Got "nurse face"? How'd you get it? - page 4
"Nurse face" = the calm, collected expression that a nurse wears I am a BSN, graduated Sept, no job yet (but looking hard), 2 years experience in LTC, and right now doing temporary caregiving/sitting work in an LTC (private... Read More
- 0Dec 29, '12 by HollyBSNtoNPHaha, I've never heard the term "nurse face" before, although most nurses can pull off a great poker face. I have worked with a few nurses who have a very expressive affect which never influenced the care they gave, while on the other hand I've worked with nurses who had a "nurse face," but would run around like a chicken with their head cut off. The latter of the two types negatively affects my work atmosphere as I am constantly distracted and often have to give them support (not helping with the patient, but helping the nurse calm down).
You say the tension "gets to your face" - is it because you are concentrating or are you having issues with multitasking?
- 0Dec 30, '12 by sixela21Emotionally detached nurse...I am not mocking you at all--it is actually a good skill to have at times. I believe there has to be some balance between empathy and being able to compartmentalize--otherwise you will go insane. I am way too empathetic. I wish I was able to do this.
- 0Dec 30, '12 by WildflowerRNWhen a patient is awake and in pain, I use my "I hate that you're hurting face. What can I do to make it better?" face. But sometimes, putting emotions aside and making quick decisions in the situation is what's called for. If a family member or patient seems upset, I explain. Worked for me so far.
- 1Dec 30, '12 by brittne
I think you start developing the 'nurse face' or something similar to it the moment you enter into the customer service field...
It helps to cushion and brace for the unexpected...
For being in the customer service field for almost 10 years, I have perfected mine through...well, experience. I am sure it will only become more refined as I journey through nursing school...Last edit by brittne on Dec 30, '12
- 0Dec 30, '12 by subeeQuote from sixela21Maybe it would help if you think of it as an issue of needing to develop healthier boundaries rather than too much empathy. You are not the patient; the patient is not you. Once you incorporate better separation, you'll be able to survive the onslaught of emotions that can constantly grind you down.Emotionally detached nurse...I am not mocking you at all--it is actually a good skill to have at times. I believe there has to be some balance between empathy and being able to compartmentalize--otherwise you will go insane. I am way too empathetic. I wish I was able to do this.
Of course, there are exceptional patients that make you cry when you get home but better that be the rare case rather than the common.
- 0Dec 30, '12 by Dehlia7I was reprimanded for seeming like I 'didn't care'. after over 20 years in this business in varying roles, I know this had to do with 'nurse face' because my superior described that as the problem. Be an actress. This is what i was told. My friends tell me that I have shown great caring throughout my life, by my actions, and the comfort i've given them in words. Be yourself. I am not a perky person, but from nursing school 20 yrs ago, to the present I have been asked to pound a square peg in a round hole. I took some of my superior's specific advice, but not the mandate to change my personality.