I'm getting terminated from my first nursing job - page 4

I have violated a hospital policy, not in patient care or a hippa violation, but I've made a mistake of hooking up with a coworker in the parking lot after work. This ended up to the manager, and we had a meeting with HR, and now... Read More

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    I don't see how it makes any difference if the OP is a man or a woman...
    anotherone likes this.

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    Could have been worse. Could have been caught in an empty pt room or a linen closet!
    anotherone, CareQueen, kogafietsen, and 1 other like this.
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    If this is not a bogus made up post, why in the world would you do something like that?
    redhead_NURSE98! likes this.
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    Quote from lilaclover6984
    Jeesh!! What a judgey bunch of people we have here!
    Sure, she messed up but who did it really hurt other than herself? She came here looking for support from her fellow nurses and you all get on your high horse and start condemning her like a bunch of nuns.
    It's no wonder nursing can be so miserable sometimes. There is no solidarity and the profession is full of a bunch of hollier-than-thou prudes who would turn on their own in a heartbeat. She wasn't asking anyone to approve of what she did, just looking for support for her peers. I'm ashamed to be a part of a profession that treats each other this way.
    Are you kidding? We strive to be treated as professionals.Don't you see how this kind of thing is a problem? Most of us have worked with staff who did the dirty in the LTC,hospital,doctor's office,etc.Is that really the kind of nurse YOU want to be?Sorry but its' not the kind of nurse I want to support and show solidarity with.They are not 14 yrs old. As professionals we are held to a higher standard-it's not as if they worked at Subway and did it behind the dumpster after their shift.To the OP-I hope you have learned from this and are sorry you did it,not just sorry that you were caught.You know how tough the job market is-good luck....
    mc3, SoldierNurse22, Hoozdo, and 8 others like this.
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    resign or get fired?

    that's probably the better question.


    I did it because of lack of judgement at that day, it was stupid, i know, and i feel like a dumb teenage kid, i already said all that to myself before any of you posted, so you're just repeating it.
    anotherone likes this.
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    Quote from ktwlpn
    Are you kidding? We strive to be treated as professionals.Don't you see how this kind of thing is a problem? Most of us have worked with staff who did the dirty in the LTC,hospital,doctor's office,etc.Is that really the kind of nurse YOU want to be?Sorry but its' not the kind of nurse I want to support and show solidarity with.They are not 14 yrs old. As professionals we are held to a higher standard-it's not as if they worked at Subway and did it behind the dumpster after their shift.To the OP-I hope you have learned from this and are sorry you did it,not just sorry that you were caught.You know how tough the job market is-good luck....
    nurses are human too, so stop judging people. I am a patient advocate in the nursing setting, but when i clock off, i do whatever i want, it's no ones business, but i misjudged this and made a huge mistake.
    anotherone likes this.
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    If you *have* to use this job as a reference, make sure to find a coworker who will give you a good one. Preferably someone you're on friendly terms with who will have pity.

    The reference you list doesn't
    necessarily have to be your supervisor. If you have a RN coworker who occasionally acted as charge nurse, you can list him as your boss and, technically, it's not a lie.

    I've had several CNAs who have listed me as their supervisor, even though I wasn't. But, me being a nurse and them being a CNA, I could vaugely state they worked under me which is technically true. They left on bad terms with management and made poor choices, but were good people and didn't deserve to be "blacklisted".

    Of course, if future prospective employers bypass your references and call HR directly, all this is moot.

    Some might say this advice is morally questionable. You're really at the mercy of your current employer if this is the only place you've worked as a nurse. A bad reference can make or break you. You gotta do what you gotta do.
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    We don't exist in a vacuum, and some may question whether your judgement or lack of extends to your on duty time.
    SoldierNurse22, ktwlpn, doomsayer, and 1 other like this.
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    Resign or get fired?

    What are you going to put as your reason for resigning? Having sex in the parking lot with witnesses?

    You could take your chances, maybe you won't get fired and if you do maybe you can collect unemployment.
    SoldierNurse22 and anotherone like this.
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    One thing I have learned over many years is never try and give people ammunition to use against you. Keep your personal life personal.
    Good luck.
    BrandonLPN likes this.


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