2nd thoughts about being a nurse - page 4
I was so excited that after 4 grueling years of school, I got my BSN. I really thought life would be better, but it stinks. I have been working about 4 months on med/tele. I am so sick of having too... Read More
Oct 7, '06When nurses trained in hospitals they saw immediately what they were up against.
Plus the theory and philosphy of a nursing degree does not prepare you to be a handmaiden to everyone.
We help everyone - from medical to ward clerks to cleaners and kitchen staff and back again via physio, pathology, social workers et al. No-one helps us - except wardsmen. And we often dont help each other either. How do police and doctors become so "clubby" and supportive of each other but nurses take such glee in pointing out how dangerous/useless/lazy their colleagues are. The prevailing theme seems to be one of "I am the sole voice of professionalism. knowledge and reason on my ward and the place would fall apart if I werent there."
I have had my first read of some of the posts in the forum and the things nurses are saying about each other are damaging to all of us.Last edit by kaeri on Oct 7, '06
Oct 7, '06I am so glad I found this thread. Lately I have been feeling like the only person in nursing who is unhappy & constantly doubting their career choice. I have been out three years & worked in 3 different jobs. I am 31 & I feel like it is too late to do anything else, especially when I look at the debts my fiance & I have that need to be paid off. I am about to start a new job where I will essentially be like a brand new grad. I wish I could turn back time & not do nursing.
Oct 7, '06I was so frustrated when I began working in a hospital 29 yrs. ago because of the very same things you described. I lasted 10 months and then decided to work for one of the drs. He turned out to be a jerk and so I ended up working at a local LTC facility. I didn't know if I would like it but after a few months I found that I loved it! I worked about 15 yrs. in LTC and then worked 8 yrs. in clinical research at a local university and loved that too. My niece graduated a few years ago from a 4 yr. school of nursing and began working on the med/surg floor in a local hospital. She worked 3 months and quit. She said she hated it. She took off about a year and returned to work in the OR and loves it. You do have to find your niche. Good luck. Keep us informed.
Oct 7, '06Quote from smileyseniorSounds to me like you need to work for a better hospital that understands the value of a good preceptorship and what it means down the road... not to mention what it means for the safety of their patients!! This has nothing to do with nursing... just bad business.12 weeks orientation......I was taken out because some other nurses had quit and they needed staff. I figured a year was enough time to decide what I wanted to do for masters.....
Oct 7, '06Truly, if you are that miserable there, why not switch? I know you have stated you dont have children, so perhaps, (perhaps, Please dont lump me in with the persons who gave you the attitude of, "I did it with children, so what are you crying about." perhaps you could afford to take a little less money. I went through what you did, and after almost 3 months I changed to a LTC facility. I am still incredibly busy, but I have more control, I am a charge nurse. I took a cut in pay to make the move, and have had to deal with some of the attitude of "oh you poor thing, youre in Ltc." But, I am getting to know my patients, so I know what they need, I am getting respect, some days are harder than others. I am learning so much, and I dont feel like my license is a risk on a daily basis. The pay cut has been made up for by the fact that I am now 10min from work instead of 30, saving on gas and time, I dont have to park in a lot and take a shuttle to work, (another 1/2 of my precious time),and I dont have to pay for sitters cuz of my schedule. I also put in for the Baylor position, which is 3 12's, fri sat sun, with th;e rest ofthe week off, and I get paid an extra 8 plus shift differential and night (after 3) differential. So, there are other options out there! I say quit, you will find something else. You probably need a couple of weeks to get you sanity back. Dont give up, it can be so much more rewarding!
Oct 7, '06I too have 2nd thoguhts about becoming a nurse. I hated school i thought the teachers were not supoortive and ignorant to us students and i thought "oh when i'm workng it won't be this way" Then I studied my behind off and i got my license last week. I've been working for a month and a half it wasn't what i thought. I'm a pediatric nurse and i feel like i'm not responsible or smart enough to take care of these kids. And my preceptorship is a joke. i'm not being taught, I'm being told what to do and not being told the reasons/rationales... And if i asks questions my preceptor gets fustrated and does it herself. I think i move too slow (which i do, to not make mistakes) for her b/c she roles her eyes,etc. I feel like i want out of nursing. I feel like i'm disorganized and i don't have a clue whats going on and that i made a huge mistake. I love nursing but right now i feel so helpless with it.
Oct 8, '06I'm sorry for your frustrations, but it sounds like you should consider another area of nursing. However, no matter what are of nursing you work in you always have difficult people to deal with and some days that you feel like you could pull your hair out. But those days when you get smile out of a pt or a thank you from a pt's family so out weigh those crappy days.
Keep your head up and don't give up on it so easily! I know its a shock just getting out of and working in the real world, but its sooooooo worth it!
I would also suggest more than a yr in nursing before going into a master's program, esp with all of the issues you are having right now.
I love nursing; however, if I had to work in Ob or women's health I would quit! Some people are just fit better in different areas of nursing, and maybe you should seek another setting before giving it up!
Hang in there!
Oct 8, '06Hi There---If you haven't heard of this do look into the programs out there fornursing internships. Medical Colleges of VA, Johns Hopkins, LOTS of teaching institutions offer them for a year. They pair you w/ a preceptor RN and you plan out your learning experiences together. You progress at your own rate and there is much flexibility as far as assignments, trying work on other floors to see what you think without committing to them long-term. Any search engine can list them for you to look at and you can probably find one in your area. Assuming you do well you will have a position after you finish the internship. You are paid while you do this as you arehired by the facility teaching you. It speaks well for you on resume and can save your sanity and your altruism in the end. Don't allow joy robbers to ruin your calling. I found in some of the NICUs an ERs I worked in there was this clicque-like mentality and freezing the new guy out. Kind of like marking one's territory. You are better off leaving those places because they won't change. It's abusive and immature and noone needs it. Let me know if you try out the internship idea. You can't lose if you do it and the transition to "the real world" of nursing will be much less painful
Oct 8, '06Quote from smileyseniorI am not married. I dont have kids. I work 5 12 hour shifts a week and then I work 2 12 hour shifts the next week........the 5 12 week is grueling. I need a more balanced schedule..........please dont say that u have 5 kids and are married and that if u can do it then so can i. I am doing the best I can.
change your schedule, that is too much work
60 hours a week helllllllllloooooooooo are you awake???????? or did your heart stop from exhaustion. honey quittttttt!!!! you are to young to get stuck
Oct 8, '06Quote from novanurse77I too have 2nd thoguhts about becoming a nurse. I hated school i thought the teachers were not supoortive and ignorant to us students and i thought "oh when i'm workng it won't be this way" Then I studied my behind off and i got my license last week. I've been working for a month and a half it wasn't what i thought. I'm a pediatric nurse and i feel like i'm not responsible or smart enough to take care of these kids. And my preceptorship is a joke. i'm not being taught, I'm being told what to do and not being told the reasons/rationales... And if i asks questions my preceptor gets fustrated and does it herself. I think i move too slow (which i do, to not make mistakes) for her b/c she roles her eyes,etc. I feel like i want out of nursing. I feel like i'm disorganized and i don't have a clue whats going on and that i made a huge mistake. I love nursing but right now i feel so helpless with it.
This is just what the witch want you to think, this makes her feel powerful
no, you become vocal ask questions, and if she cant tell you ask her supervisor why not, or if need be find another job. Honey you are an RN
DO WHAT WE DO, TAKE CONTROL.
Oct 9, '06I'm so sad that you look nursing on the other side of the coin. I can feel your frustrations, time will come that you will value your profession. if you don't want to be in the hospital you can work on other related areas where nursing is accepted. sometimes, working in the hospital is very frustrating, but if you will work with your heart it is a blessing working with those people who are physically, emotionally and financially in need.
just take recharge your battery you might be too exhausted with your work environment! BE PROUD YOU ARE A NURSE!
Oct 10, '06I became an LPN 3 and 1/2 years ago..worked for a year then went on for my RN while still working..I have been an RN now for a year and a half and I still feel the same way you do. I LOVE taking care of my patients. I did not go in to nursing for the money, I went in to nursing because I saw how my mom was treated as a cancer patients many years ago. I thought about becoming a nurse for several years but was afraid of failure. Well, I didn't fail..I did very well in school even though I was in my early 30s before finally starting it. Actually working as a nurse or thinking that I "will make a difference" is a joke!! It's not about patient care, it's a business and all about money like every other "business". It is so sad. I have worked for agencies, Rehab, LTACC, corrections, and now hospital med/surg as a new RN. I do the same things now as I did as an LPN except a few minor things. It's all the same everywhere you go. Always short staffed, no help, lazy co workers that just put their time in, no time for the patients, computer charting, paperwork, diresprect, ungrateful demanding families and patients, stressed out co workers including myself..even those with several yrs. experience. The only thing that gets easier I think is that you don't have to think things out as much as time goes by. Things that you used to really concentrate on and think through come more naturally. Other than that, it's all the same. My biggest problem with where I work is the charge nurses and magagement. Also, too many chiefs and not enough Indians. I am looking for a different job as well. I am also thinking of going back to school and not to study nursing. I am so glad I got the ASN and didn't waste the time getting the BSN. My husband is furious that I don't want to do nursing after all we went through while I was in school, but nobody understands unless they are in the situation and a nurse themselves. It is like no other job. I DREAD going to work. My first year was HELL as a new LPN..but even now, 3 and 1/2 years later and an RN..it might be a little easier in some ways, but it still sucks and I am VERY proud to be Nurse, not because I work as a Nurse, but for what I went through to become a Nurse.