couldn't help it! ( I'm the worst typer this side of the entire world)
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  13. Visit  drowningdaily profile page
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    Quote from britishnomore

    I really have no opinion in this matter other than hoping that we all can take something from reading a thread like this and strive to all be as professional as possible. In that same vein for the love of god OP, or whatever you pay homage to, use proper grammar! It is so distracting to see you use i's instead of capitalizing and other mistakes. You are a graduate RN, write like one!
    Jeebus that bugs the heck out of me!

    Other than that good luck. I hope you get an amazing new job where your past will stay your past. And keep your snake in your trousers.
    I would suggest you review some grammar basics. I would review comma usage, run on sentences and the capitalization of proper nouns. It would, for the love of God, lend credibility to your opinions.
  14. Visit  BrandonLPN profile page
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    Well, if you're going to air your dirty laundry on a public message board, you should probably grow thicker skin.

    My advice from a few pages back still stands. Find a coworker you're buddy-buddy with and have them be your professional reference. And keep looking.

    If this all blows over, great. But from the way you described the situation, it looks like it probably won't.

    Personally, I don't think they
    should fire you over this one indiscretion. But what I feel on that count is irrelevant. What you feel on that count is irrelevant. The ball is in their court now.
    SoldierNurse22, anotherone, and Altra like this.


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