1. I'm a brand new nurse starting my second career at age 49. I've already encountered some jealousy and plain spitefulness from younger more experienced nurses and I'm just orienting. My friend told me that I had to realize that not everyone was happy I made it through school and passed the NCLEX. I just want to do a good job and be the best I can be. What's the best advice you would give a new nurse like me?
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  3. by   wish_me_luck
    I am a new nurse as well. So, there is my disclaimer. I have a question, what makes you think they are jealous? You seem nice, but just because they come across as mean does not mean they are jealous. They are younger and have experience. Nothing seems to scream jealousy. Maybe that is their personality or maybe they burnt out.

    Do your job, worry about yourself. The cool thing about being in the nurse role is that for the most part when you go about your day, you have the responsibility of patient care. People like CNAs must interact with the nurse, so if the personalities clash, it sucks big time. But as nurse, unless there is insulin and blood checks, you function independently of other nurses. Just ignore them.
  4. by   HouTx
    Agree with PP. Why in the world would your co-workers be unhappy about the fact that you "made it through school and passed NCLEX"? Doesn't make sense to me.

    The best advice I can offer is to stop personalizing everything. It's not always about you. New grads need to be humble and accepting of constructive feedback. It doesn't matter how successful & experienced you were in your former career.... you're a newbie now. If you don't want others to stereotype you based on your age... don't do it to others. Those younger nurses are deserving of your respect because they have more experience. The ball's in your court - take actions necessary to improve your relation with experienced staff so you can benefit from their guidance.
  5. by   CrunchRN
    How is your attitude? Are you accepting of their superior knowledge and grateful for their help. You and I both know that in other ways we know much more than them, but right now that does not matter because what is important is learning how to be a nurse. If you are letting feelings of being more life experienced or mature seep over into your interactions that will cause a problem.
  6. by   SNB1014
    I had this issue the other day with the adult daughter of my elderly stroke pt. She was so passive aggressive , annoying, rude and over bearing.
    She wanted me to call a code stroke overhead when he mother couldn't get a burp out after lunch. I fixed the burp situation, if u will, but she criticized me and oh so helpfully web MD educated me every moment I was in there. I am putting both shifts mildly cuz I feel a stroke coming on myself just thinking about it.
    So im from Nj but now work in tx. What I would say if I was back home would not fly. Some of these old southern belles dont like the taste of their own dish when i serve it back to them, if u will.
    Also passive aggressive ppl are my nemesis. I consider myself assertive most of the time.
    Master the art of answering annoying people as you are heading and walking out the door and then proceed to close it for " privacy". Don't be mean. Gets you nowhere.
    Don't ever say you had something along the lines of more important/ priority. She came right back at me and said " oh that's odd I didn't hear them call a code blue in this hall" GRRRR WTH. lol
    I say something along the lines of " oh wow sorry that took a bit I just had 3 fires In a row I just put out! Ha-ha, how can I help you now?"
    If that doesn't work and they are belittling me or rude, I call em out.
    " the way you're speaking to me is unacceptable . It may look like I'm wearing pajamas to work, but I am your registered nurse and expect to be treated and spoken to like the well educated professional that I am, with the same respect I give you. so that said ,would u like to try saying that again?"

    They are usually flustered and realize I won't be taken for a fool. If the problem doesn't resolve, tell your charge and or manager, document!!!! And request a different assignment next shift. My director said it is professional to acknowledge and accept when their is simply no therapeutic nurse pt relationship and the care if suffering, either that patient or your others. Some pts are rough but respond better to someone else. Sometimes it really isn't you it's them.

    I hate to say it , but I handle my patients the way I envision dealing with my future children. I am firm but funny, always thinking of their safety and my time, tell them why matter of factly when they ask and always throw a splash of guilt and fear in the mix if my not so subtle joke failed to send my message.

    Example ) post cabg pt refuses / ' forgets" to practice his incentive spirometer.
    "Sir! No one told me what a rebellious soul u are. Why have I not seen you practice your breathing? I know it hurts but we can work through the pain easier than don't really want me to have to tell your surgeon you haven't been following his treatment plan, right? * insert comical pouty face and then quick smile and put it in their hands*
    Bottom line is that humans are blessed and flawed by being autonomous . if they aren't following the plan let the DR know to see if there is an alternative instead but it isn't your job to keep someone's bipap on for 12 he's straight. You have stuff to do for people who enjoy getting well :-)
    Kill em with kidness then wall away baby.
  7. by   Esme12
    "Don't let the loud voices get ya" G.W.Bush.

    There will always be THOSE the better nurse.