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- Mar 31, '12 by bill4745yup, me to...i'm quiet until i need to be otherwise, then i have no problem speaking up lol
- Mar 31, '12 by Marshall1I too am "quiet" - I don't go for gossip and when I worked in the float pool (which I liked), I was left out of the politics of each unit - which was great. I interacted w/the other workers of course, offered to help or asked them questions, was polite and professional but didn't just hang out, slacking off or talking all day about whatever was the latest upset for the unit. I prefer to eat lunch alone though is someone asked to sit w/me I would say yes and keep the conversation focused on them or if they asked me personal questions I would answer but not go into depth on anything. I do not confuse coworkers with friends - though I know coworkers CAN be a friend. I just think giving too much personal info. at work can come back & bite you in the butt. And if it's a gossipy unit, you can bet they will also talk about you. You are you. People can like it or lump it but as long as you are ethical, honest and professional - you are good to go.
- Mar 31, '12 by BostonTerrierLoverRNQuote from gitanornwow, that's scary how close that is to what i wanted to say.unquestionably, i'm in total silence when i'm in a new crowd. however, once i get to know the people around me i loosen up, and the more out going personality sneaks out of me... as a matter of fact i strongly believe there are listeners and those that are considered the life of the party, but in my book is good to have both for balance
i entered nursing school at 17, and was a shy "just out of high school" boy. nursing school really changed me, and being on the floors after nsg school really cracked the nut.
i had to learn to be assertive (the hardest trait i ever adopted), especially to one specific supervisor who would run my unit over. she was very easy to frustrate, and quick to raise her voice at my unit's nurses (who did not deserve the treatment, as i did not have one lazy, weak, or reckless nurse on my shift. everyone was just totally snowed under! i had a sweet, but strong lpn (one of my nursing heros) who i told one night, "i really hate she talked to you that way, you didn't deserve that." she said something i never forgot, "the only thing that really bothers me is that you didn't stand up for me when she was here talking to me that way."
i failed her (lpn), because i didn't know how to be assertive. if i had attempted to reason with that supervisor that the lpn was doing everything in her power to keep up with demand, she would have chewed me up and spit me out. i was terrified. but, i had to show my staff i had their backs, and that i knew they were doing their best. i had to learn you could be "humble," and be assertive at the same time.
the next time she came raving on my unit, i swallowed, tensed up, and i felt my face burn. i opened the door of our glassed in nsg station, she paced in , door shuts,. . ."ms. xxxxxxxxx please do not come on my unit raising your voice like that. i have patients that are asleep, and we keep this unit going as best we can in a quiet and orderly manner. also, if you are having problems with one of my staff members, i wish you would talk to me about it in private. this unit is stressful enough without any added hostility, and my patients deserve a calm environment without yelling, drama, and slamming doors. i understand you are frustrated and angry with me, but if you can't handle your temper, please phone me-you can then be as loud as you want to!, and please don't upset my unit by storming in here like this!"
she stormed off, i thought my career was over, and 10 minutes later she called me and "asked!" was the room ready yet? i remember trying to hang up the phone with a trembling hand, the way it clicked and clacked around before resting on the reciever.
she did mellow about 50% more over the next few weeks she worked there, but she never ran over my unit again in person. she did at least hold her verbal assaults for me (contained to a phone call), and not the nurses on my team! and her demands turned into requests (huge victory!)
most of all, i gained the respect of my staff, and my hostile supervisor.
i had to learn how to not be a quiet nurse. it took blind courage, a severe stomach ache, and a few sweat breakouts.
don't let your quiet nature avoid you from being assertive, that's all.
- Mar 31, '12 by nursemarionI get so sick of people insisting/demanding that we smile and be outgoing all the time. I am an introvert and I get extremely uncomfortable when people try to "bring me out of my shell". None of their business who I am or what I do. Be professional with me, maybe in time we will become friends but don't push me. I can't stand it. I am quiet, always have been. It helps me focus and stay out of trouble. The older I get the more I resent the people who push me so and do not just accept that I am who I am.
- Mar 31, '12 by Ruby VeeQuote from newgrad_statsome people are louder, others are quieter. the problem is when one or the other starts to believe that they're better than the other . . . .n
but i knew coming on the floor for the first day... i'd be pretty quiet.
and i noticed many of the nurses are very obnoxiously loud... gossiping and everything.
i don't mind chatting but i don't want to be apart of gossip.
during break the charge nurse even said to me "you're not normally this quiet are you?" and then she said "oh boy" and i was thinking i'd rather be quiet than be like you.
of course everyone is going to have a different personality but wow.
your "obnoxiously loud" might be someone else's "friendly and outgoing." and your "quiet" may be someone else's "stuck-up and snobby" or "weird and unfriendly."
- Mar 31, '12 by linguineI just finished a book, "Quiet: the Power of Introvert in a World That Can't Stop Talking" by Susan Cain, an ex wall street lawyer. She said "1/3 to 1/2 of people are introverts." She discusses the benefits of being "quiet" in your personal and professional life. One natural benefit is that introverts think more before they speak. Reading a lot of the posts above, it seems that a lot of the introverts in this thread say that they naturally do this, supporting her research. Introverts are also more comfortable following their intuition and are less risk averse. Warren Buffet is an introvert. Some argue that his nature helped him gather and KEEP so much wealth.
She recently wrote an article, "The New Groupthink" noting how work spaces are now shifting towards more open office plans (first thing I thought of: busy, loud nursing stations). She does not support this shift necessarily. She does provide alternative plans. A lot of her suggestions can be implemented in health care.
Her article in NYT can be found here: http://www.nytimes.com/2012/01/15/op...pagewanted=all
Her TED talk, if you do not want to read the book, is a good introduction: Susan Cain: The power of introverts - YouTube
What some may interpret as your weakness may actually be your best strength (this goes for introverts and extroverts).Last edit by linguine on Mar 31, '12
- Mar 31, '12 by LynnLRNWell think of it this way. You are coming into a group of nurses who have all probably known each other for quite some time. So maybe they once were quiet like you but have now become a family and appear what seems to be "loud and obnoxious" to you but its just them making work more enjoyable for themselves, because they are now comfortable with each other.
- Mar 31, '12 by whichone'spinkI've been a quiet person most of my life. In nursing school however, I've learned that I need to speak up. Otherwise I will get run over. I've also learned that I need to be more aggressive in pursuing things. Otherwise I'll be stuck in a career rut. Of course, there is a fine line between being aggressive and being persistent.It's very tiring to act like someone that I'm not. I hate that nursing has way too many loud and obnoxious people. I've been one of those people that's been misconceived as a snob. I heard from one of my friends in college. It's funny that me, a quiet person chose nursing profession, which as a whole is a people profession. I shouldn't have chosen it in hindsight, but now that I'm in I'm not one to back down.
- Mar 31, '12 by BrannrayI have also always been very shy and quiet around people I don't know, but once I get comfortable around someone I do get more outgoing and talkative. I don't think it makes you a "worse" nurse. It seems better to me when you're calm and not so loud. When you're sick, that would probably make you nervous with all the loud noise!
- Mar 31, '12 by BostonTerrierLoverRNI have always found that if I "expect" something, there is a bigger chance of it happening. If you expect to run into difficult, loud, and demanding nurses you will. On-the-otherhand, if you expect to find a good team with a variety of personalities that all work together interchangeably, you will regret losing even ONE of those personalities on your team.
It's all those colors that make a painting gorgeous, not just the bright, loud, beautiful colors. (wow, that sounded alot more artsy fartsy than I was shooting for)! Lol