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I'm getting terminated from my first nursing job - page 4

I have violated a hospital policy, not in patient care or a hippa violation, but I've made a mistake of hooking up with a coworker in the parking lot after work. This ended up to the manager, and we... Read More

  1. Visit  Rnandsoccermom profile page
    #39 1
    One thing I have learned over many years is never try and give people ammunition to use against you. Keep your personal life personal.
    Good luck.
  2. Visit  BrandonLPN profile page
    #40 8
    Quote from Nurseadam
    nurses are human too, so stop judging people. I am a patient advocate in the nursing setting, but when i clock off, i do whatever i want, it's no ones business, but i misjudged this and made a huge mistake.
    I agree that people shouldn't judge so much. But what you did wasn't really just "your business". By doing it where you did, you made it your employer's business, too.
  3. Visit  BostonFNP profile page
    #41 7
    Many of my friends and RN colleagues not only m their spouses in the hospital, but *gasp* had relations with them in the hospital. Is it professional? No. Is it the right thing to do? No. Does it happen a the time between nurses, interns, residents, attendings, RTs, PTs, Pharms, etc? Yes.

    Provided this person wasn't your boss, your employee, or a patient, really it's not the worst thing in the world, in my opinion. Hope you don't get fired.

    If you do, maybe having a little passion in life is worth the consequences.
  4. Visit  BrandonLPN profile page
    I'm no prude, but having sex in a public place (like a hospital parking lot or a supply closet) is more than just some harmless act of passion. If this happens "all the time" where you work, it must be a very different hospital than the one I worked at.
  5. Visit  hiddencatRN profile page
    #43 5
    Quote from SionainnRN
    All HR can say if you are fired is that you were terminated and whether or not you're on the do not rehire list. I don't think they are allowed to give out the details of your firing.
    They can give out any truthful information they want. Most places have a policy to confirm dates, salary and rehireability though, but that's a facility choice, not a law.
  6. Visit  Mulan profile page
    #44 0
    By the way, what happened to the coworker you hooked up with?
  7. Visit  Nurseadam profile page
    #45 0
    Quote from BrandonLPN
    I'm no prude, but having sex in a public place (like a hospital parking lot or a supply closet) is more than just some harmless act of passion. If this happens "all the time" where you work, it must be a very different hospital than the one I worked at.
    i never said it happens all the time where i work. it's a mistake, i got it.
  8. Visit  Nurseadam profile page
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    Quote from Nurseadam
    i never said it happens all the time where i work. it's a mistake, i got it.
    she's in the same boat
  9. Visit  Boog'sCRRN246 profile page
    #47 8
    What a leap. I hope you're not trying to group yourself with HIV patients and drug addict patients as those are legitimate conditions. Getting busted for hooking up in a parking lot doesn't spark a lot of compassion in me. Sorry. Hope you learn from your actions and it doesn't affect future employment.

    Quote from Nurseadam
    so you must not have compassion for HIV and drug addicts patients then. some of you shouldn't be nurses with all this dumb judgement on people. get out of this thread with your negative energy, im already devastated.
  10. Visit  BrandonLPN profile page
    #48 5
    Quote from Nurseadam
    i never said it happens all the time where i work. it's a mistake, i got it.
    I was referring to BostonFNP's post where he/she said hanky panky happens all the time between coworkers. Must be one of those sexy TV hospitals!
  11. Visit  armygirl2013 profile page
    #49 1
    But they do it on Grey's Anatomy all the tiiiiiiiiime!

    *snicker*

    Sorry I have nothing substantial to add, just good luck.
  12. Visit  canned_bread profile page
    #50 1
    I truly think your workplace is overreacting, and who dobbed you in, like seriously?! I guess you can just look elsewhere and hope for the best. It should be kept private because obviously you have learnt!
  13. Visit  hiddencatRN profile page
    Quote from lilaclover6984
    I don't see how it makes any difference if the OP is a man or a woman...
    Well, if the OP is a guy we should stop referring to him as a "she."

    And to the OP, here's the thing: you are going to be judged for this. Here, by your coworkers if you're not fired, by prospective employers if it gets to them, etc. You're not being judged for something you had no control over; you're being judged for exercising very poor decision making, and you know what, that is a completely fair reason to be evaluated and judged. Telling us not to judge you and saying "yeah I know it was wrong but don't kick me when I'm down" suggest that you don't fully appreciate that bad decisions often have bad consequences that you must deal with. Sometimes it's not enough to say "my bad, won't happen again" and everyone moves on. Sometimes it takes time to rebuild your reputation.

    I say this as someone who royally screwed up in the past; my mistake makes yours pale in comparison. You are nowhere near done eating crow for this, so take a deep breath, think about what is being said here, and be prepared to be completely humble and apologetic with your employer.

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